Is being shy or less talkative person has advantages too?
By liezel25
@liezel25 (292)
Germany
December 26, 2012 12:59pm CST
I'm a shy type or less talkative kind of person. My whole life I'm like this. I don't talk a lot in person, I just share few speeches around my friends or family, that's it. Im thinking, being like this who's less talkative maybe there's no advantages like in applying work, they might say I'm just so weak. Do you think the same way like me?
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
26 Dec 12
I'm rather quiet and shy myself. Don't let anyone make you think there's anything wrong with being who you are. Shy, quiet people are usually better thinkers and more creative than those who are talkative and like to be around others all the time. They don't have time to reflect or to reason out things when they're talking and socializing all the time.
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@kitoplayer (65)
• Argentina
26 Dec 12
As long as you can express yourself correctly, it does not matter the amount of words you use. Bear in mind, if you are shy you may portray a "weak" personality, but only if you are unhappy, with low confidence, etc. If you are confident, you will be seen more like a mysterious type, but not weak. It all comes down at how you feel.
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@miyazaki12 (429)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
Every personality has it's own advantage. I personally think that it would be better if you are talkative because you say what's on your mind. Still, being quiet is good. As how the saying goes, "Less talk, less mistake", quiet people often avoids difficult situation like being misunderstood or saying the wrong words or just plainly saying the right words at the wrong time. They avoid being embarrassed. However, we can say that they are always safe and may feel bad after a certain situation.
@Otanetix (508)
• United States
27 Dec 12
Everyone has different personalities. I actually would consider myself somewhat of a less talkative person compared to my peers. I do not think being shy is a sign of weakness. I have known people who talk all the time and rather impulsive in how they make their decisions. For a shy person like me, I am able to listen to what people are saying rather than just spouting out words constantly. For instance, I am a shy person which makes me patient about how I approach things. I know people who are more impulsive tend to make mistakes more often than people who are patient and take their time. When you take your time and think before taking action, I think you tend to make less mistakes.
@asokavaradhana (257)
• India
27 Dec 12
I do not think it is a sign of weakness.Every personality has their own ways.And you should not be discouraging yourself stating there is no advantage while applying for jobs or pursuing any career.But then, if its hindering your things in personal or professional world,do little more.Just elaborate your points and be diplomatic.Make sure, whatever you talk is totally diplomatic and pleasing.But if its argument, try not to be mean unless and until its called for.In professional world,its all about communication and skills.You need not talk a lot but you need to ensure you have communicated well to all parties and in appropriate manner.Communication etiquette plays a big role everywhere.You need not talk for long or gossip or do things like that.Just speak upto the point.But its normal for most people to misjudge a person especially a woman who talks less.I guess, you are clear with the things.Personally, i talk optimum.Neither for long , neither too short.In parties, i would prefer to keep it short and not take away others time.
@Sanher (61)
• Uruguay
27 Dec 12
I think that being less talkative and reserved helps you to build a serious image of you, that may help you when applying for a job or when talking to people, you may not talk a lot, but what you say will be taken seriously.
Another advantage, is that, when people talk a lot, and are always saying whatever is in their mind, they may be taken as ignorants or less informed people, because they don't check if they are saying true or right things.
But if you talk less, you can think, and check what to say, and when. You are smarter. And your image shows people that, they can see how smart you are by listening what you say.
Whish I helped you.
Bye
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
26 Dec 12
I think being shy and more quiet is an advantage actually. You are quiet so you pay attention and listen more. You can really get to know people for who they are by just observing them and their actions.
I am shy as well in person and it has helped me in the past getting to know how a person truly is.
People that do nothing but talk have a hard time being good listeners and they miss so much because their talking instead of listening!
@cui_hezron (75)
• United States
26 Dec 12
Thanks for sharing. Actually, I'm an ambivert person. haha! Sometimes, I just wanted to be alone and sometimes I want to hang out with somebody. Yes. It has advantages of course Liezel! Advantages like you are not creating bad issue to anything, you are not in a hot seat and many more... God bless you...