how to know that your girl/boy didn`t cheat you?
By adhyz82
@adhyz82 (36249)
Indonesia
December 22, 2012 6:16am CST
had ever you know that when you hug her/him, his or her heart with you?
do you believe when they say that they said they love you, they hug you, they smile to you and they spend some time in one day?
12 responses
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
22 Dec 12
it is simple. trust your instinct and feel it. you are the only one who can really tell if someone is cheating on you or not
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
then you will be free from any suspicions. but, at the same time who may not be able trust yourself either. i have known someone once who said "you can be friend to anyone. but trust no one"
@erricgunawan (611)
• Indonesia
22 Dec 12
No, we can't.
We just have to trust each other.
When we can't do that already, then it means it's over, cheated or not cheated... 
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@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
23 Dec 12
I am not sure if I want to know. It will be the cruelest feeling when you know the person you love the most is no longer feeling the same like you. But when it happens it usually is like what a volcano will erupt - it will give ample warnings of rumblings and clouds of ashes before it really comes out in the open.
Maybe that is not too bad after all if we look back after sometime. If a relationship does not work, it is better that we go our separate ways. If the relationship is an everlasting one, then we should have trust and faith in it with no questions asked.
@jkct02 (2874)
• Kota Kinabalu, Malaysia
26 Dec 12
Every person who has been in love deeply will feel that it is the end of the world when his/her lover has changed his/her feeling for him/her. I am lucky that I have not had such experience but I can imagine. No, the first choice for a not-so-smooth relationship is not to separate. It is to find out what is wrong. It is to find out what can be done so that the relationship can be in more harmony. But when a lover has no more feeling for him/her, there is nothing anyone can do.
@GajaGamini (1067)
• India
22 Dec 12
Trust is key of luck. if you cannot trust or you are always suspecious about your partner then it will never work. love is strong as well as fragile. love can make us strong as well as weak.
@GajaGamini (1067)
• India
23 Dec 12
first of all sorry . its not luck it is love.
feeling unsecure is normal in relationship becauae we fear to loose our partner and share our love.
if I began to untrust my partner then there would reason behind it or there would some incidents that make us think about our partners honesty and reliability. i would think first about the situation and i would check, Am I getting it in a wrong way or missunderstanding.
Some there is possibility of cheating that time we should ask him or her about it first. we can ask our mutual friends as well about our partner.
@GajaGamini (1067)
• India
23 Dec 12
another thing I would like to point out is whether he or she does small, small things to make you happy? does he involve with family? these are the things which can tell us that he is serious.
the only thing to check his or her loyaluty is sting operation...... lol.
@Jennlee3 (292)
• United Kingdom
28 Dec 12
If you don't feel there has been an affair then maybe there hasn't been. If you do feel, then I guess you either have a legitimate reason to be suspicious or you're insecure. Either way, communication is key. The best thing to do is to have a calm, well thought out, respectful conversation with her. If you two can't be honest and communicate, that is a problem regardless of is she cheated or not.
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
29 Dec 12
Just need the trust. We will not know how someone's feelings, will not know, if someone is cheating or not. All just a belief. Do not be too in love with someone, because it will make you hurt. If you love someone, you should be prepared for heartbreak. Pure love, and never cheat, is the love of God to us.
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
2 Feb 13
hi,
i could say that i am not very sure on this,now a days both of them could cheat their partner,in my experienced we can not see if they cheating us,they will keep it a secret,even my ex-partner says he loved me or even he hug me he still did it.
@ryanong (9665)
• Vietnam
23 Dec 12
based on their actions. if he/she said that he/she loves you and miss you so much but they send msg 1 time a weak or sometime they have time for you but sometime they don't have time for you for long...something is strange...then we should doubt about it..
@ethnicbilly (160)
• Indonesia
27 Dec 12
Women heart is as deep as the ocean but men's belief is more than the universe.
Love is a matter of belief. If you belief that you love some one than you love someone. If you belief that you can be with her than you can be with her. If you belief that she is yours than she will give all of her heart for you. You simply can decide your belief in your love. It's sound simple but complicated.
Marriage people always have to maintain their belief in love with their partner. If they don't so the marriage will end
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
23 Dec 12
Trust your gut feeling, your instincts. Listen to what he is not saying.
Does he talk about a future with you? That is one way to tell if the other person is committed to you. Is there a future for the two of you?
Does he do things for you when he is away from you? Such as order flowers and have them send to you. Does he phone, text, or email you? Does he think of you when you are apart from each other?
It is not in the words, but in the little things that you can tell if he really is there for you.
thank you so much for your sharing...