Why Put Everyone In A Box??

Have you ever seen a male dog pissing without rising his hind leg? Have you ever seen a lion which don't eat meat? Have you ever seen a zebra with spots not stripes? Have you ever heard a cat howling like a wolf? ... Probably no. So you will say lions eat meat, zebras have stripes, cats meows, dogs piss with his leg up. Actually, I had seen them all. ---------------------------- What I'm going to say is, people who put everyone in the same box is because they don't meet one who is not like that. Don't think they are stupid or terrible or something. It's just they don't have enough knowledge and experiences.

I totally agree with that. I even hate myself when I discover that I have been prejudiced. I am not entirelly perfect yet, although I`m working on it. I thought I had a lot of time, but now with the d**n cancer, maybe I will have to hurry. Merry Christmas, Hannukah or whatever.

Do you mean like suggesting all mean believe in a magic cleaning fairy? all the best, urban

I know. That is so unfair. Not every woman is the same. Nor are men. Judging others is very unfair and unjust. It is just another way of showing that this alot of people in this country doesn't care about one another. It is sad and sort of sign of the times.

wow, you sound so angry. I got your point.. I hate people who like to judge others, too. Sometimes people are just too busybody and what you can do is ignore them. Like what you said, they don't know you, yes. So, just ignore them. You don't know them either. What is so hard in ignoring people you don't know?? Well, people won't stop. All you have to do is really shut your ear and let them talk till they run out of words to say, till their mouth is too tired to say a word, till their mind cannot find anymore words. They will shut up eventually. I have been in your position, I think we all have been misjudged somehow... Just go on with your life, let them be.. We cannot control them, we cannot control others. What we can control is ourselves.

Those who do this are the ones who deserve to be in that box. Its difficult enough to live outside of a box. When you're put in one by someone else, especially someone you care about, its hard to get out of it.

I like opening boxes of presents and discover all different contents inside them. I appreciate every gifts that i received. Likewise humankinds are put in this world carrying different behavioral characteristics where no two people are the same. We should never judge but accept each and everyone as who they are. All these differences are what make life interesting. Can you imagine having everyone thinking and behaving in parallel ? That would make the world a dull and boring place to live in.

I think its just generalizing the majority of what they see but I got what you saying. Most woman do love to shop and men love sports . I love to shop and my fiance hate sports . I have never encounter crabby old person just what most other people say .I also dont push my beliefs on other people .

While I dislike boxes, it is sometimes a useful shortcut for people to classify others. For instance, a man meets another man. What to talk about? Well, making some comment about the most recent baseball game seems like a safe bet--a lot safer than talking about religion or politics. If I meet someone new at services, I assume that they are Jewish (unless there is a Bar Mitzvah or Bat Mitzvah). Given the denomination, I can make certain assumptions about where they may stand on things. That gives me some clue as to how to start a conversation with this new person. The question is not whether people stereotype others. We all do. That is essentially Psychology 101. The question is whether one can see past those stereotypes and actually get to know other people. It is also a question of what sort of value judgments one is attaching to those stereotypes. For instance, seeing a person dressed a certain way may make you think that the person is poor; that in itself isn't a problem. However, if you treat the person badly due to classifying them in such a way, that is a problem.

People should not judge other people but we do. It will never stop. It is a fact of life. It is not a good thing but you can not stop it. The best way to except is to try and ignore it! I try to and can. Not all the time but no one is perfect. Also everyone judges people even if don't realize it. Some people are just worse then others. I think alot of people are so judgemental becasue they are just plain mean! Others do it to aviod dealing it with their own problems. Not a good thing at all!

I agree with you on that! Not all people have the same attitudes or personalities. But some would just categorize certain people into such.

Hi Loving, what an excellent post...I loved it and I totally agree because so many people seem to live in boxes therefore thinking all others are in boxes.. You really did speak the truth...thanks so much... have a good night.....

you are right no one is like other, but there are things that men like it in general and there are things women like it, that is how we raised or our lives needs. of course no one is like the other but there things we agree on it, as men or women. yea

I love sports, firstly. Now since you mentioned so many things here, it kind of makes me say "yes, stop judging people" I remember one of my mates always used to tell me, don't be too nice to others, be aggressive like me. Well, that definitely doesn't mean that I'm "weak"? no way, I'm just that way. I always ignore fights or quarrels, does that mean I'm a "coward" ? No, but I was born that way, and if you have the quality to ignore such things, then its a gift rather.

Wow how refreshing to hear, that another man doesn't like sport? I am a guy and I hate sport absolutely hate it, mind you the fact that my father does and watches football, boring! probably made me more determined to hate it so much. You are right though and people are quick to judge and assume. When you assume something, you are not taking the time and effort to know for sure, it's like you are not giving the person a fair hearing. I know I have been judged throughout the years, some people find it easy to put people in boxes, yet more often or not it's the ones in glass houses that shouldn't throw the stones.

I like to shop. I love, love sports. I'm round but I don't eat too much.I'm kindhearted but I am not naive!I agree 100% We all are different and it is up to us to get to know each other. Then all this putting i a box sh!t will stop.

My mom didn't like to shop, neither does my daughter. So much for that one anyway.

People have a tendency to put others in a 'box' in their attempt to understand their own world. I think that when they (or sometimes, I) do, it gets much easier to deal with. Unfortunately, by doing so, we're already judging people. I think the key is 'understanding' people. And to learn something more about the people. This way it becomes harder for some to dismiss them and just put them in a box.

I hear what you're saying. And I totally agree. I was never one man for sports. I prefer music and technology. My girl friend is not a shopper either. She appreciates anything she gets. So I totally understand where you're coming from. We are who we are and thats just the way it is. I treat people how they treat me. We all have to get through this thing called life. And the smoothest way is always the best.

Woopsies..calm down [/i] lovingmybabies . I'm sure not everyone is the same but this is mostly what our eyes see in general. Just forgive the person, he or she might be just be speaking of something what that person had might seen in general without even digging deeper. But then again, this place is a good site to rant on things that's annoying [i]..so by now you might be feeling better after writing down your disappointment.