what do you feel if..........
By humairaku
@humairaku (2038)
Indonesia
December 22, 2012 2:53am CST
hi lotters..
I was so anxious recent days. not because of something terrible but because of something small but bothers me. i had given responses to some discussions here and i write a lot in every response. yeah of course i did it to get much payment form Mylot. lol. i'm very selective in choosing discussion cos i only want to respond to a discussion I desire and understand about the problem/content. i seldom give response to discussion which is discussing about another religions, politics in one country, or people i don't know cos i wont be able to give any single sentence to them. so if I found a good discussion, i like to write a lot to express my idea and opinion and then i expect my response gets a feedback from mylotter cos sometime I ask about something to them and i really want to know the answer. but i found that most of them didn't reply my comment while they reply to other comments, even comment came after me. it is bothering me and makes me thinking, why they didn't reply my comment? is it because my long comments or else? i really don't understand and it makes me so anxious. I feel my existence is not respected..what do you think about this matter? have you ever had experience like me? thanks for sharing..
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14 responses
@deazil (4730)
• United States
22 Dec 12
Hi, humairaku, that has happened to me quite some time ago. Two very long time members commented on all the other responses except mine. This happened a few times with them. My responses were not disagreeable or anything like that. I just stopped responding to their discussions. But it bothered me for a while. jaiho has given very good advice. She always does. But you see how you and her have chatted back and forth? That's very good. I like to do that to. But many times when you comment on a response the responder never comes back. I usually will always come back, if I get the notification.
Mavic (above) tried to do that by asking a question of the responder and furthering the discussion, as the guidelines suggest. But they seldom come back. I hope you continue to enjoy mylot and make many friends (and some money, too!)
Mavic (above) tried to do that by asking a question of the responder and furthering the discussion, as the guidelines suggest. But they seldom come back. I hope you continue to enjoy mylot and make many friends (and some money, too!)3 people like this
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 12
hey, what I'm realizing now is that I'm not the one..lol..
i sometimes find that my responses get feedback from the author then i reply back, but that the author doesn't reply back to my reply. but still it's better than tehy skip my comment since the beginning. and i agree with what deazil said that they are busy dropping comments to here and there..lol..actually being active in our own discussion is better cos we get some advices or opinion from others. while if we are active in other discussion and we should give opinion on their problems, it is also tiring. so why don't be active in our own discussion then? 
i won't give up, mavic. i will keep responding no matter what they have done to me. all of you have cheered me up..
i won't give up, mavic. i will keep responding no matter what they have done to me. all of you have cheered me up..2 people like this
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
22 Dec 12
some Miss Deazil really don't come back though. it was not because we missed the notifications but we they just don't come back to explain further on their views.
Yes, Humairaku... don't feel bad about it. Life goes on and so does mylot. 
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@sishy7 (27167)
• Australia
22 Dec 12
Yes, I have experienced being singled out. All responses above and below mine were eventually acknowledged except mine. It did and probably still do bother me. I learned to move on though. I keep enjoying my time here and I just avoid that user altogether.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Dec 12
sishy I have also had this happen and finally I just stopped giving resp onses to this persons discussion as I felt I had wasted my time. it does bother me when I really work at a good response and the other person ignores me completely.
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@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 12
hi all..thanks for participating in my discussion..
i think we have same feeling when someone skipped our comments, and i really curios why they did it. some people here said maybe they are busy. if they are busy, why they replied comments coming after ours? if they are busy they should not reply all comments..
..but i just let it go. and unfortunately, i don't remember who did it to me. i can't remember the name of the owner of the discussion. so i think i may have same treatment someday if i respond to same person..
i think we have same feeling when someone skipped our comments, and i really curios why they did it. some people here said maybe they are busy. if they are busy, why they replied comments coming after ours? if they are busy they should not reply all comments....but i just let it go. and unfortunately, i don't remember who did it to me. i can't remember the name of the owner of the discussion. so i think i may have same treatment someday if i respond to same person..1 person likes this
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
Honestly there are other mylotters who are selective when it comes to responding.
They do not respond to every comment that they receive and only choose the box they want to respond/comment back.
Don't feel bad, just keep mylotting and go to next topic.
Besides, the more you type the more earn...it's not you lose if the topic discussion won't respond or comment back to your comment.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
thanks four your supportive comment. it boosts my mood. yea, frankly speaking i ever did like what they did, i didn't reply comments i got in my discussion but at least i NEVER skip one's comment..! why i didn't reply cos sometimes i was bored to respond which it talks about same thing simultaneously. so sometimes i took a break for a while then i replied them one by one till. but fr my discussion i got plenty comments, i didn't reply all cos it was tiring. yeah, maybe it is a kind of punishment for me for what i did in the past..
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
I was here for 4 years already and I never skipped a single box to my topic.
I always try my best to respond to everyone.
I understand that sometimes it's tiring when you are responding to every boxes especially if most comments sound like the same...so, it's fine to respond with same words again and again (but not totally the same response to every boxes).
Even a single sentence is enough to show that you appreciate the response given to your topic.
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@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
you're kind person then....we get two advantages by doing like what you're doing, first we are respected by others cos what we did reflects who we are (we ares willing to respect others, means that we are kind people). second we get higher rating for our activeness and of course payment cos we write. i try to be as kind as you but sometimes the boredom kills me. but believe me, i am seldom being stuck on boredom. i ever got about 50 comments n one discussion and i replied all of those comments..
..i try the best actually..
..we get two advantages by doing like what you're doing, first we are respected by others cos what we did reflects who we are (we ares willing to respect others, means that we are kind people). second we get higher rating for our activeness and of course payment cos we write. i try to be as kind as you but sometimes the boredom kills me. but believe me, i am seldom being stuck on boredom. i ever got about 50 comments n one discussion and i replied all of those comments....i try the best actually..2 people like this
@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
I've been there many times! At first I felt irritated, but then to hell with it. I will give the respond just because I want to. And if they keep doing it, then I would not respond to any of their discussion no matter how good it is. Just read all the responds and move on to other discussions. Besides, there so many good discussions here.
At first I felt irritated, but then to hell with it. I will give the respond just because I want to. And if they keep doing it, then I would not respond to any of their discussion no matter how good it is. Just read all the responds and move on to other discussions. Besides, there so many good discussions here. 2 people like this
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
so you think I'm too sensitive, right..?? lol..lol..it has been becoming my question along recent days and i won't be able to sleep if i haven't shared what i feel (sounds too much for you? fr me too..lol). yeah, if they don't want to reply my response actually it won't kill me so i needn't to be this sweaty, but the question keeps buzzing in my brain till i wrote this discussion..you're right, keep moving on and ignore them..
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@MissPiggy (1748)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
@Humairaku: Yes, you worry too much. Well, I hope you feel so much better now and won't think about anything else. 
@Mavic123456: Thank you! I think my head is getting bigger!
Well, I hope you feel so much better now and won't think about anything else.
@Mavic123456: Thank you! I think my head is getting bigger! 1 person likes this
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
22 Dec 12
Miss Piggy you are here.. you are one of my favorites...
I agree, just move on
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@thewonderboy (7501)
• India
22 Dec 12
May be the mylotters may be busy and this might be the reason why some of them comment to you. Anyway don't get discouraged keep going. Don't feel even bad when some of them don't love you but remember that there are some who loves you.
Happy Mylotting
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@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 12
i don't mind at all if i don't get any responses for my discussion cs we can't force someone to give comments to our discussion. so i can understand it very well. but when my response, to OTHER discussion is being skipped, it really emerges question in my mind, why it could be? why the author replied to all responses he/she got except mine? i think it is normal reaction cos we feel he/she ignored us. thanks for your support, I feel much better now after sharing my feeling with people here..
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
22 Dec 12
Maybe some of them aren't really knowledgeable about the topic you propose thus they cannot give proper advice for you. Maybe thebest my litter hasn't stumbled upon your questions yet. It's best to just give it time and move on. There aren't any right or wrong answers in here, just perspective.
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@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
pardon me, Nursef, but it is not about my discussion which didn't get any responses from other mylotters, but it is about my response I wrote to other discussion which didn't get feedback, meanwhile other responses got feedback from the owner of the discussion. and the most hurt is that my response was being skipped. she/he gave feedback to other but not to my response. only mine which didn't get feedback..
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@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
i don't want to change people, I'm just asking why and some of these responses i get today represent what probably the answer of those who didn't reply my responses. all responses i get today really open my eyes, and of course give me strength to keep active and ignore the matter..thank to you too for your positive response..
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@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
22 Dec 12
I admire your enthusiasm and your dedication to the people in here. I think you should focus on the other stuff worth your energy and enthusiasm, this will probably make you feel better and make you more productive. People will be people, they will always do what they want, you cannot change them, but you can change yourself. If you don't feel good about them, you don't have to dwell on it. There are more things that You deserve and that deserve you.
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
8 Jan 13
I can't speak for others but for myself, I do try to respond to each and every person who takes the time to respond to my discussions or to my responses on other discussions. I would never want anyone to feel as you do now. Maybe others are more selective and only respond to their friends??? I really don't know but I don't think you should feel bad about it.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 13
i really wondered at the furst time. actually i never knew about this cos i seldom visit discussions i ever responded. and someday i felt so stuck in starting discussion so i visited all discussions i respond then i found thing like this. i was so anxious so i shared my feeling here. but then i realized that im not the only one being skipped by others. knowing this really relieved me cos i was questioning to myself what's wrong with my reponse? why mine was skipped while others were replied? but now i know that it common hapenned to other. now i can be more relax facing thing like this. thanks for support..:)
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Dec 12
humairaku its really rather rude to make discussions and not bother to comment back on our responses at all as you make a discussion you should esxpect us to respond and then you to comment back on our responses. do that and you will 'get
more posts back to you as you are furthering your discussion and appreciating us for our input by your giving us your input on what we said.People likd ti be
recognized for their respoonses by you telling us what you think. t ake the time
as it pays well to you.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 12
i think the same like you. i just wonder why they start a discussion, give an issue but then they ignore responses they get. yeah being busy is good reason why they do that but skipping is not too good. it emerges suspicion why they did it. it sometimes also irritates. but i hope they someday understand that reply back to responses we get is also paid..
@sulynsi (2671)
• Canada
1 Jan 13
I know what you mean humairaku.
If I take the time to respond to them, they could reply to me.
However, I know there have been times I just didn't know what to say and some think you shouldn't just say thank you for posting.
I don't know what the best way is.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
4 Jan 13
sometimes i also had same problem like you that im suddenly stuck and dobt know what to say to reply back the responses. if i find myself stuck, i will quit from mylot for a while. i visit another sites to refresh my mind. or i just left the internet to do real activities at home. i usually feel fresher when i visit mylot and i will be able to find words to reply responses..little tip from me, friend. you may try it..:)
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
23 Dec 12
I feel the same like you. I like to join in discussions where the the discussion starter will respond to the comments I make. I am not sure why some members like to initiate a lot of discussions but never bother to engage in the "DISCUSSIONS" that they started. It is even worse if they response selectively.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 12
couldn't agree more, jkct. we can conclude that they just started a discussion cos they want to be paid but they didn't care whether their discussion will get response or not. ups, I'm sorry for my bad words but i really don't understand why they did it. yeah, i have asked many times in this discussion and it seems that nobody could answer but at least i know that actually some of them ever felt disappointed like i did..glad to know that I'm not all alone..lol..
@else22 (4317)
• India
23 Dec 12
I am sorry to say you are thinking wrong.Try to view the matters with the eyes of other mylotters.They may be busy.Or if they are not busy than certainly all or at least most of them try to respond to as many discussions as they can in the time they have at their disposal.May be they don't have the time to read long responses.So please,don't think your comments are not being honored.
@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 12
i try to reply all responses i got for my discussion. maybe i won't do it in one day but in two days or more but i will. i ever got more than 50 comments for a discussion and i replied all of them, one by one. and i kept replying when they replied back to my reply, then we had a kind of chatting till we're done. you may check to my profile. yeah, sometimes I'm bored to write so i left some responses not replied. but I NEVER skip comments. i will reply from response no 1, 2, and so forth. I do this to show my respect and appreciation to those who have given me their responses. like i do today, you ay check that i replied all responses i get today, yours included..
@Eng92nina (19)
• United Arab Emirates
22 Dec 12
I think it is somthing normal at the beginning.. cos I have experinced that in other website ..so I'm new her but I hope U do not face what you faced
Thank you for this discussion ^__^
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@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 12
welcome to mylot, dear. i hope you can enjoy here. it is very good site and I'm sure you will be stay here for a long time like me and some members here. i have been here for almost four years and i haven't been bored yet..lol..
thanks f your support. i just want to share what I'm feeling and i find that some members have same problem like me. so i don't need to be anxious now cos I'm not the one being ignored by other mylotters..lol..
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@greenthumb018 (595)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
Sometimes I don't reply to their comments because I'm thinking about what they said and reflect if what they said is the right thing to do. SOmetimes I reply to those I think gave the best answer. I'm lazy to reply to all of them but I'm reading all of their comments and thankful at the same time that they try to help me weigh the situation I posted.
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@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
absolutely tiring and boring. lol. but we shouldn't give up to reply all responses we get cos when we write a discussion, what we expect actually, getting responses right? but when you get those responses why we seem reluctant to reply them? yeah, we are only people. we sometimes don't do our obligation, so it does make a sense if we ignore something like this. piece of cake, right? ..
so you choose which response you want to reply and which response you don't want to reply though they are in the same discussion?
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so you choose which response you want to reply and which response you don't want to reply though they are in the same discussion?1 person likes this
@Supnetjuanpaolo646 (34)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
I think you should be thankful and not to be judgemental to others,there are people that always respond to other discussion, but not all of them have time to respond, its because they have their own discussion to respond.
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@humairaku (2038)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
ups, I don't judge anyone..i just shared what I'm feeling. and my discussion is not about my DISCUSSION but it is about RESPONSES i wrote to others discussion which was skipped by the owner of the discussion. I'm sorry if i can't express my idea very well so you misunderstood to what i wrote in this discussion. it must be my limited English..
PS. I always be thankful to every responses I got for every discussion i wrote. and i try to respect the writer of those responses, and to show my thank to them, by replying to every response i got..
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