She made an appointment only for her..
By besweet
@besweet (9859)
Ireland
December 22, 2012 6:35pm CST
I was talking with one of my girl friends last Friday and we both said that we want to get our nails professionally done for Christmas. I said that we can put the manicure appointments together because the manicurist lives far and it would be convenient to go there together. One of us would take the first appointment then let her nails dry while the other one has the manicure. It's a busy period so my friend called to see if that lady was available for Sunday. She made the appointment for tomorrow but yesterday she called me and said that the something happened and the manicurist might be out of town on Sunday.
Today I heard that she moved her appointment for this afternoon and she would have her nails done in the afternoon. But when we talked, she didn't mention that, she only said that both appointments might be cancelled and she would let me know if it is final. Now I feel angry with her because she found a time for her and left me out without mentioning that on the phone, I learned it from someone else! We were talking about it all week and she left me out when she found this time for her nail treatment, if she had told me that it happened this way, I would be fine with it but now she arranged it just for her and it's too late for me to go somewhere else, everyone is full. She hasn't called me yet to let me know that my 5 pm appointment is cancelled.
What should I do, should I tell her that I am angry with her or let it go and become a bit distant? I don't want to fight with her but I don't trust her any more and to be honest, I didn't like the fact that she didn't say anything. I really wouldn't mind if she had told me herself when it happened.
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@mhaiXCs10s (619)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
That is something irritating... Well, if I were you I will let it go for now but never trust her again. Even I feel that I am totally pissed off still I will calm myself for I will give credits to our friendship. And if I can't take her attitude anymore then I will tell her that I don't like her doings in a very sensible way in just like giving her an advice.
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
25 Dec 12
Yes but if I can't trust her I wouldn't be able to consider her as my friend like I used to. She is not one of my best friends but he hang out together a lot. That's why I would like to let her explain he point of view!
I finally did my own manicure and yesterday and it looks good so I don't care so much about the cancelled appointment any more!
Thank your for your comment! Merry Christmas!
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
26 Dec 12
My grown daughter and I like to get our nails done together. It is one of our mother-daughter times together. But this Christmas, it just wasn't possible. I had a Christmas party to attend and needed (not just wanted) to get my nails done before this party. So, I went ahead but I told her that it doesn't look like we are going to be able to make arrangements together.
What is important is the communication. And I understand your frustration, not that you weren't able to go together but the lack of communication.
So, just accept that next Christmas, don't even bother to try to get your nails done at the same time as your friend.
I would communicate - in a matter of fact way - without the emotion or anger, that you were disappointed that there had to be so many changes in the appointments and that the two of you weren't able to have a girl's time out with getting your nails done at the same time. Tell her, in a very calm voice, that next holiday, that you think it is best if you just met for coffee rather than trying to arrange nail appointments together. That gets what you have to say, which is important that she knows how you feel and what a position she put you in. But you say it in a very 'matter of fact' way. And the next holiday, you will need to be in control of the situation. Suggest that the two of you met for coffee instead.
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
29 Dec 12
Thanks, that's actually very good advice. I spoke with her and she also accepted the fact that she should have texted me about the changes. But I have made a decision and I will arrange my appointments by myself from now. And we can make plans for coffee or a drink later with my friend and catch up.
That is a very cute habit that you have with your daughter! It sounds very nice to make your nails together!
Happy New Year :)
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
23 Dec 12
That was rude of her. However, I don't know if this slight rises to the level of deserving a full-out war.
If it were me, I would try to be casual and off-handedly mention how disappointing it was that I did not have the chance to spend that time with her doing what we had planned. Then, I would make a point of making lots of plans with other friends and forgetting her for a while.
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
23 Dec 12
I don't want to.fight but I don't want to let it go either! I will mention that it was selfish of her because I want her to know that it wasn 't ok.with me! But I also think it shouldn't become a huge subject, I will keep my distance for a while but I would like to know how she thought of it first!
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
Your friend is very selfish. I wouldn't want to be friends with a person like that. If I were you I am going to show her that I can still have my nails done without her. Go ahead and go to a beauty parlor and see to it that you choose something with design so she will get jealous.
@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
23 Dec 12
I will probably have to painth them myself now. I am good at applying the nail.polish, my concern is about the shape! The manicurist makes a great shape that I can.never create on my nails.. Yes, I will tell her how.I feel but I will be calm and I will try to discuss it. I am interested in hearing her point of view! She has shown me some signs that she might be selfish with others but she had never acted this way with me. I know her since we were little kids at pre-school but we were never really hanging out together.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
I know that you might have been upset upon knowing that. But, I say that you just let it pass. It's almost Christmas. Let love rule .
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
24 Dec 12
Hello! Thanks for your comment! I would do that if I wasn't upset with her! Since I have those feelings I should let her know because then I will have to supress those feelings and act like everything is fine. My other alternative is to become distant which is probably my first reaction every time I am angry with someone! But I am trying to overcome my feelings and discuss it!
Merry Christmas to you too! x
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
23 Dec 12
sorry to hear that. seems she isnt much of a good friend after all. I would have never done that to a friend. Take care, merry xmas to you there.
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
24 Dec 12
Yes, I wouldn't do that either! I think I would prefer to tell the truth, that it is cancelled and I found an appointment for me but the rest of the day is already booked.
The point is that we could have made individual appointments fand everything would work fine because I would have booked mine for Friday which is what I wanted in the first place. But we said we should go together and then decided that Sunday would work well for both since we had free time in the afternoon!
I feel a bit dissapointed with the way she handled the situation.
@dainy1313 (2370)
• Leon, Mexico
23 Dec 12
Hello besweet I imagine how sad, angry
, confused, and frustrated are you feeling. Because she you concidered her as a friend.
I think she acted in a selfish way. If she you really appreciate her, and don´t want to loose her friendship, you must tell her you are angry.
But if she is only just another friend, and you can substitute her, just let her go.
Be happy darling! It´s Christmas.
Blessings besweet... dainy
besweet I imagine how sad, angry, confused, and frustrated are you feeling. Because she you concidered her as a friend.
I think she acted in a selfish way. If she you really appreciate her, and don´t want to loose her friendship, you must tell her you are angry.
But if she is only just another friend, and you can substitute her, just let her go.
Be happy darling! It´s Christmas.
Blessings besweet... dainy1 person likes this
@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
24 Dec 12
Hello!
Well, I have calmed down now but I still want to let her know that I was confused and angry from her actions. I haven't seen her yet and she hasn't told me what happened herself. I texted her asking about our appointment and she texted back saying that it is cancelled without mentioning that she had her nails done already! I think she is not handling it very well and when we meet at Christmas night I will ask her about her nails and I'll give her the opportunity to be honest. Then, it will depend on her reaction. She doesn't know that I already know what happened and I really hope she won't lie about it.
We are not best friends but we spend a lot of time together and she is part of my group of friends.
Merry Christmas to you and your family dainy!
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@randomarts09 (1405)
• Indonesia
23 Dec 12
I think, you need to let her know that you're angry, and still forgive her if it's okay with you. At least she know that you're angry with her. If you decide to let it go, she may not know that you're angry with her, you have to show her that her behaviour is unacceptable, because it seems that she only think about herself by have found the time to go to manicurist for herself but not you and not let you know until it's too late.
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@besweet (9859)
• Ireland
24 Dec 12
I think she is intentionally keeping it a secret from me, even though I texted her yesterday asking what happened with our appointment. So I will definitely let her know that I already know what happened and that I was annoyed, but first I will give her the opportunity to tell me her point of view.
@Eng92nina (19)
• United Arab Emirates
23 Dec 12
Since the new year is coming , I think you should forget about it now and have great time .Bu tell her that you know what she did on the right time and that she should make up for you like next time make her pay for the nails treatment as an apology..
I will do it if my friend do that to me too.
so enjoy the new year ^^
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