Compassion, Compromise And a Forgiving Nature

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I have been thinking about what makes a good partner for quite awhile now. I have known and its taken me forever to find him, but alas I finally have. Love is such a hard thing to come by. We say we love someone but then let ego tell us that we are lacking or that we are entitled to something and resentment builds until we fight and break up. I have had many relationships just such as this and while I have found the right man for me, there are still things that drive me nuts. I still find my ego trying to demand more. I am just fortunate enough to know that he is doing his best and its much better than I have ever received in any other relationship before. One of the things I have had to do is look past imperfections not only of his but if mine as well. Sure he doesn't take out the garbage, but I pile the bedside table with books and papers that I read in bed. He plays games too much but I write a lot. We compromise by cleaning up together and cuddling at the end of the day and watching our shows. Compassion is a must. We all go through our share of problems. If your partner seems to be having a problem and snaps or gets moody, try not to take it personally. It might have been something you have done but most likely it is an outside influence. You must recognize that everyone has bad days and let it roll off your back. A forgiving nature goes a very long way in helping relationships. People make mistakes and as long as no one is getting physically harmed, then try to overlook the issue in the heat of the moment and work on it when everyone is calm and ready to put the effort into getting through it. Another thing is making sure that you put the time into pleasing your partner. That does not mean making yourself into a doormat to please the other person. If they are not reciprocating and doing stuff they know pleases you then its not going to work. Resentment will build and cause problems in the relationship. This only works if both partners are willing to be selfless. Take my fiance and me, he massages me when I get off of work, because he knows that my job as a nurses aide is very physically demanding and I hurt really bad when I get home. I, in turn, run my nails lightly along his skin in what he calls "dragging" and its something he loves that feels good to him. Give and take. Love is hard, but its rewards can be exponential!