I am in trouble! Who is the Mr. Right?
By tess_quinain
@tess_quinain (1149)
Philippines
December 28, 2012 9:45pm CST
I have been crying like a river trying to get over from a very painful past relationship. One day I prayed to meet a foreign guy and get a foreign boyfriend since I have had bad experiences having intimate relationship with my own kibd. I wanna try foreign men. Few days later my I got my prayer answered. I met a Canadian man online, had a date with a Korean guy, got sho cked of my Turkish student's confession that he liked me and wanted me to be his gf, was surprised when an Arab man said that i am his type and got a Japanese boyfriend. Wow, what a life.
Now, I have a Japanese boyfriend. I chose him and hoping that I made tge right choice.
When I think about this, I always find myself smiling. See how piwerful prayers are but still it's who have to make a decision and choose what is best for you.
Wish me luck ti my new love life!
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23 responses
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
31 Dec 12
Hi!
You have made friends with all corners of the world and now you have settled for Japanese boyfriend. I am not discouraging you but adjusting with a foreign guy who might have different culture than yours, will not be an easy task. On the other hand if you follow the same culture and/or religion, then things might work.
All the best to you.
@tess_quinain (1149)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Hello dpk26006! It's been ages we haven't exchanged messages. :)
You are right, it is not easy to be with a foreign boyfriend. We do have many differences especially religion and culture. When I think of it, it is indeed difficult but I love him so I have to understand and accept everything. Anyways, it might work or not. I don't know. But for now, I'm happy. :)
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
8 Jan 13
Yes, tess it has been ages since we communicated on the board.
It is good that you are magnanimously willing to accept the culture and traditions of your new boy friend.
Hope you succeed. All the best.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Dec 12
hi tess Good luck and gGod bless.If he loves you and is good to you and you love him, then go for it,.We all no matter what race are first and foremost human beings so I do wish you much luck and happiness too. I had my own mr right for 33 y ears so although I am
now a widow it was a great marriage and has left me with happy memories.
@tess_quinain (1149)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Hi Hatley! Thanks for writing something on my posts. I do love reading your comments and messages. Well, before i never thought of having a foreigner boyfriend since I don't want to have complicated relationship like different culture, religion and beliefs. But when I met this guy and got to know him a bit, I liked him and I felt comfortable with him. I do know how I fell in love with him but what I know is that i feel happy being with him. We just became couple and we just got to know each other. I don't know if this relationship will work or not but I hope for the best. I just keep on thinking positive things. Now, he's asking me to visit Japan and he said he will help me to go there. I am really happy to be with him. All I can say is that I am really inlove with this guy. I am willing to accept everything and sacrifice. Anyway, take care!
@artemeis (4194)
• China
30 Dec 12
I think I am right to say that there's no definite rules and guidelines to find or determine the right person. However, the main ingredient in all successful relationships is mutuality and without it there would not be any relationship at all. So, it does not matter where and who your other half comes from or is, if he does not love you even one bit or as much as you love him, then there's no relationship.
You may want to give credit to God, but please remember that God helps those who help themselves. If you do not want to open your door for another person, then there will never be any chance for you to be in another relationship. I am not going to dampen you about taking a person in a rush and hope that you will not enter into a relationship hastily. Take it easy and most of all, your time before you make your final decisions for all the next steps.
@jexuiq_05 (34)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
Just don't think too much. Life's better if you leave it as a 'come what may thing'. At saklap lang ng 'with my own kind', IMHO it's not a good idea to lump all guys in one bunch based on a single experience ;) Anyway, goodluck on your new love life :D
@bao10560 (21)
• China
30 Dec 12
Good luck!It was unbelieveable that the god's power was so great.But I think you do need to consider the difference of culture between you and your bf.You should think about what pattern of the life will be in daily life.Will there be language,traditional culture,foods questions and so on.After all,what matters most is that you know each other thoroughly.If he loves you truely and keeps this mind forever,he is most likely your Mr.Right.In a word,you are charming and good luck to you!
@mayrylflores (173)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
We cannot choose our Mr. right. We only hope for the best and love them back. Expect less love more.
@arreolabryan (856)
• Philippines
30 Dec 12
to find true happiness you need to take it slow. your pretty :)
@eagletrek2 (5499)
• Kingston, New York
29 Dec 12
Hi forget the past.work on the future,if the guy is Mr Right
you know it. just do not go out with some one becasue there
from other country,because you are lonely, and
becareful to some guys will say anything.if they know the
lady avlibale you some us guys just want 1 thing ,then they
drop the lady after they get it. then go to the next one.
if your instink say say the Japanese is good go for it.
but take your time.ok have a good day.
@NailTech (6874)
• United States
30 Dec 12
Good luck and I really don't know why you had to pray in the first place as you don't look like you'd be hard to find a BF of any race or religion. But prayers certainly do help in any case. I hope the Japanese BF is the right choice for you and you live happily ever after. Life is good.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
30 Dec 12
Sounds to me like you have it all messed up. Sit down, relax and take a deep breath. The right man will come to you soon. happy new years.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
30 Dec 12
Well, be careful what you pray for. My husband and I are an international couple. Our countries are next to each other and it was still a culture shock for both of us. I didn't expect such a culture shock between me, a Canadian and my husband who is an American. But when you find someone outside of your own background, you have to deal with the differences in your culture and upbringing - which, if you are willing to be open-minded, it can really be rewarding.
We joke about the differences in the weather in which we grew up in as my husband is from the south in the USA. I also lived in the south - but in Canada and what a difference in the weather!!!
So, it is exciting to find an international boyfriend and it can work! But expect to be learning how to manage the differences in the language, culture, country, traditions, etc.
I think it does help you to think in a broader sense, when you are in an international relationship, as both my husband and I have had to learn to consider each others' backgrounds, countries and cultures.
Wishing you all the best and hope you continue to have an exciting and interesting relationship with your Japanese boyfriend.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
I hope that your new relationship would be something that would make you grow as a person and that you can finally find yourself to be having that man for keeps.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
Haha this is great , you got an International boyfriends ! Just be careful and don't trust that much , they maybe that good but still don't trust that much we can't tell what is in their minds. Yes i agree , prayers are so powerful ! They can do wonders and miracles . Hope that Japanese will be the best for you , keep being good and don't stop asking for guidance from our Almighty.
@Crystalan (94)
• China
29 Dec 12
You are so lucky that you find your Mr.Right. I have the aweful relationship like you. I dare not to believe men cause they are very bad guy sometimes. I have thought to find a foreign bf. Pray that I will find my Mr.Right as you did. Good luck~
@Wolf2012 (24)
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29 Dec 12
Wow, how emotional you are ^_^ Different people have different viewpoint on LOVE...My point is,it's really not that important what nationality your partner is, the most important thing is: if he really loves you and at the same time,pls ask yourself what your final persuit is and if you love him,too...
Wish you and your JPN B.F. have a good FINAL...
@misjoseph (162)
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29 Dec 12
I wish you good luck and all the best i know how it feels. That is the reasons why you have to make this decision. I want every thing to work well with you two so there will not be no sorrow or any more pain GOOD LUCK! ALL THE BEST!