Why Put Everyone In A Box??
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
Valdosta, Georgia
December 20, 2012 11:06am CST
Okay, I cannot stand when people say all of this or that are the same...
Not all women like to shop! I don't!
Not all men like sports! My husband HATES them with a passion!
Not all over weight people eat too much!
Not all skinny people starve themselves!
Not all people with bad teeth are on drugs of some kind! I'm not!
Not all older people are crabby!
Not all nice people are weak!
Not all kind hearted people are naive or stupid!
Not all religious people shove their beliefs down your throat! I don't!
Not all rich people are snobs!
Okay, are you getting my point yet??? STOP putting people all in the same box because all people are different!
You don't know me and I don't know you so STOP judging!
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@ShadowWolf1996 (147)
• Taiwan
21 Dec 12
Have you ever seen a male dog pissing without rising his hind leg?
Have you ever seen a lion which don't eat meat?
Have you ever seen a zebra with spots not stripes?
Have you ever heard a cat howling like a wolf?
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Probably no.
So you will say lions eat meat, zebras have stripes, cats meows, dogs piss with his leg up.
Actually, I had seen them all.
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What I'm going to say is, people who put everyone in the same box is because they don't meet one who is not like that.
Don't think they are stupid or terrible or something. It's just they don't have enough knowledge and experiences.
@urbandekay (18278)
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22 Dec 12
No, but I have seen a b1tch c0ck her leg when pissing
all the best, urban
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@marguicha (219883)
• Chile
21 Dec 12
I totally agree with that
. I even hate myself when I discover that I have been prejudiced. I am not entirelly perfect yet, although I`m working on it
. I thought I had a lot of time, but now with the d**n cancer, maybe I will have to hurry. Merry Christmas, Hannukah or whatever.
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Dec 12
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@urbandekay (18278)
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21 Dec 12
Do you mean like suggesting all mean believe in a magic cleaning fairy?
all the best, urban
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@urbandekay (18278)
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21 Dec 12
Oops, I mean "all men believe..."
all the best, urban
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Dec 12
I never said all men, I said my husband...
And I know men personally that actually clean better than their wives, my uncle is one of them. So I know its not all, just most...
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@celticeagle (164045)
• Boise, Idaho
21 Dec 12
I know. That is so unfair. Not every woman is the same. Nor are men. Judging others is very unfair and unjust. It is just another way of showing that this alot of people in this country doesn't care about one another. It is sad and sort of sign of the times.
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@celticeagle (164045)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Jan 13
Sign of the times and big time business. Gossip mags are on every newstand. Judging others is not right at all and can be very hurtful.
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Jan 13
Right no two people are the same and it really annoys me to say the least! Judging others is very wrong and your right it is a sign of the times...
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@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 12
wow, you sound so angry. I got your point..
I hate people who like to judge others, too. Sometimes people are just too busybody and what you can do is ignore them. Like what you said, they don't know you, yes. So, just ignore them. You don't know them either. What is so hard in ignoring people you don't know??
Well, people won't stop. All you have to do is really shut your ear and let them talk till they run out of words to say, till their mouth is too tired to say a word, till their mind cannot find anymore words. They will shut up eventually.
I have been in your position, I think we all have been misjudged somehow...
Just go on with your life, let them be.. We cannot control them, we cannot control others. What we can control is ourselves.
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Dec 12
I am not really angry. It just annoys me so much! Lol. I'm really not angry I promise, its just that so many people think this way all the time and its truly aggravating to me.
Ignoring them would work. Something I read just hit the wrong button with me I guess.
Well, since there is freedom of speech here I can complain about it if I so choose to. Thanks!
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
21 Dec 12
Those who do this are the ones who deserve to be in that box. Its difficult enough to live outside of a box. When you're put in one by someone else, especially someone you care about, its hard to get out of it.
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Dec 12
I agree, they should be labeled as this or that and see how it feels! It is very difficult I agree...
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
21 Dec 12
I suppose we just try to live outside that box they try to put us in. Or break it open with a hammer?
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@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
21 Dec 12
I like opening boxes of presents and discover all different contents inside them. I appreciate every gifts that i received. Likewise humankinds are put in this world carrying different behavioral characteristics where no two people are the same. We should never judge but accept each and everyone as who they are. All these differences are what make life interesting. Can you imagine having everyone thinking and behaving in parallel ? That would make the world a dull and boring place to live in.
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Dec 12
I enjoy opening presents too! Your right the world would be a very boring place if we were all the same. Thank God we are different! =)
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@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
20 Dec 12
I think its just generalizing the majority of what they see but I got what you saying.
Most woman do love to shop and men love sports . I love to shop and my fiance hate sports . I have never encounter crabby old person just what most other people say .I also dont push my beliefs on other people .
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Dec 12
Yeah but it doesn't make it right. Right most women, not all. Just like not all men like sports because as I said my husband hates sports and so does your husband.
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@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
21 Dec 12
While I dislike boxes, it is sometimes a useful shortcut for people to classify others. For instance, a man meets another man. What to talk about? Well, making some comment about the most recent baseball game seems like a safe bet--a lot safer than talking about religion or politics.
If I meet someone new at services, I assume that they are Jewish (unless there is a Bar Mitzvah or Bat Mitzvah). Given the denomination, I can make certain assumptions about where they may stand on things. That gives me some clue as to how to start a conversation with this new person.
The question is not whether people stereotype others. We all do. That is essentially Psychology 101.
The question is whether one can see past those stereotypes and actually get to know other people. It is also a question of what sort of value judgments one is attaching to those stereotypes. For instance, seeing a person dressed a certain way may make you think that the person is poor; that in itself isn't a problem. However, if you treat the person badly due to classifying them in such a way, that is a problem.
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Dec 12
Well if a man approaches my husband talking about sports they are going to be sorry! Lol. He hates sports, and he doesn't like talking about them or hearing about them. So they would be in for a surprise if they did it.
Maybe that is more what I meant, the fact that people assume things and don't go beyond that to get to know someone... They just like their assumption and go by it. But the thing is, not all people are the same and not all men like sports, not all women like shopping, etc...
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@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
21 Dec 12
People should not judge other people but we do. It will never stop. It is a fact of life. It is not a good thing but you can not stop it. The best way to except is to try and ignore it! I try to and can. Not all the time but no one is perfect.
Also everyone judges people even if don't realize it. Some people are just worse then others. I think alot of people are so judgemental becasue they are just plain mean! Others do it to aviod dealing it with their own problems. Not a good thing at all!
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Dec 12
Well, maybe the first second we think to ourselves a judgement but most people think to themselves oh that was a stupid thought and they get to know the person. Unfortunately, not everyone can get past that judgement or assumption. That is when its a problem.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
20 Dec 12
I agree with you on that!
Not all people have the same attitudes or personalities. But some would just categorize certain people into such.
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Dec 12
Yeah, everyone is different! And should be treated as such...
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
21 Dec 12
Thank you, I am glad you enjoyed it. I had to say it. It was annoying the crap out of me lately! Lol. So many people think all people are the same and their not! People should realize this...
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@lifes97 (884)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Dec 12
you are right no one is like other, but there are things that men like it in general and there are things women like it, that is how we raised or our lives needs. of course no one is like the other but there things we agree on it, as men or women. yea
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Jan 13
Well, some things people like in general but to assume that all men like sports is wrong or all women like shopping is wrong. It is not the case...
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@acoustic67scouser (220)
• India
20 Dec 12
I love sports, firstly.
Now since you mentioned so many things here, it kind of makes me say "yes, stop judging people"
I remember one of my mates always used to tell me, don't be too nice to others, be aggressive like me. Well, that definitely doesn't mean that I'm "weak"? no way, I'm just that way.
I always ignore fights or quarrels, does that mean I'm a "coward" ? No, but I was born that way, and if you have the quality to ignore such things, then its a gift rather.
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Dec 12
Yeah people judge and assume things about people all the time. It gets on my nerves a lot actually...
I agree, we should be who we are no matter who likes it or not.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
20 Dec 12
Wow how refreshing to hear, that another man doesn't like sport? I am a guy and I hate sport absolutely hate it, mind you the fact that my father does and watches football, boring! probably made me more determined to hate it so much. You are right though and people are quick to judge and assume. When you assume something, you are not taking the time and effort to know for sure, it's like you are not giving the person a fair hearing. I know I have been judged throughout the years, some people find it easy to put people in boxes, yet more often or not it's the ones in glass houses that shouldn't throw the stones.
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Dec 12
Yeah my husband absolutely hates sports, he is into art. That is the only thing he is really into, no sports at all. Lol. And I definitely hate to shop! But most people think ALL women like shopping, so not true!
People do judge and assume things that they don't know. Its not right at all. People should get to know someone before thinking they know every single thing about them!
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
20 Jan 13
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Mar 13
There are so many differences in people and it annoys me so much that people think they know someone by their gender! They don't!
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@dawnald (85147)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Jan 13
My mom didn't like to shop, neither does my daughter. So much for that one anyway.
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Jan 13
I don't either! That is 4 women I know now that do NOT like to shop!
Me, my aunt, your mother and your daughter! HA! So much for all women like to shop...![](/Content/images/emotes/whistle.gif)
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
20 Jan 13
People have a tendency to put others in a 'box' in their attempt to understand their own world. I think that when they (or sometimes, I) do, it gets much easier to deal with. Unfortunately, by doing so, we're already judging people. I think the key is 'understanding' people. And to learn something more about the people. This way it becomes harder for some to dismiss them and just put them in a box.
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Mar 13
It is judging people and I try so hard not to do this or be this way. I know we all sometimes slip up and do it but we should try not to. And there are some people who do it and don't think there is anything wrong with it! Those are the people that bug me...
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
4 Jan 13
I hear what you're saying. And I totally agree. I was never one man for sports. I prefer music and technology. My girl friend is not a shopper either. She appreciates anything she gets. So I totally understand where you're coming from. We are who we are and thats just the way it is. I treat people how they treat me. We all have to get through this thing called life. And the smoothest way is always the best.
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@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
18 Jan 13
There is nothing wrong with that. If he likes art then more power to him. And if you like sports then thats cool. I like art to a degree. I never did anything with it in school. I get it from my mother, she always wanted to be an artist, but they were poor back then. But she can draw good and I can to. But mostly abstract things. And remember, art comes in many forms. Thats why I am into music so much. We are all individuals, and should be treated as such.
@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
4 Jan 13
People just think all people are the same and it annoys me so much! Just because we are of the same gender as others does make us all the same... I am very different from most women I know and my husband is very different than other men. He is into Art, he loves drawing and painting. I have always played sports, Lol.
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@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
20 Dec 12
Woopsies..calm down [/i] lovingmybabies . I'm sure not everyone is the same but this is mostly what our eyes see in general. Just forgive the person, he or she might be just be speaking of something what that person had might seen in general without even digging deeper. But then again, this place is a good site to rant on things that's annoying [i]..so by now you might be feeling better after writing down your disappointment.
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@LovingMyBabies (85275)
• Valdosta, Georgia
20 Dec 12
I am not angry, first of all at all. I am just venting. Many people do that when they are not mad at all. =) Just making an observation known is all I am doing...
I was simply stating what annoys me your correct, was not mad at all actually! I like to vent here since I have no one else to vent to! ![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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