Does this guy like me or not?
By bunnystarr
@bunnystarr (160)
Philippines
December 21, 2012 8:46am CST
So I have very limited experience with guys and I'm not sure if this guy likes me or not. He was a primary school classmate I haven't seen in years. We became friends again through Facebook and one day he sent me a message telling me he saw me at the mall. We found out through chat that we both like anime. He started texting me and we had great conversation and he makes me laugh and i think he's weird (i like weird people), but i'm still not sure if he likes me or not. should i stop assuming? should i stop texting? should i stop worrying? should i just watch anime?
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@cessybear (223)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
Well, I suggest that you just keep on chatting with him. If he likes you then he will say it. But some boys are like that. they just want to flirt. Lol. You should stop assuming, it's just too early to do some wild guesses. You just hold whatever you're feeling. :)
@mathewnuevo (129)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
you got it right too buddy, you know these days or maybe its in their system that being so flirty specially those boys who are very good and has a gifted tongue to give so much and very appreciative words just to make the person they are courting say yes to him, hahaha, yeah right its to early but its all up to her whether she wants an inspiration in her life for a moment or how much more a relationship that will lasts.
@cessybear (223)
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
time is important you know. You don't just ignore it. Lol. That inspiration of hers will soon have ts expiration. A relationship not built in a strong foundation never lasts. Man, guys are so flirty these days. Hahaha
@mathewnuevo (129)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
just keep friendship first with the both of you, when you see that you are feeling ease with him you find him that might meet your standards its up to you, just know when to manage failures and hearth brokes in the end, learn how to control your self in giving love too much. However if the guy is cute, well heehe what i said is still applicable, i would say nowadays some girls rushing too much when they are courted by cute guys and easily give in. Its all up to you sis. :) happy mylotting.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
It is always good to be prepared for failures. Just remember that success is just a matter of time provided that you don't stop trying.
@mathewnuevo (129)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
you got it right dude, sometimes the feel of being so ease with someone or by being so attracted to a person causes a major depression for those people who ends up with their relationships ruined which starts from cool offs that leads to break ups, from the start assurance of self submissive is very important for both of them, keeping smart is a good way too, sigh..... so difficult haha i'm not a psychologist to predict what would happen in the future with lovers, its just destiny, only destiny will lead you to someone whom you really love,
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
22 Dec 12
Hi friend, good to hear about your friendship with this guy, just stop your texting activity. If he feels a lot for it and asking reason for this, as well as sending miss your messages to you, then he likes you. Don't worry. Every thing will be good
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
That is a good suggestion vidhyaprakash_2. Don't over do it though. If you stop texting him for too long despite his texting you that he misses you, you could end up losing him instead.
@isha242 (83)
• United States
22 Dec 12
I am one who thinks that if you want something you have to go after it. So if you have feelings for him, I dont see why you wouldn't continue to text him. But if your just wondering whether or not he likes you I think you should just come out and ask. But what good is that if you don't have feelings for him. So if the case is that you have feelings for him and you are wondering whether he has feelings for you, I think you should be open and express how you feel. This will solve the problem and limit you waiting around thinking that someone shares the same feelings as you do when they may not. I say take a chance and put your self out there and stop being shy! Shyness hinders you from getting things that you may really want.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
You are right isha242. Shyness gets you nowhere, whereas openness gets you where you want to be :)
@Wolf2012 (24)
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22 Dec 12
Hi,Bunny...
From my point of view,don't be too confused ! You two can keep as normal friends for some time...just give you more time to know more about him---after all, you two hadn't seen each other for a long time; and time can change something...
As the saying goes: Jack shall have Jill. I am sure you two will have a good future if you and he loves each other a lot...
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
That's right. Time will reveal any hidden feelings. You can, however, speed up the process by discussing things openly :)
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
22 Dec 12
Yes you should stop worrying. Continue watching anime then. It might bring you closer together. And if you really like him, you must first find out things about him like is he available? Is he seeing someone and stuff like that. It's not really healthy to assume because to assume is to make an ASSaboutUandME.
@bunnystarr (160)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
hahahaha. this made me laugh! thanks for your suggestion! :3
@Tina30219 (82066)
• Onaway, Michigan
22 Dec 12
I say if he makes you laugh and you like weird people I say go for it and see where it goes if it don't work out then you will know it was not meant to be with you two. I wish you luck with this.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
That's a good encouragement Tina30219. I would say that the sooner you know where your relationship is heading the better :)
@chantalle25 (208)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
Well in that case he likes texting you, he enjoys spending time texting you. Just maintain that thing, be friends with him and just let it be, we don't know what would happen but don't expect too much so that it won't hurt you at the end.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
That's right, a guy will text a girl often only if he has some sort of interest in her. That is a good start. Only time will know whether or not the interest will grow to love.
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
22 Dec 12
Hi Bunnystar! First of all, welcome to myLot! I'm glad to meet you here.
For sure he likes you that's why he communicates with you. Maybe the question is, 'does he want you to be his girlfriend'. No one knows except you and him. Maybe you could just ask him but it's awkward I guess. If you are never sure, I think it would be nice if you stop assuming and just wait for his moves haha.
The best thing you do is the last sentence you mentioned. Peace!
@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
21 Dec 12
That a good things when you find a friend same hobby with. If he try to be friend with you should friendly with him. It is not a good thing if we do not want to treat someone who wants to be friends with us.
@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
22 Dec 12
Oh you are girl! Boy and girl can friend but if he say he loves you tell him honestly you just want to friend with him not as a couple.
@teabwoi22 (22)
• Puerto Rico
22 Dec 12
You should probably just chill a bit. WOOOSAAAHHH!!! Calm down and don't assume anything us guys hate it when a girl comes on too strong too early it kinda freaks us out,but whats clear though is that you guys have a little amount of chemistry going and that's nice. Just take you time if it is meant to be then it will happen if it isn't then it won't all you have to do is relax and just let it happen.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
True, some guys don't like girls coming too strong too early. Taking it easy is a good option indeed :))
@intelinsideyou (664)
• India
21 Dec 12
Dont stop texting and also stop assuming he likes or not. Continue with him as a friend and give some time to your relation and eventually you will find your answer.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
Agreed. Let your relationship develop naturally and the answer to your question will emerge the same way.
@IDear2Dream (140)
• United States
22 Dec 12
its best you keep it on a friend level you both could keep textin see where that takes you both .
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
That's right. By keeping in touch it will sooner or later be clear whether friends can become lovers.
@Supnetjuanpaolo646 (34)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
Begin with a friendly question to him. Do the first move, dont hesitate to ask him if he likes you. For me thats not a very bad move for a girl like you, its not about an "easy to get" thing that others believe. All people of any gender have the right to do the first move, but if you think that you and your school mate are good as friends for now, then time will keep or make a step to grow you into something.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
Yes, anybody can make the first move regardless of gender. That's what people do to take their relationship to the next level.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
It's too early to say if the guy likes you or not.
There's nothing wrong if you continue to communicate with him, it's just texting anyway.
Take time to realize your feeling and you will see how the relationship goes after.
Don't assume too much to avoid getting hurt...just be natural and enjoy the conversation.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
I think that you should just let thing be. No need to rush things. You'll know what the real score is after you give yourselves some time to really know each other.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
Don't be presumptuous my friend , lest you will be disappointed if what you are thinking isn't what it is.
Just enjoy the friendship and when he propose to you then that's the time to consider.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
Maybe he likes you. But if you're expecting something more to that. I guess you must slow down first. Just be friends with him. Never assume or expects anything because it might hurt you if something you expect to happen did not happen.
@effinmuffin (191)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
i think it's better not to assume so that you'll not hurt your feelings, just continue to be friends with him.
@lsjapdoit (651)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
You both have a good time together. What matters is that you enjoy each other's company. Good feelings will show over time and no assumption is needed :)