comparing yourself to other is a bad thing.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
India
December 25, 2012 3:52am CST
I think many people compare the people in general. Sometimes there is a discussion on the two people and people form two parties one on one's side and others on the other's.
It is common thing that happens, but comparing yourself to someone is different thing.
Have you compared your own self to anyone?
I think comparing yourself to anyone is not a good thing. One should understand that everyone has ability to do the things but that demands hard work. If you think that you are less than somebody then you will never start the work which the other has done.
So you defeated yourself even before starting it. Sometimes I may think that I am more capable than others and then I will start ignoring the finer details which I might get from the others, so I may lose somewhere.
It is important to understand that we all are human beings and we all have brain, so it is good that we help each other, rather than comparing our self to the others.
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@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
25 Dec 12
I think this is really a bad thing when people start comparing their children to each other, or they compare them to the other's children, because it never helps.
Sometimes parents have nothing to say in real but it becomes their habit to scold their children, it is bad.
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@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
26 Dec 12
That is one thing I never did with my children. It will bring negative impact on the other.
@dollar3235 (2062)
• India
26 Dec 12
Hi Sanjay,
Yes, no doubt it's not a good thing, however, at the end of the year, when people get salary hike, it's common thing that happens in team in any company or when the result of a semester is declared and you get to know the marks that you've got in subjects as compared to your friends. 
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
26 Dec 12
I recently read an e-book in which they talk about the self realization. They also talk about the concept of auto suggestion. When you are about to sleep at night, give your sub conscious mind some auto suggestions.
Auto suggestions are nothing but some lines which may carry some good or bad beliefs about yourself. Your conscious mind will give the suggestion to your sub-conscious mind and if done regularly they say that one can change their own beliefs.
So there is no need to compare yourself to others, just start believing in yourself. That is what is needed to do.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
26 Dec 12
I will compare my marks to the content that I have written in the paper and the amount of hard work that I have done for this exam. If I compare my marks to other's that is useless.
There may be some people who have got more marks than me but yet they have studied for less time. I have my own mind so if I can not understand the subject in that small time, how can I compare to them? If I start studying for less time too, I will get yet more less marks. I should understand that everyone has different qualities.
So instead if I want more marks I will study more, there is no other way.
@twingy (4)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
There's still a comparison, isn't there? Well, at the end of the day, a person can still speak about themselves. If they know who they are and what they can and are contented of what are those, then comparison is totally useless. But if a person who knows themselves and are always seeking for improvement, comparison will be a great tool.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
Well yes, when we compare ourselves to others, to the point of us losing our own self esteem, then that is a very bad thing to do. We should never put down ourselves, we should never compete with others in such a negative way because that would demean ourselves.
It is okay, to be comparing ourselves, if we only intend to better ourselves, to find ways of what others have that we admire and we want to imply on ourselves... for self betterment and not for downing ourselves.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
25 Dec 12
I think learning from each other is better than comparing with each other.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
26 Dec 12
I am talking about a specific person, not in general. If you compare yourself with a particular person and even if comparing yourself with him, makes you to do hard work, but remember that person is not going to be all the time with you in your life.
There is only person who is going to be with you throughout your life, and that is your own self. So one should look for the improvement in themselves rather than making some assumptions about themselves.
@twingy (4)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
I agree to that... However comparing is somehow needed for us to learn from other people. On the positive side of it, we are able to see what is missing and what more we can do for ourselves if we compare ourselves to others. Just like chiyosan said, compare to improve yourself and not to degrade yourself.
@celticeagle (166686)
• Boise, Idaho
26 Dec 12
We are all individuals. Wanting to be like someone else is normal but rather silly. We never can be. No matter how hard we try.
@celticeagle (166686)
• Boise, Idaho
27 Dec 12
I think that as you grow older a person will fall into who and what you want to be.
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
27 Dec 12
I think that is 100% true and this one single line is the reason that one should not compare them to other because you can never become others. One should believe in " I am, whatever I am".
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@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
25 Dec 12
That is the point, one has to focus on the advantages that he or she has in the life not the disadvantages. If you start comparing yourself with the others, then you will not find the time to search the advantages that you have in your life.
Being positive is all that is required, to live a healthy life.
Thanks for sharing.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
26 Dec 12
We different from one another, so comparing ourselves to other will not do us any good. This would only cause you to think small of your self. We are unique in our own ways and we should be thankful for that.
Have a nice day!
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
26 Dec 12
Yes, It is good to thank for what we have in our life to God and carry on. I have decided not to compare me to anyone in life.
@lifes97 (884)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Dec 12
it is not always bad, you can sometimes compare just to teach your self that you are doing better or they are better, so you learn from them and the ex. it is good thing sometimes to do that, i learn sometimes from doing that and thank allah for this self satisfaction, there are better people and there are worse people, so it depend on you how you compare and how you react or think of that thing after you see it ye
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
25 Dec 12
I think learning new things from the other is good but sometimes people compare themselves to the others in such a ways that they end up thinking that they are inferior to them, or are born inferior to them.
One can achieve what ever they want, all it need is hard work. Good and bad is all created by us.
