My kid did it again
By jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15746)
Philippines
December 27, 2012 5:57pm CST
This morning he woke up again crying for a PSP!!! which makes me think no PSP for him, i really hate myself for saying i might buy him one this year and now he got it inside his mind!
but now i will not because i saw how addicted he get when my nephew let him borrowed his PSP, my son won't eat or do anything else..bad bad bad. So this morning he threw his tantrums and i chose to ignore it.. my mom was mad at me for doing it but i know if i will go and hug him and try to reason out he will cry more and it will be like yesterday again..my husband chose to ignore it too today, he just hugged my son and left ahead of me because he does not want to get mad so early in the morning.
now i am thinking of ways to divert his attention, i told hubby i might go and buy him some puzzle..that is a whole lot better than psp i guess.. lol or am i too outdated? but it might worth trying, or some games boards.. what ya think?
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9 responses
@jodylee (946)
• United States
28 Dec 12
How old is your son? I think tantrums should not be rewarded good for you for ignoring them. It sounds like he really wants one and there are a lot of great educational games. Does your son have chores? Perhaps you could turn it into a positive and teach him to earn the money for what he wants. This will not only teach him the value of a dollar but also will teach him to save for what he wants. If he does end up getting one it sounds like he would need strict limits on use with time frames and maybe even a timer being set.
Games are cool but kids love electronics. It is not outdated and it is good to have well rounded children who can use many things. Good luck!
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
He is now 5 years old, i do not know how long will he behave like this, at 5 he barely have chores, just fixing the bed and stuff..
@jodylee (946)
• United States
28 Dec 12
5 is a fun age. Did he start school this year? My oldest just turned six and I thought at 5 he was winy. Six is turning out to be pretty good so far. Chores can be simple and easy but they are a good way to start teaching responsibility. My son likes to save his money now. He takes care of it and counts it all the time. When he wants something we tell him how much it is and that he can save for it (certain things of course). He has really enjoyed it. I know all kids are different, just sharing something that has worked for me :) Good luck and stay strong!
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Hi Jody, yes he already started school this year and he is now in kindergarten and yes he loves school so much, we do not have problems with him at school..
@franseman (516)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Can anybody please tell me what on earth a PSP is? I really hate all these modern shortenings. I never know what people are talking about. Is it so hard to just name the things as they are? (generally spoken!!)
Anyway:
Happy MyLotting and best wishes for 2013
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@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
PSP is the modern version "Game&Watch" which we used to have in the past.
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@franseman (516)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
aha! Thank you.
LOL I just started a discussion on abbreviations. Maybe it's also because I don't have kids. That makes a huge difference i guess.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I am so sorry, i forgot to explain what PSP is...its a game console my friend.
@GardenGerty (160879)
• United States
28 Dec 12
You and your husband are on the right track. Ignore the bad behavior and do not reward it with extra attention. Everything he does that you approve of, praise it. Christmas was just here. He should not need to be bribed with more toys already. When you do have a reason to get him new toys they should be things like puzzles and games that are not electronic. When you have young children too involved in electronic activities they do not learn as well.
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@GardenGerty (160879)
• United States
28 Dec 12
For your small children Chutes and Ladders and Heigh ho the Cherry O are good choices.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Yes that was on my mind..maybe some monopoly game will do him good
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Hello jazel, No, don't give him that chance, he will only get addicted and ask you to buy other gadgets for him! believe me, there's no reward in playing video games, except addiction and waste of time. take it from some one like me who didn't let go of video games until it was TOO LATE. better have more sound activities with him or have him play with other kids rather than get stuck up with psp. believe me, you will doing him a favor for his future
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Yes just what is on my mind, i even told him to go out and run and play.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
It would help him socialize at the early age if he has no direct involvement with the games. it would help him with the people a lot more, sure rejections are there first but not getting into the game would allow him to have real games like the one in sports or board games at least
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
Maybe it would be a good decision not to buy him one considering that he is already addicted to it even without having one, how much more if he had already one.
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@Belle_of_the_Ball (896)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
If I were in your shoes, I would also do the same thing.I,also think that your idea of buying him puzzles and board games is great.Your family can play board games together. Your family can play board games together. Isn't that a great way of having a quality time with your family? He can also invite his friends to come over to your house.
Don't give in to his tantrums; I am sure if he finds out that it works to get your attention, he would probably throw tantrums to get whatever he wants in the future.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I really hope i will find nice boardgames, i was thinking of monopoly they might find it interesting and be a good way to teach them in handling money too..
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Dec 12
I think you should NOT buy your son a PSP. My nephew wanted it too and the way that he plays with my iphone lead me to think that he'll be more addicted if he actually owned it. Now, whenever he's with me, he does nothing but play on my phone. It takes me a lot of reasons for him to stop but I am a firm aunt.
I think kids are too young to own one. It takes their youth away from them because they'd be stuck in those damn things.
You should not give-in to tantrums, else, you'd be their slave forever. But of course, neither should you promise anything.
Have a great mylot experience ahead!
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
4 Feb 13
Hehe.. This reminded me of my nephew. We is also addicted to games and he's around 5 now. I couldn't help but wonder about the mind of a child. He's so into it that he discovered how to download. My mom's tablet is android and it's easy to download because passwords are not required. So he downloads a lot of games there. But on my phone he can't because I'm using Apple and there are passwords and stuff. Then he says "why are there so many rules in your phone? I can't get access to the fun games there, Grandma's tablet doesn't have lots of rules but doesn't have your games." hehehehe.. Well..
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
Right, he gets that way with my android phone too.. he gets addicted with the games that i have to remove the games so he would stop playing with it!
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@alberello (4752)
• Italy
28 Dec 12
Well, I am no father, so I do not have a clue how should educate their children.
Many people say that you have to fulfill them, but not too much and especially not to be too "weak" against them, always giving in front of their exorbitant demands. However, we must make them understand that they can not get everything they want. This teaching will be useful to them when they grow up!
However, I can cite the example of my younger brother. He has always gotten everything he wanted, and now has problems when he realizes he does not have the ability to afford a certain thing.
I say this from experience, certainly not as a parent because, like I said, I parent I am not!