I found out that he is married

Of course not that's why I'm still single....

If the guy is married that should not be done. Marriage means staying with one person. If the employers stay with a married man, that is real bad unless he is divorced. They should not accept it even if it is the husband opinion.

Nope, because the married ones always say they are going to leave their wives, but they never do. If he is divorced that's a different thing. Is hard enough as it is to maintain a relationship with a single a guy, and getting involved with one who is married--you are just asking for trouble and drama. Not to mention, a married man cannot give you full attention if he already has other responsibilities with his family. Why have just a tiny piece of cake, when you can have the whole cake.

Kind of weird that you say: I discovered that he is married. Can't everybody in your office see at once who is married and who is single? Everybody should know by him/herself what to do, they are responsible for their own deeds.

To me married means hands off. Not for one of them but for both of them. Wed feel bad if our husbands or even boy friends were cheating on us. Its not good. Merry xmas to you there. Take care....

I really think it is messed up when a married person goes and dates someone or pretends to not be married. All it does is hurt everybody involved. I would never date anybody who is married. I feel it is a wrong thing to do.

I had developed a close friendship with a man that I worked with. When I first started at the company, I was still married, albeit quite unhappily. I did develop a crush on him, but that was as far as it went-I wasn't out to jeopardize my marriage. One day, we took our kids to the local science museum-totally platonic, but when I arrived home, my husband announced that he was leaving. That was when our divorce proceedings started. I found that he had just stopped paying certain bills that he was responsible for for about six months prior to making the announcement. Ed (my office mate) stopped to talk to me one afternoon while I was alone, and I told him about what was happening. He was upset, and worried that it was because of him. I didn't think so, but in hindsight, I'm sure that was a lot of the reason for my husband leaving. My husband left, and a week later, Ed and I began a seven year relationship. Ed just left something out-the 'friend' that he shared a house with was his common law wife! We knew of one another, but had never really spoken to one another. I was so in love with him, but once I realized what was going on (after putting bits and pieces together), I stopped seeing him. And it broke my heart. I wasn't aware that he was involved, and couldn't understand how he could lie the way he did. Sometimes people make decisions without knowing all the facts , like I did.

Absolutely not! Why waste your time with someone who's already taken, & probably have children too? That'll destroy the couple's bond, and ruin the children's lives. That is one thing children - and even spouses - don't bounce back from so easily. Takes years to heal, if at all. I know of someone who couldn't forgive her dad for taking up with a client - who apparently had little moral scruples as to cohabitate with a married man & father- until he lay on his deathbed (when his kids had teenage kids of their own). He had no contact with his original family after deciding to take up with his mistress and her kids. He left his wife & kids with nothing too- house, money, food. His wife forgave hime earlier than their children, but never married again.

I guess it really boils down to individual principles, what you value in life and religious beliefs. In terms of relationships, it's hard to say what is right and what is wrong. But if you ask me personally, if someone who is already hitched wants to court me, I would reject the person because in my beliefs it isn't the right thing to do (and in hindsight, the problems that will come after that would be a lot to handle too). My personal belief is that if someone is already married, getting into a relationship with that person is breaking up an existing family and basically consenting the person to "cheat" on their partner (since we already know that he/she is married), which I think is not a very good or nice thing to do.

As far as courting a married person I think morals come into question. And why spend this time with someone who is already taken? I think you can be friends with people who are married but must also keep in mind that this person is married and respect that. I am sure it is very ego bursting to be liked or know that a pretty girl has a crush on you. Marriage should be respected or why get married to begine with? And when you start letting the boundaries get fuzzy then you are for trouble and alot of hurt feelings on both sides.

I wouldn´t do it. Because real love doesn´t hurt people. Nobody. Real love doesn´t hurt nobody. And I mean real love doesn´t hurt anybody I mean, if you really love him, you wouldn´t like to cause pain to him, and to innocent people behind him, in the longterm. And if he really loves you he shouldn´t make you suffer. If you really love a person you don´t want to ruin his/her life, if you really love a person you don´t want to cause him/her pain. Don´t you think so? Blessings chiwasaki... dainy

I think that is wrong. If a person is married they need to make a decision. Either they want to be with the person they married or get a divorce. To many innocent people get hurt this way. It is best for them to just decide what they want and to be honest with their spouse. Not go around behind their back.

"Pretty Girl" huh? and if i am married would i court her? i cannot say i wouldn't neither can i say i would. because things like a married man courting a "PRETTY GIRL" that they like, happens. but if my wife would provide me one good reason why i would consider courting another "pretty girl" then i believe i will be tempted to do so. so it depends really on my relationship with my wife. i am single and despite my being one i never courted another girl married or not, when i am still into a relationship.

Iam sorry to hear that, i think you need to control yourself, not to contine this relationship again.Althought you thought you love each other, but i think the responsibilities to the family members are of the most important. Everyone needs to think twice before taking action.

It is okay to admire someone - physically, or maybe because he is smart and intelligent... But then knowing he is married, you should really not do anything more than to admire this person and have a crush on him. Having thought of something like this, to have a relationship with a married man, nor to a man who is attached is a no no for me, that is against my values and i will not let myself fall into such a trap. I think this is not what we should be doing, just because others are okay with it... does not mean we should be doing it as well. If a married guy courts me, i would decline him, i will not give him a chance, nor myself that chance to be hurt and be part of this person's infidelity.

No way I would never consider a married guy! why? because he is a cheater not just to his wife but to you as well...and if I was a guy would I court a pretty girl? I probably would but then she would be stupid enough to follow a courtship from a married man really? a married man got a wife and children and a home they built do you think for a moment that they would give all this away for a pretty thing in short skirts?

As much as possible refrain from having a relationship with a married man or woman. It will create so much complications in your life.

I think it is fine to court a married man as long as they are married to each other. Many office mates work together are also married. I think it is perfectly fine. It is not okay if they are cheating on each other. When he says "he is married" he means that he is married to the she. I probably sound like I am so confused, but I had this figured out a long time a-go. It would not be okay to date someone else in the office if they are married to each other.

I won't court a pretty girl that i like if I was a married. It not good. Friendship is accept.

I definitely can not accept the guy who already had a family.It is really a dangerous relationship with a married one.It will broke the whole family,what if your husband /wife courts someone else.how do you feel?