kid(s) forces you to buy him something beyond your budget

My son wants me to buy him a motorcycle. That one was out of the budget considering that I just undergone a training this year. By the way, I already passed the exam nic. I told him to wait until I can be able to pay all our debts inline with that training and besides his father just bought a new motorcycle and I am still paying for it. We bought it on installment. I don't know how to handle this thing because he is always bringing it up. Although he is not into having tantrums. One thing I am afraid of buying him a motorcycle is that I am afraid of the consequences and not only of the amount. My son is already in his 2nd year college and going to 18 this January. Have a nice day!

Lucky our daughter, now 22 year old, when she was a kid, never threw a tantrum. And she never insisted on a toy she would like to have when we are in the department store. Maybe that's because before we go to the department store, i would tell her lovingly that Mama's and Papa's budget is only few, so buying toys of expensive nature would mean that we will not be able to buy other necessities. Thus, she would say, just buy me Mama when you have the money already. And she would forget about it. She grew up with simple needs and wants.

Hi Nicanorr and welcome to my lot. This would never happen to me if a child throws a temper tantrum with me I will walk away and let them scream and do what they will. If I or any of my siblings would have done this to my mother she would take you to the wood shed if you know what I mean! I think this is from parents not putting their foot down and making the child mind them. As it says in the bible spare the rod spoil the child! In other words if your the parent the child should know that they have to mind you.

Christmas season or not, I would be seeing my kid to be upset if he doesn't get what he wants. But even though he would cry tears of blood, when I say NO, I definitely mean NO. I can be generous to anybody IF I have money. But when we are tight on the budget, I tell my kids to be thankful for what they have and not aspire for anything more than we can afford. Really it pains me not being able to give them what they want, but I think that what they need is what's important.

I notice some child forces their parents for purchasing which is not possible for parents beyond their budget but some are very understandable and they say okkk mom no problem I dont want to purchase you can purchase anything which you like or under budget for me. Some kids start crying if they not got the gift according to you but some are not different child different nature.

We only use cash to buy presents with. We don't have credit cards. We also do not have TV so the kids don't ask for all that much. We saw a big different within the first year we didn't have a tv anymore. It has been a decade now with no Tv and we aren't missing it all that much.

No. My kids never did that. We wouldn't have allowed it. Temper tantrums got them time out in their rooms, not whatever they wanted. There's no reason to let kids tell the parents what to do. They have parents for a reason and it's not to please their every whim. It's to teach them boundaries and what is acceptable and tantrums and wanting too much is not acceptable. Or it shouldn't be, anyway.

i am just glad that all my nieces and nephew have not been brought up to make tantrums. both the girls are lovely and they do tell us what they want, if my mom(their grandmother is off the budget as she always is) we try to still give the kids what they want after all its just once a year we are able to shop for the kids, but if it is too pricey, we tell the kids to pick another one which is better (and lower in price haha) the kids would be sad for a while, but then knowing how kids are.. you know they want something now, and could already be bored with it the next time they see something else. that is just how we manage the kids when going out shopping toys for them. ;)

No, not at all. We bought some small things for my daughter for Christmas. She got a few plush toys, some books, new clothes, and a movie on Blu-Ray from us. My parents went overboard and bought her a bunch of things. She only opened about 1/3 of her presents yesterday. We kept asking through the day if she wanted to open another one. She said "No, I don't want another present." She was more interested in all the little things I put in her stocking than anything else! We brought all the unopened presents home with us last night. She opened three or four more today, but there are still a bunch under the tree. We're just going to let her open them when she wants to.

None of my children will ever force me to buy beyond my budget. They all are still happy with what they get, no matter if it's second hand (used) or brand new. Partly the behaviour you describe is character but also it's the way you raise your children. Mine do know we have less money to spend. Which doesn't mean they never get what they want, but does mean we are way more creative (in making or searching for it). For example: my youngest wanted a furby as well. I bought her a used one by the internet for 2.50 euro! She loves it. They are allowed to make a list (birthday, Dec. 5th) but it's not said they will get everything (they know that). My son did not even make a list this year. My daughter did but there were (except for the furby) really small things on it. BTW if it comes to prices both never think in the way of asking expensive toys either. It reminds me of what my granny ones said about my cousins: how come they always pick out the most expensive and if they get it they don't like it.

My 18 year old, and 30 year old brothers took tantrums on Christmas. They had about 10 pages of I wants. They didn't get the whole 10 pages worth, so they took a fit. I am glad I had to work, then volunteer so I missed them. It gets annoying and shows the lack of parenting, responsibility, and immaturity especially at their ages.

Yes, thats the problem many have with kids and xmas. i think its wrong. But because of tv and media kids are kinda rain washed into asking parents for these expensive gifts. I blame the media for all of it,

We didn't let our kids watch a lot of TV when they were growing up. But it was a little hard when their friends would tell them about the expensive gifts that they received. I tried to find gifts that were really special but not expensive. And so, most times, my children got what they really wanted without expecting nor asking for really expensive gifts. I don't think Christmas is all about expensive gifts, so it goes against my principles, not just my budget to buy expensive gifts. We spend Christmas Day with our kids and play lots of games and enjoy each other company at the dinner table. Now that they are grown, I am sure that they understand that spending time together as a family is the best Christmas gift.

This question need we take more time,to see the child like gift of which type.If do that,the question will not happen again.This is my exprience.