how can there be so strong people?

Believe it or not, most of the people that you see in your day to day life are like this, there are a few who can share their feeling but rest of them just go smiling. Most of us have got problems which we know is not easy to deal with but still we take our lives on daily basis and wait for something good to happen. Now that you've mentioned it here we know that you have problems and you are sad inside but to those who see you in daily life, you'll be just another happy person. Every one is unhappy due to some reason, this is what life is where we have two choices, either we can worship god, believe in him and continue to have faith in him till the end or we can get stuck with these worldly problems and spend our life in grief. Actually, sometimes I think, happiness is a virtual word, no one is happy still we have this word in our dictionary just to elude us. Don't feel bad about life, have your priorities set and fight for your priorities and believe in God.

I think, this kind of person is not that really strong but a pretentious one. What she was doing was very hard, pretending that she was alright but deep inside she was being hurt and not really in good condition.Better to show what really the feelings are, be it sad or happy. Life is like a wheel, take time to cry and be happy. WE cannot do anything for that but to accept it.

You are right if the person is smiling or laughing in front of the people means not they cant cry. Many times He/she cry and think about their problems but not show in the public.

Hi friend,welcome to India.I invite you to visit my country at least once,if possible.You will find here women who are unbelievably strong.They get up before the sunrise and keep working till late night.They take care of their husbands and children,work in the fields with men,cook for the entire family and go to bed after finishing all other household chores.Visit Indian villages.You will certainly be surprised to see how strong and hard working Indian women are. As you know,I am a male who has been surrounded with problems.I work hard to sustain my family amidst all troubles and keep smiling and try my best to cheer up my family by smiling as if nothing has happened and everything is alright.

I think people can be strong because they believe they need to be. If they have family to look after, they need to appear strong as a role model. Otherwise, your family members will react to your sadness. Also, when we try to make an effort to be strong, we learn to move forward despite our obstacles we face everyday. If we stay put and just pity ourselves, we would not progress or gain anything. We need to move forward no matter what. I know that might seem easier said than done. But you should at least try first. If you keep falling, just keep standing up.

Most of the times, we hide our agony... We keep on pretending that we are fine, that we are okay. Pretending we are happy even not. Well, I understand what you feel and it is so hard to bear this 'insoluble problem'... Why don't you talk to someone whom you can trust? Sometimes, talking means everything. But if you don't want the people surrounds you knows this pain you get through then rest assured because crying ease the pain... Sooner or later, the pain will subside and you will never cry anymore for all of this will be part of the past.

you sound like you need to speak with someone that is not in your everyday life. i know how it feels to have people in your life, but have some much on your heart that you have no one to share it all with. this is why i come to mylot. although this may not be enough. i don't know. perhaps you need to talk to a professional is this continues. it can spiral downward until you can't even get out of bed. please don't punish yourself during your stressful times. do things to take care of yourself. do things nice for yourself each and every single day. always remember no problem is insoluble, it's just that we haven't figured out the answer to the problem yet. good luck to you my friend, and be well.

We do not live in a perfect world. And no matter how much we try to make all things perfect for us, still, it is not enough. We get to show people that we are fine because we do not want them to be involved in our dilemma. We so not want them to get worried about us. We'd rather keep the pain to ourselves and pray that hopefully everything will be alright without them knowing what caused our pain.

Yes there are some strong people who face all the difficulties with a smiling face, my mother was a best example for me, she struggled a lot, my father never supported her she is being an illiterate encouraged me to study up to post graduation level, I surprised for her strong personality, life made her strong, she never loses faith tells me one day god will make you hero for your hard work and strength that you posses. I know the struggle behind the strong persons I admire those people who are strong.

Dear nezavisima I am a Chinese,my English is not very well.but when I looked your discussion,I really want to help you with standing your life,standing your heart..in our life various adverse must be faced .good luck I believe you can deal with it..praying you