I think I should buy another xmas gift after getting one....
By mariaperalta
@mariaperalta (19073)
Mexico
December 26, 2012 1:13pm CST
My brother spent about 500.00 on a new office desk for me for xmas.
i spent about 150.00 for his gift.. Im thinking of going out and buying him another gift, since he spent so much money on me.
Hes in Spain till sunday, so he wont know. Ill just tell him , I gave him the one gift before he left, and left the 2nd one here for when he comes home...
What to do??
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4 responses
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
27 Dec 12
Hello maria. Has the gift giving become competition to see who can give the most expensive gift We are taught to be gracious in giving but I think we should also be gracious in receiving gift. Your brother apparently knew or thought you wanted the desk since he could afford to give it to you. Now you feel the need to match him by buying something more. You said he wanted the watch that you gave him. If you give him another gift he will know what happened and will feel bad. I say let it be. It is just as important to receive as it is to give.
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
28 Dec 12
Put yourself in his place and think about how you would feel if it was you that payed more for a gift. You should not feel guilty. Just enjoy the gift as that will also bring your brother joy in knowing you are enjoying the gift. That can be a gift in it's self.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
27 Dec 12
no, it hasnt. but I just feel so bad that spent so much more money on me. I know him, he wont care. But I feel bad.
@habibti320 (925)
• United States
27 Dec 12
I think you should use your discretion, but please consider your budget as well. Your brother might be understanding that this year you are not able to afford a more expensive gift and consider himself lucky that he was able to get you such a nice gift.
I don't know the situation or your relationship with your brother, but if this was my family member, I wouldn't worry about matching price. My sister has a wealthy husband so she is usually able to give us something a little bit more expensive, while my brother has lost two jobs this year, so he gave inexpensive gifts.
It's the thought that counts. Maybe something heartfelt and thoughtful can express your gratitude and care? If you can afford it, sure, but I wouldn't stress yourself.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
27 Dec 12
Yes, he can def. afford more than I can here. He owns an internet cafe, much larger and more busy than mine is. but I feel bad knowing what he spent vs what I spend. The only thing is, I know he really wanted the watch i got him..
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
11 Jan 13
I don't hink it is the amount of money the gift costs. It is after all the thought that counts. I think a new desk for you was a great gift. I am not sure what you got him. But looking at the big picture, you can only spend within your means. I know he is your brother. But if you feel the need to get him a second gift then go right ahead. I understand how you feel.
@cui_hezron (75)
• United States
26 Dec 12
HAHAHA! Same case. I have my friend here who have just given an expensive gift which cost 40 dollars and my gift only to her just cost 10 dollars. When I received the gift, I was ashamed that time.HAHAHA! So what I did, I bought her another gift so that she may not say anything to me. Do that also, my friend, so that he may not say something to you. :)
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
26 Dec 12
Almost same here, just I havent seen him yet. So if I get him another gift. he will never know what happened. Have a great day there.
