What Lessons have you learned from LOVE?
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30183)
Philippines
December 25, 2012 6:55am CST
Love is many things, Love is always different, defined by many people, described by all of us, experienced by everyone.. and yes as you and i have experienced love, being loved, and to love... what lessons has it taught you, personally?
Love, in its all form, perhaps i have learned a lot from it, indeed. I learned that love is:
1. it is something that you must fight for.
2. it is freely given, you cannot force love to be given to you.. no matter how much you have against on that person.
3. when love is true, it is very wonderful. but sometimes love goes away, it fades and when it does, its hard to come by.
4. love is all there is, it is worth fighting for, its worth the wait, true love is worht all the hurts and pains, because when you love, you feel that your life is made its purpose.
5. love does not mind, when you love someone you love them with all you have got, and you do not even try to count what you received you just give, as much as you can...
Love from people, i learned that sometimes it is widely used as an excuse, it is abused, too much that sometimes someone finds it hard to believe to be true already.
Love from parents, i learned is almost always one of the purest love there is, it never wavers and it never judges... it stays on even if the child is mistaken... parents love us dearly and unconditionally... similar to God's love for us.
I can really go on and on about love, both negative and positive sides of it... but please do share... thank you everyone! =)
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12 responses
@tassantos7 (70)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
I haven't been truly in love. Because I learned that to be truly in true love it has to be founded on the premises on something that connects and frees one from the the cage of isolation. It survives the test of time and gives strength to the one who wields it to do the right things no matter how it hurts. The concept of "self" is abolished without erasing the matters of welfare regarding one's own soul. Therefore love is not obsession, but preservation, giving and growing. It safeguards not only the welfare of the other but the welfare of everyone and everything the wielder is connected to.
Love, True Love, can only be founded in selfglessness, and in order for it to stand the test of Time it must be guided and deeply rooted on the Eternal One-GOD and Truth.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
hi tassantos. its different for all of us... you have truly described what love is for you... ;) and i do appreciate it so much. what you have described of love, selflessness, something that is beyond ourselves, something that does not count and gives freely... =)
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
26 Dec 12
Love is conditional [generally speaking]
In a real world, love is now rational. We expect something in return. We love that person and we expect to love us.
Love is rational because we think what is right or wrong before we love that person. If we feel that person is not right, we don't love that person anymore. We find another person who will make us satisfy and happy [gratification needs].
True love only exists in a real world if it defines by the people who only attach in a concrete world. Their own definition of true love.
True love means inspiration and keeps us motivated, but people here on earth, the definition of true love is frustration and suffering.
True love will never ever find here on earth, but we can find it only in heaven, which is a perfect love and true love. God is only true love-eternal love separated by the definition of true love here on earth, which is love is conditional.
All these years, this is what I learn from a real world.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
Hi introvertShy. thank you for sharing what you have learned about love with us. our experiences may be all too different from one another, but somewhere along the lives we lived, there are just some common things we all could and will share, at least. =)
I have learned that too, love we see in movies, in tv series, those we read and imagine is really different from the kind of love we experience in life.
Love can confuse us too, we might not be able to tell which one is the right person for us, we might even feel that the one is for us to eventually realize we are wrong....
You are correct though, love is inspiration, it is a motivation and is indeed a gift from heaven.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
One thing i learned from love, is that love knows how to sacrifice and forgive. Always give one another a chance.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
hi simplyd. love does know how to give, unconditionally.. but we corrupted that by our own ways. i believe that it is good to give chances, but then i think there are just enough when you give chance to someone - you have to give it to the right person, someone who deserves that chance.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
Of course we have to discern, if the person deserves another chance. You have to weigh the why and how come.
@csabaholcz (843)
• Hungary
25 Dec 12
Love is bored. It's playing with us. You fell in love and whops she has a boyfriend! You are like "FUUUUUUUU if I wouldn't be polite I would talk to you no more!"
@csabaholcz (843)
• Hungary
25 Dec 12
Maybe I will find it one day but now it seems to be pretty far.
@Pen_Pal777 (245)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
love makes me happy, love makes me do extraordinary things i would never do ordinarily. love inspires me to do a lot of things. when i am hurt, love will find a way to mend my heartbreaks. if someone leaves me for whatever reason, all i have to do is fall in love again, there is enough love for all. love helps me swallow my pride. love gives me hope, love has endless reasons why we fall in love.
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@bittu27 (86)
• India
25 Dec 12
Love is something which comes from the heart. it is something intangible but we can feel it. A true love never fades and it is immortal. it always remains whatever we do. If someone loves truly from the pure heart, then he or she will get the real bliss. I have got my best friend long time ago and i treat him like my own brother, and we together after so many years why bcoz thats only i love him truly form my heart which is eternal.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
25 Dec 12
thank you bittu for sharing your views of love, of the lessons you learned about Love. From here, i can see that you have loved and have found its true meaning, you sure have found someone you can love. Love is eternal, yes it is always within us... and we know for sure that it won't go away.. we just have to learn how to harness that feeling and find the right person to love and to love us.
@AdalieM (1134)
• United States
26 Dec 12
I agree with everything you said. However, the hardest lesson for me to learn is that not everybody you love is going to love you back. No matter how hard you try, either the feeling is there or not. Sometimes, I wish I could break the stupid rule and force somebody to love me back...but when I think about it, that's not possible because true love is given away free and forcing love onto someone who isn't reciprocating is the worst thing you can do. If you do, then you don't have a clue about love.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
that's something is what we cannot know, say or force. we can love, choose who we love and give our hearts too but that won't guarantee that they will love us back, choose us and be true to us. we can only but be on the other side and wait, and see if our love will flourish and returned.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
25 Dec 12
I agree with many of the different things that you have brought out. We definitely have to work hard to keep a proper view of love. At times it involves showing love to others that we might not be naturally inclined to. It is the best thing for us to look to God's example of love in order that we are able to do better.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
hi there dominique, thank you for your response... it is true, we have to always look in to love, the kind of love that God is giving us... that love is more than everything... we know this is how we should look at ourselves and how we love.
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
26 Dec 12
Yeah it really is a great example. Because we are imperfect and yet God loves us so much. This should motivate us to continue to love others even though they are imperfect as well. We should remember that God isn't harsh towards us and we shouldn't be that way towards others.
@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
26 Dec 12
As for me,the lesson I had learned from love was:Love is equal,if the lover has the superiority complex to their partner,then this relationship will not last long.
So matter what the background you are,when you fall in love with someone,then you need to take him/her as the same with you.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
hi sky, thank you for sharing what you have known and learned about love. i am sure that we will always have different experiences on our life, but we can learn from each other, verify things and confirm others with sharing of these. God bless you and may love be greatly with you.
@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
The list will go endless in trying to define love. As a parent, I've learned that there is no measure, no depths, no heights that is comparable with the extent a parent's love for their children. Most parents would give their lives if need be, sacrifices are made, choices are made and with each decision a parent do, behind all that is the desire to give what is best for their children so we call it selfless love.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
hi there smiling_ja. it is quite different alright, the kind of love parents has for their children.. its incomparable to the love of partners. I believe that when we love others, a friend or our partners - husbands, wives, boyfriends and girlfriends.. that is not even half of what a parent's love is for their sons and daughters, it never goes away, never withers no matter how much it has to go through.
@neelia27 (896)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
love is unconditional.. that kind of love is the most precious kind of love.. but when you love a person i mean your opposite i learned that never ever hurry love.. it can wait.. don't love just to experienced it or to forget someone.. because in the end it might not work and you will end up crying.. and i also realize that if that love is made for yours then whatever happens it will be yours no matter what..
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
hi there neelia... it is really true love when it is given unconditionally. such a love is precious indeed.
Love is patient after all, it knows when to wait and as you have said, i agree that love should not be hurried as it should be with care... well thought of.
@BrigittCindy111 (12)
• China
26 Dec 12
I recently read a book telling that love comes from your own heart, not from others. when you fall in love with some person and you feel loved,but that is actually your personal feeling and have nothing to do with that person.i am not going to argue that point, but i do think it is a very good way of thinking when you are in love with someone. Instead of complaining of your partner, you'd better first give a second check on yourself, anything changed of him? or u just feel different and require more from him? I dare not say true love, but i do believe that any healthy relations require some sort of selfless and tolerance. u love that person not because what he can give u, just because who he is.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
26 Dec 12
hi cindy! well yes of course we love because we are able to give that to someone, not that we need to love someone but we just do love them and that feeling is not forced, of course.
oh yeah, love should be quite like that, you have to tolerate someone, love them no matter what... and so on
