New therapist??
By ctryhnny
@ctryhnny (3460)
United States
December 28, 2012 5:38pm CST
I saw my psychiatrist today and she thinks I need a therapist. I have a worker from the mental health agency that comes to visit me 2 times a month and I talk about everything to her but right now I'm having a problem because of some health issues I have and I'm obsessing over dieing! I lost 4 people this year to cancer and with my new health issues I can't stop thinking that my number is comeing up very soon. I know I should stop smoking and have tried it all with no success. Even though I know it's not good for me. Anyway, my psych wants me to see a real therapist because she thinks it will help me to have someone to talk to on a regular basis. I had a therapist years ago and just quit going because she really wasn't doing anything for me. What I expected her to do I don't know but I felt like she was just sitting there asking me questions that she had no answer for! So after the new year I'm going to make an appointment with the new therapist! Have you ever had a therapist? How did that work out for you?
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6 responses
@kunu111185 (211)
• India
29 Dec 12
Its good to have a new therapist who can really help you.But I also say you that you need to think about yourself. A therapist will give you instructions and guideline which you have to follow,nothing more he/she can do.Its time now for you to analyze yourself and need to control your emotions and try to stop smoking.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
I once thought of seeking help from a therapist when I was facing some issues a few years back. But then I realized, that if I just learn to control my emotions and think straight, I would be able to help myself without having to pay for a therapist. Well, it took a lot of time before I could teach myself to be "myself" again. I don't think all people can do the same, though. But if you think that you need a guide in helping you get out from your present situation, then I guess, that would be the best. Good Luck! I wish that the new year can give you a new hope as well.![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
28 Dec 12
I am currently seeing a therapist, I have been seeing her since 2009, I see her once a week and she knows me inside out now, sometimes I wonder if she knows me better than I know myself, it's long term, so she's there for however long I need her. I have been seeing therapists off and on since I was first diagnozed with clinical depression back in 2002. Some have worked, some have only been temporary. I know I can only see a female therapist, I don't feel comfortable with men, being in therapy is hard work, if you have the right therapist then it makes all the difference. It is important to be 100% honest and comfortable with them, any niggling doubts should be talked about, you matter, and if the type of therapy or the person is not helping you then it needs to be brought up. My pyschiatrist and I have seen many! recommended group therapy to me, I did 1.5 years of group therapy and found it very very helpful.
@ctryhnny (3460)
• United States
29 Dec 12
I too was diagnosed with clinical depression in 2000. I've had a number of therapist who did nothing for me. I also prefer a female and had a male for a very short time because I just didn't like him. I'm hoping I get one that will be with me for a long time. She might recommend group therapy too but I don't know if I can do that. I tried it once years ago and wasn't comfortable with it. I'm happy it was helpful to you.
@SpikeTheLobster (6403)
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29 Dec 12
The key part of your text is this:
"I had a therapist years ago and just quit going because she really wasn't doing anything for me. What I expected her to do I don't know but I felt like she was just sitting there asking me questions that she had no answer for!"
For example, you say that "she really wasn't doing anything for me. What I expected her to do I don't know" - if you don't know what you expected her to do, how can she not be doing it?
More importantly, you say "she was just sitting there asking me questions that she had no answer for"... that's what therapy is about. The idea is for YOU to find the answers, not to be given pretend solutions that might or might not work.
Therapy (assuming you're talking about a psychologist, not a counsellor or some kind of nonsense CBT setup) is designed to find the causes behind what you feel. Once you know why you feel a certain way, you can come to terms with it and rebuild things in a better way.
Otherwise you're just layering "solutions" on top of existing problems and while that may work for a while, those problems will come back and bite you in the butt some time.
Personally, I believe psychologists are about a million times better than psychiatrists: in my experience, the latter put you in a box, label you, throw some pills at you and pretend they've solved a problem... the former actually do solve the problem, though it takes a while.
But then I probably have a slightly distorted view, since my lady is a clinical psychologist! ![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@ethnicbilly (160)
• Indonesia
29 Dec 12
I don't have a therapist and hopefully I don't wont to deal whit them. My mom used to have a therapist and it's work for her, but only for a moment. I hope you will deal with professional therapist, and they will help your problem and solve it.
@BlessedWoman77 (34)
• Bermuda
29 Dec 12
I do have a therapist but they are not on earth. His name is Jesus and He is the best. He comforts me and gives me peace when I am depressed. I find rest and Hope in him. I used to smoke myself. But by the Grace of God I am delivered I told God to take the desire away from me.
Farther God in the Name of Jesus I lift this person up to you you know them by name you know everything about them write now I asked that you heal the hurts physically emotionally mentally spiritually in every area of there Life right now in Jesus Name.
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