My nanny won't stop watching TV, from morning till night
By jureathome
@jureathome (5361)
Philippines
December 27, 2012 7:21am CST
It really irritates me to see her the whole day sitting in front of the TV, not minding how much electricity is running, plus the fan that is also turned on the whole day.
Well, she's done all her chores early in the morning, so I don't reprimand her for watching TV over her tasks. However, the reason why she's so free to watch TV, is because I can't fully trust her with the baby, yet. So, I'm the one who's still watching over the baby most of the time.
I guess I'm just going to let her go, and find a new one.
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21 responses
@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
true. hiring someone isn't a one-time solution that magically solves everything. there will be an increase in water, electricity, gas, food and non-food items that you have to buy or pay for. then there is the training, retraining and constant monitoring. then there is the privacy and safety issue. they might talk about personal stuff with your neighbors or they might be duped by strangers.
each age group has its pros and cons, but i doubt you'll find someone who can forgo tv and texting regardless of age nowadays! ![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
That's true, but actually, with my previous nanny who was so fond of texting and calling, I didn't really mind or reprimand her, because I can see that she prioritizes taking care of my toddler. I would complain to my husband, but its just part of discussion. However, she left because she is marrying a guy.
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@hereandthere (45645)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
oh, yes, that's another "problem." at least she knows the guy. sadly, some are duped by married or separated men who disappear once they get pregnant. ![](/Content/images/emotes/cry.gif)
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@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
27 Dec 12
It is very hard to find some house help as to this moment,that is why I am not scolding my helper every time she makes some mistakes.I just give her some lectures what to do next time.She was a good listener,yet very hard headed because her age was already 47 years old to become a house help,but what can I do and besides there are so many opportunities back to my province just to convinced someone to become a helper.If I were you just give her some limits in viewing the TV,and let her handle another chores to let her busy besides attending your baby.I
do not trust getting some helper from an agency,because I was already a victim with a helper from an agency,who have stolen my money and never catch her.I still search for her whereabouts.I like getting helper from the province,as they are more industrious and hard working.Once I have employed a helper,I will tell her all what I wanted her to do,and I also give her time to rest during the afternoon.She has a day off every other Sunday to rewind her friends.
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
That's my hesitation towards older nannies, they won't listen well, and end up doing the wrong thing. I think I'm just better off having a younger lady in the house. Someone who won't get tired easily during the night.
You are right about getting helpers from the province because they are still innocent and untainted. But, this is not true for all, though.
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@berting600 (3453)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
You are correct there,yet still I have to be lenient in handling her chores.I have to get her some SSS,Philhealth,Pag-ibig,yet her salary was much more high than the reported increases for household salaries.The only chores she does was laundry,and some cleaning and errands,that is all.She was already seating watching
some television shows,then go to sleep in the afternoon.We are the ones who cooks our food and dishes,as long as she is alert with her work it is just okay.
Sometimes she does her own style that I do not like,so she must repeat her work because it was done inappropriately.The next time,I will prepare younger helper,so
many chores could be done,and could also do in a rush but sure way,unlike my new helper who keeps on complaining her hips is always aching,and can not seat directly to pick up what was just in the floor to get.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I'll probably get those statutory benefits for a helper who'd last at least a year with us. Because, if I start getting them some on their first month, they might just end up going home too soon, or I may not like their work and let them go home.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
If the nanny also gives good guidance on the programs that the kid is watching, then that's even better. But, if the nanny would take over what to watch, and prefer to see their favorite soap operas, while the parents are away, then that's a different story.
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
When they arrive, I would always have the talk about what I expect from them, and what their tasks would be everyday. But, it's really no use, because all of them, would just nod and say "Yes". You can't really tell if they're capable or not, until they start moving around.
So, perhaps, I would just add a line telling them that they are still under observation within the first few weeks, and if they don't pass my standards, then I'll have to let them go. That way, they won't be too complacent, and would give their best shot and get used to it, somehow.
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@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
28 Dec 12
all day watching TV has not ever get tired.
I only watch TV when I have time.
and it more often in the evening.
when we are at home the TV is on but only because kids watch children channels.
o I think her go and find another.
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
If only she'd satisfy what I want to see from her when she's with the kids, I wouldn't mind if she watches TV when she's alone and done with the chores. The thing is, even when she has the baby in her arms, she'd still have her eyes glued on the tube.
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@IDear2Dream (140)
• United States
28 Dec 12
its best you do let her go because what if you got something in important to do one day you leave with the baby she not going to pay the baby no mind because she so into the tv take it from someone who's on the computer all day i use to watch my lil brothers i would so into the computer i let them do watever and they make a mess everything they did i had to clean it up.
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I really can't trust her with the baby for longer than 30 minutes, without me around. The day before Christmas, we had to do some last minute groceries, and we had no choice but to leave the kids, because its too crowded in the malls. We were so in a rush to get home, that we finished shopping in less than 30 minutes.
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
28 Dec 12
Letting her go would be the best thing for you to do. Why on earth do you have a nanny, if you can not even trust her with the baby? That makes absolutely no sense to me. No sense at all!!
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Absolutely! I was just waiting for the right time, or at least, when we're able to find replacement. Right now, she helps keeps the house in place, and Im glad about that. But, not with the baby.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
31 Dec 12
I'm not sure I understand...you have a nanny. You don't trust your nanny to watch over and mind your children. So, what is she doing there.
You say her chores are all done in the early morning so I fail to see the problem. What do you expect her to do? It sounds as if she is totally bored and I bet she would have some interesting things to say if we heard her side of things. ![](/Content/images/emotes/lol.gif)
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
She's new so i don't give the kids to her the whole day. I'm still observing her routines and actions around the house. When I need to do something, I would give the baby to her, but not too long. My bigger kid doesn't like her, either, because she doesn't play with her or even listen to what she's saying. I told her once to converse with the kid, and not just watch tv the whole time. Even if she has the baby with her, her face is still stuck on the tube.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
27 Dec 12
If she is not watching the baby, why is she there? People hire a nanny to look after the children because they are busy doing other things or need help in caring for an infant because it is the first time. Unless everyone or you are watching Tv, she should not, so I would advise you to give her a warning that the Tv is costing too much electricity and if she gets nasty, let her go.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
28 Dec 12
You have to let her go and get another who you can trust. I wonder did you hire her from a professional nanny agency and did she lie about her references and then you found out too late?
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Well, I don't trust her enough to leave the kids with her. So, unless I'm in the same place, I don't let her near my kids for too long. When my husband and I need to go out alone, I would bring her and the kids to my mom's house, so someone can supervise.
I already told her about electricity consumption, and she doesn't seem to understand.
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
No, she was hired from the province by my in-laws. They didn't observe her long enough to see her negative side. She was really good with house chores like cleaning and laundry, but I need a nanny more than a helper. I no longer ask for documents or references, if they came from my in-laws.
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@cobalt20 (1318)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Those Nannies are really addict in watching television instead doing the household chores. If I am there boss, I will allow them to watch at free time. Duty first before doing pleasure.
Watching teleseryes are the most watch part for nannies.
@iva75cpb (729)
• Bulgaria
28 Dec 12
Well, having her fulfulled all the other tasks doesn't mean she is supposed to watch TV all day, but what I don't understand is if she's a housekeeper or a nanny, or both. If she's only a housekeeper and must spend the rest of the day at you home, so don't complaint. But you did say that she's primarily a nanny but obviously doesn't seem liable to look after the baby. Bottom line you spend money for nanny and electricity, and at the same time you keep losing money by not going to work and looking after the baby. That makes this nanny useless and not profitable to have her. At least to me.
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@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Exactly! It's a total waste and it's giving me a headache everyday. I'm glad I've already given her my "go-home" speech smoothly last night. I don't want to wait any longer, so she has to go.
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@SuperShames (780)
• India
3 Jan 13
Hi jureathome.
Well I think you should first give her a warning that you do not like someone watching television entire day and if it continues so then you will have to think of someone else for nanny. If she changes then it is fine or else you can go on with the old one. But I think you should give her at least one warning. Anyways have a nice day ...
-=SuperShames=-
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I actually let her go last week. Aside from the abusive use of tv set, she has shown signs of psychological problems and I can't trust my kids with a person like that, especially that we don't have much knowledge of her background.
@SuperShames (780)
• India
6 Jan 13
Woah..
In that case I think you have made the right decision before it was too late. So did you get a new nanny?? Anyways have a nice day ...
@christylynn41 (200)
• United States
28 Dec 12
Maybe you should try and start giving her little things to do with the baby like changing the diaper or preparing a bottle start out her small to see how she does then if there is still problems then you may need to find a new one.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I have given her the chance to show what she can do for us. However, she just gets me disappointed. And, another thing I'm so annoyed about her, is she is so loud, and very tactless when talking to other people.
@liezel25 (292)
• Germany
27 Dec 12
Lucky you, you got nanny there. I'm also from cebu, you are right? Yah, sometimes nanny wants to watch tv so much. We had it too when I was in Philly. What my mom does is to list all the chores she will do for a day. And then when she's done, she can free to do anything. You know, they can't help to miss their Tele series,hehe. If your uncomfortable, just let her go and find a new one.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Yes, we are actively looking for a replacement. She's only been with us for less than a month.
@youless (112358)
• Guangzhou, China
28 Dec 12
If your nanny only needs to do the housework and she finishes it early, then it is OK for her to watch TV. However, since she is required to take care of your baby, then I don't think it is fine for her to watch TV for such a long time. Since she has to look at the baby now and then to make sure that the baby is alright. And when the baby wakes up, she has to play with the baby or go out to have a walk with the baby. The baby needs to have the sunshine and fresh air. So she is not qualified in this aspect and I think it is OK to let her go. But I also wonder whether you shall give her one more chance and tell her what to do. Such as she shouldn't watch TV for such a long time and she shall spend more time with your baby. If she doesn't improve her service, then it is fair for you to fire her.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
For my peace of mind, I would really have to fire her very soon, perhaps even tonight. I just can't trust her with the baby. She claims she's been a nanny for years, but I don't see her skills at all. All she does is carry the baby and sway her when the baby starts to cry. She doesn't even know how to use toys to cheer up the baby. She carries the baby all the time while her eyes are glued on the TV.
@aabuda (1722)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
Correct! You have to find a new one. You can't just pay her for just watching tv the whole day! How lucky she is!
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I've had that same experience with nannies. They prefer to watch TV or talk on their cellphone using unlimited calls while you struggle watching the baby. Yes, you must change that nanny and find someone who knows her responsibilities and don't give you so much problems.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I really would have to find another one, and hope that she'll be a lot better. It's frustrating to be paying someone who lets you do their job. Right now, I'm holding the baby on my left arm, while I'm typing with my right hand.
@jadoixa (1166)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
some nannies are really like that, they like to watch tv a lot during their free times. the nanny of my sister's kids are also like that. sometimes she watches tv without looking properly on the kids or some nannies are not ashamed and are so comfortable inside the home that they do anything they like.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
The good thing about this nanny, though, is she will make sure she's done with her chores before she watches TV. Sometimes, due to lack of familiarity since she's still new, she would not notice other things to do, and would wait for me to tell her what to do.
@Sgoessi (78)
• Switzerland
5 Apr 14
Yup! If you are not satisfied, then you should find a new one. You should take help of a nanny agency, here is the link:
Check it & you can hire a nanny from here for your loved ones.
@rldchampions001 (156)
• Pakistan
27 Dec 12
I totally agree. Most of the nannies are really fond of watching television rather than doing their job. I guess they do not have television in their homes that's why they watch it so much. The biggest problem that i think is that you cannot trust all nannies , so if an old and trusted nanny is working at your home it is not easy to fire her on behalf of that she watches too much television. Although there are some nannies who are committed to their work, but most of them are fond of watching television.
@jureathome (5361)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
If only I could trust her more with the kids, then that will keep her busy. However, right now, I always hesitate to leave the baby with her, while I do my online stuff from upstairs. So, in that case, she has plenty of time to waste electricity and watch TV the whole day.
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