will you still help them?

Helping people sometimes means making them responsible for their actions. Helping does not mean being a doormat for someone, it is sometimes difficult to say no to somebody but it can also be the best help for them... By saying no more when they abuse you you may help them change their way and become a better person.

You don't need to continue to help people when they take advantage of you. You are there to give them a 'hand UP' not a 'hand OUT' and so, you can help them get back on their feet but after that, they are on their own. Perhaps, at this point, you can suggest that they seek professional help and counseling. That way, you are still 'helping' them but directing them to seek the help they really need.

I don't think I understand, I don't buy anyone a gift that I don't like, its just that simple...Why on earth would you stress yourself with an issue like this... People only use you when you allow it...Wake up and smell the coffee...because there is always a tomorrow...meaning it will continue if you allow it...tomorrow and the next day and so on....

I have a friend who has that trait, He just used us (his friend) just to satisfy his needs and mostly keeping us as his friend because he knows that he can take full advantage of us regardless if it’s financial, intellectual, or other help he needs. That friend of mine was such a user, at first he comes to you with the intent of making genuine friendship but in return, he was just filling up the “friendship” because he just needs you to solve his problem. After we realized that he was such a pain in our friendship circle, we didn’t mind him and ignored him. And after that, we confront him about his acts, he felt guilty and never come back to us again.