i Want to Get Married...soon..any one's interested.?? ;)
By Nithin786
@Nithin786 (48)
India
11 responses
@flpoolbum (2978)
• United States
23 Dec 12
Unless you have a family history of extremely short lifespans, relax. You are way to young to worry about getting married. Enjoy life! Do things that you want to do. Whether it's going to school, traveling, taking cooking or hobby classes or whatever. Enjoy life. If you are happy, confident and take good care of yourself love come along eventually.
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@habibti320 (925)
• United States
23 Dec 12
Hello Nithin
What makes you say that you are at the turning point in your life and have arrived at marriage time? Do most guys in your culture get married at 22?
All the best to you!
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@victorywp (3524)
• United States
24 Apr 13
hi Nithin786,
marriage is not something that you must do at a fixed year or a fixed stage in your life. you must not rush to find a bride just for the sake of getting married. take your time to find your love at your own pace so that it would be a true and long-lasting love.
all the best to you!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
24 Dec 12
I think that you should not be rushing things. It is much better if you will focus more of your time in preparing for your future. The right person will come along.....at the right time.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
16 Jan 13
I assume you already made your fortune? You have a good job, made carreer, have savings so you are able to take care of a wife and children? It's very hard to believe to me that a 22 year old boy is ready to get married. What are your life experiences? Are you able to be responsible? To give up your own hopes, dreams already and sacrifice yourself for your wife and children? At the age of 22 most people over here don't even have finished their education yet, so do not have a profession they studied for or have a steady job. You better start workig instead of others asking to pray for you and sit there an wait.
@misjoseph (162)
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27 Dec 12
well you should not worry about your age for now because if you are in search looking for someone that might be a rush and you might not find the right person you really want or need into your life... please try to avoid making mistakes just for pleasure or to be happy... good things don't come fast or easy...
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
23 Dec 12
Oh you are young! Don't be in such a rush. I am 28, and I am still with the same man I have been seriously dating for five years. I love him, but we are not ready to get married yet. I want a career and he needs a stable job. We both need to be stable before we ever get to that stage.
Be realistic. Let love find you, and don't just go for anyone. Have standards! If you go for just anyone, then you will end up being with the wrong person, and I know you don't want that.
I waited. I fell in love when I was 22, but I have been dating my boyfriend for a long time because we are not ready to head down the aisle. First of all, you need money (you both are going to need a place to live in, and a way to take care of yourselves), you need stability (again, make sure you can take care of yourselves), and you need to make sure that you have your priorities and affairs in order (meaning you both know what you are walking into, and you both know what you want in this relationship, don't just settle for anything otherwise that person will walk all over you). You don't want to go into a relationship with someone who doesn't have it together, and you don't want to be the person who doesn't have it together.
Also, getting married isn't everything. Sometimes, the relationship can go sour, and what will you do then? If you wait, then you might get more of what you want. Try to be logical about marriage because it is a huge step. Once you get married there is no turning back, unless you get an annulment or a divorce, and those can be a pain as well. Marriage is a social construct, and isn't what you always think it is. If you don't know what you are getting into, then you might end up getting what you don't want, and you might end up being miserable for it.
There are many unhappy married couples out there. Think about that while you are wishing to get married. Think about all of the people who got married too soon or got married to the person that they thought they knew, and then they ended up not being happy for some reason or another.
My cousin is 31 and her fiance is in his late 30s, and they are getting married next year. She waited because she, like me, didn't want something that could end up being a mistake. She loves the man that she is with, and he equally loves her back, and you can tell that they would make a wonderful married couple. You can see it.
I have seen both great relationships, and relationships that were some of the worst relationships known to humankind. Don't end up being one of the worst. Make smart decisions, be clear on what you want, and the rest will come.
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
23 Dec 12
You are very young, enjoy your bachelorhood....getting married is not the ultimate goal in this life...but in your case, there are a lot of years to spend being single and enjoy the life of being single, once you got married, everything will change and you can not turn back anymore, so enjoy your single life for the meantime.
@nani4ajay (108)
• India
24 Dec 12
Are you well settled? if yes than go ahead otherwise take step to have stable life, now a days to lead life happily every one needs stable income, that you can face any economical problem in future, so that both of can happy. All the Best.
@piayrali (14)
• Pakistan
23 Dec 12
First of all God bless you.22 is the very nice time to get marry.I want to tell you that make a good friend and then make a good relations with him.You have also need to understand him that he is agree with you.Do not forget to invite me at you marry day.