Being nice to network or keep in touch with people.
By webgirl01
@webgirl01 (689)
United States
December 27, 2012 1:28pm CST
There are sometimes I feel I like to be nice or try to be nice like comments and messages or whatsoever, but I never get anything in return although I should not expect anything.. sometimes I feel like that.
Why is that when I try to network with someone (whether cousins or friends) it has to mostly be me to say hi or send a message to that person? I wonder if cousins I haven't seen wonder of me or the ones i want to connect with wonde about me.. it sucks about certain clannish connections.
Also I feel that I never get to hear from the persons (whether friends or cousins) on them wondering about me.
I do wonder how people I want to keep in touch are doing? but do they ever wonder about me??
No one I want to hear from doesn't message me or wonder about me, but if I go wondering about how he or she doing, then I would send message to them and they either respond or not respond.
On facebook, I do like to say hey what's up how are you to friends or cousins but they never do that to me. lol.
I know these are petty thoughts but just wanted to vent out there.
2 responses
@webgirl01 (689)
• United States
10 Jan 13
Hi there! how are you? thanks for your reply. yeah there's some cliques on the internet even if you are friends with them in person or knew them from school. lolz..
oh wells. do you keep in touch those people you are trying to contact? lol
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
27 Dec 12
Sometimes we all feel that way from time to time. Not feeling that anyone really cares. Perhaps they just are busy with their own lives.
May I make a suggestion, just share about yourself with them. Don't ask: 'What's up?' They may feel that you are putting them on the spot. So, when they hear enough about you, they may just want to share with you about themselves.
You can't push a relationship but you can develop it. I have found that with other people, I have to met them halfway. I have to find out to what level do they want to stay in contact.
One of my cousins started a facebook 'family' group where we post old family photos and then, try to remember who is in the photo and where the photo was taken, etc. Most of our parents and our grandparents have passed away and we are left with family photos without much identification. So, that is one way we are able to connect with each as cousins and extended family.
They may think that you are doing OK, so they may think that they don't have to worry or wonder about you.
@webgirl01 (689)
• United States
10 Jan 13
Hello ZoeJoy,
Thanks for your response. I do get that not the person(s) i want to keep in touch with especially if they are clannish connections - relatives/cousins, they are chill with who they are close too. I do understand that people are busy with their own lives. It's just a thought.
As for your suggestion, well I don't send "what's up messages" my comments are mostly the ordinary hi, how are you? how have you been kinda thing. But I guess that is boring. As for talking about myself to them, I have done that and the people I want to hear from are not into that stuff. Maybe if I am not directly talking to someone by message and just post up a blog or status feed, there's likely response sometimes.
Especially if I go talk and share about myself in person alot, people tend to not get interested. It sucks. There's people who are interested and not interested. Oh wells.
It's hard to stay in contact with certain people and I also stop talking to certain people since I feel it's best to not bug them alot.
And I guess I understand what your point is. lol Thanks for sharing.
Anyways how have you been? hope you are enjoying mylot.
Take care. Happy late new year. :)
