This is cruel.

I think this is cruel indeed. I could say that it would depend on my age what to say, but to be honest I always said my opinion. I would tell my dad he is a lousy.. a loser.. doesn't make an income and should be happy someone is willing to feed him at all. And if it comes to your mother.. if I were here I would keep my mouth shut at the first time. The next time I would dump his stuff (if he has any) in garbish bags outside and kick him out. Nobody needs a partner that stabs you in the back, makes you work like an idiot and also do the cooking and cleaning. What exactly is your dad doing whole day except for complaining? Unhappy you can be alone as well, you don't need a partner for that.

As I can see you're 37. At that age I think (but that's someone from Europe talking here) you should stand for your mother. Tell your father that she did her best to prepare something eventho it was late. There is NEVER an excuse for such behavior as he showed.

It must have hurt you so bad to be hearing those words coming from your father and just see your mom take all of them. I am so sorry you had to deal with that situation. I salute your mom for being courageous in making herself look fine when I know and you know that it has also torn he heart. It is hard to talk to your dad about the way she treats your mom. He would definitely tell you that it is none of your business. But what I can advice you is to just give love to your mom and be on her side. She may not have told you anything about what she has been going through after all these years. But just let her know that no matter what, she has you. I could be hearing harsh words from my husband, as well. And I am just not the type who would be wanting to exchange words. I'd rather keep silent most of the time. I have a 19 year old son who is sensitive about this. I know that he resents his dad whenever he sees me being treated that way. My son would say that he is mad at him sometimes. And he would say, that now he knows why I left a few years back. My son knows I am hurt, but I just tell him to just not say anything against his dad. He is still his dad no matter what. And whatever problems we have, it is only between his dad and me.

This culture you live in sounds like mine and i don't even live in your country. Plus it would have been the other way around with my dad doing the cooking, bread winning and my mom making the comments as such.It is a bad situation to be in and I'm in that too. Only the roles are reversed. My mom does do the cooking here however but if my dad was to say anything like what your dad said to your mother then all heck would break loose and more arguements so he knows better and never says anything more than half the time. Role reversal. I hate to hear and see of these things in any culture, it is abusive behaviour and he does it just cause he is male and can get away with it, very sad indeed. He is one of the worst types of people out there and the only thing you can do is learn from this and not be like him. I have spoken up for my dad and she was really rude and nasty to me just cause I did that. Sad thing, when you see two people who are supposed to love each other act like mean cruel jerks. Hugs for you.

That is not a good scenario and I understand your sympathy for your mother. Your mother surely be proud of the care and love you have for her... Your father might be not totally bad. Well, I don't know him personally so I can't judge his character. Maybe his attitude towards has a reason. Maybe he was feeling worthless and that is the only way that he can burst his emotions or maybe it is because of getting old? Why don't you talk to your mother out of this and show your love for her and how you care...

Females are always being neglected.Male always try to dominate her in every field and try to show his superiority.This is not the matter of your family instead this kind of cruelity on female is going on every where in our society.Male never understand what she actually want.Though I have never observed such kind of things in my family I have seen in my neighbours.

I understand your feeling, that's indeed so cruel of your father. If I am in your situation, I will surely say something after the dinner. I am not telling you to become disrespectful to your father, but sometimes we (the kids) must interfere. I won't allow anyone to hurt my mother- not even my father.

well she should smack his head with the steak, that would teach him to be grateful and learn how to love and cherish his woman. it is very sad how men treat their partner sometimes.

That is kind of sad. In my opinion, your dad is quite defensive, might be insecure because your mother is the bread winner. That is why he reacts like dad. However, deep inside he is quite embarrassed of himself because he cannot give what your mother gives. Just try to understand your father and try to boost his moral at times or appreciate the things he is giving you and your family. The situation might change. Just a suggestion. Have a nice day!

He should be grateful that she even still cooks for him and pays all of his bills when she could have him get a job to pay his own bills and cook for himself