Relatives & Other People...Why Oh Why!

Charity begins at home. Yes, this is true, that you offer and extend hands to first people nearest to you when they need to be lifted and to be saved. However, sometimes, in some scenarios, relatives just took advantage of generous another relative. I know some family issues that these happen. unfortunately the one who is helping put in a very compromising situation and turn out to be the bad ones. There is also some instances when the needy relatives will think that they don't need to find for other solutions to their problems because there will be someone in the family that will help them anyway. But if helping others just to glorify self, then those are not good intention and motives.

Honestly I don't know the perfect answer for that we have the same situation .. ever since, My aunt gets mad to my mother till now when my mother argue to her friendS.Everyday was emotionally torture. She keep on gossiping about my mother. while when she was in trouble my mother is the only one who save and rescue her.When she was in misery no friends help her all her friends judge her and ignore her. It s my mother who doesn't leave her.Although my mother usually nag but her heart is big.Now she recovered again from such situation Now as usually when she was in good situation she gain new friends whom she always treat, feed and let stay with her house although almost all is just fooling her and only wants to get money from her. Now she ignore my mother treat like a rag again. she helped many friends ever since without anything in return. but You know when she help my mother before but with limitation and you must put something in return like "labor".she only a user .. sometimes you know I feel like killing her for her evilness. but since I don't want to go to hell and I know I will be in prison and she is still my aunt.I still control my emotion.Even to us her niece she treated us like that.she is very open in helping others than us. and whenever we fall she is not affected.It seems like she is happy. I am also there when she was in vain. I give all the best i can do always to help her. but he never care for what what we have done to her.but still other people is important to her.She'd never learned for what happened to her. haven't she realize if she comeback to such worst situation again we are still here- her family who will still support and protect her. but you see. how evilness she come back. I don't know if her heart do function normally or how can i also answer your question.i DON'T know what kind of Psychiatric disease is this because this is not normal. but I am sure she don't have conscience.

This is the very reason why ever since, my family and i are never dependent on relatives. It was never our relatives who helped us in our most needed times... It was more of my mother's best friend that has helped us through. I think manny relatives would not want to help with their fear that you get to depend on them altogether and since you are relatives you won't be shy to extend the favor and so on.. (just my opinion though).

ha ha There is no such rule dear, we help our relatives first and then think about others. Moreover, it depends on our relationship. All may say, blood is thicker than water so the blood relation is stronger. But in my opinion love and concern is the first thing to measure. If some people are there as our relatives never care us then what? So I have so many people in my life in this way. Even with my hubby, some keep on constant touch even they are distant relatives, but these distant relatives have close relatives, why they choose my hubby's comfort. So it is very clear, people will be stay where they get love, concern and respect. If the relatives are good and caring we won't think twice to help them in their needs.

hello amiga I am grateful that I don't have relatives around me. No- I am not saying that I am proud of it, but just like what you wrote- sometimes it hurts when our relatives neglects to help us. In my situation, I live far from my family and relatives. But I am thankful that my family is always there when I needed them. I also have friends who never let me down- I can say that I am very lucky to have friends whom I can rely on in times of trouble. I don't even need to say a word to ask for their help. They always come on time- as if they feel that I needed them. Same thing my family- my mom is always supportive- ever since and until now. I know that it hurts when the first people we think will help us- are the ones who are pushing us down. I hope you are fine...and doing great my dear

I think that family members should care for other family members without asking questions and without waiting to be asked. I also think that any church affliation the person has, should also be a source of help. If one attends church, synagogue, or the temple, then I think fellow worshippers should be tuned in enough to know if they need some type of assistance and should render that assistance without waiting for the person to ask. We should also do our aide without expecting any kind of payment or praise. This should be considered a normal part of our life. Historically, the worst thing that could happen to a person was to be bereft of family. Survival depended on having others to help. We should still have that as part of our lives even though one can now exist without aide due to the charity care our society has.

My FIL has same habit whenever any family members need anything not only money but for any work then they are ready for helping. But my danger and sweet hubby and I also ask him why you do this for all but they will not help us if required wait and watch.