what to do to relatives who are on your friends' list?
By giggles721
@giggles721 (275)
Philippines
December 29, 2012 12:54am CST
hi mylotters!
lately i don't use my facebook because i've been busy in the real world but whenever i do find the time to login to it i find my facebook to be congested. i have a lot of relatives on my friends' list. some are my first degree cousins, aunts and uncles, nephews and nieces and so Facebook is a great way of connecting to them even if we hardly see each other. others are distant relatives and by distant i have 2 categories, first are those i've never met but are acquainted through this facebook page dedicated to us descendants of my great great grandfather. the second are those that are 2nd to 3rd degree cousins and relatives.
i find it annoying that those distant relatives appear on my news feed. maybe because they don't interest me or (from my point of view) they are simply using FB as a tool to show-off or boast. i do know that there's an option in FB to hide their posts but i find that tedious, specially with FB always updating their settings and all.
so would it be mean if i just delete them from my friends' list to get it over with? what if they send me a friend request again? and (hopefully not) what if i see them in person later in the future and they ask me about not being friends on facebook? i don't want to offend them but i'd rather get to know people personally rather than the virtual world of my FB, so what would you do?
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5 responses
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
29 Dec 12
When it comes to my facebook it's always filled with people that I talk to or see all of the time. Even family. If I never see them nor talk to them and they are very distance relatives then they are not on my facebook. They have no point because they are not invovled in my life nor my family. If they lived 5 minutes from me my whole life and we grow up together then that is different. So I would just delete people that you have no really contact with ever really nor do you want to see on your facebook it's that simple and I don't think they would really care much at all if you deleted them.
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
8 Jan 13
I have a photo alum of my husbands family reunion every year on facebook. But It's not and obligation unless you make it one. I don't feel bad if I don't add people from my husband side of the family that I only see once a year. If I see them all of the time we are friends other wise if I only see you once a year then you don't know me we are just people that just see each other for a few hours for 3 days once a year talk about how things are going and that is it. We also have a family page.
@giggles721 (275)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Hi SHyBear88,
I've actually met some of those distant relatives during our clan reunion last year and it's kind of like an obligation to be friends with them simply because they want their pictures to be tagged. I made that photo album of the reunion public so that I don't have to be friends with all of those I've captured during the event. But eventually the album was seen by a lot of distant relatives that would like to be friends with me. I would just have to ignore the rest of the friend requests I've been receiving and delete those distant relatives whom I haven't personally spoke with during the event.
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Dec 12
I'm just done so I can I just want friendship and I decide who my friends are.
because they do not want anyone to violate my privacy.
Yet in real life is one another and in Facebook.
you do not need any relatives who can only use it.
thank you for this discussion.
nice day!
@giggles721 (275)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Thanks nezavisima!
I know I should only be friends with those I would be friends with in real life. So for the distant relatives I might just delete them if I have no intentions of meeting them in person.
@chantalle25 (208)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
Hello, Maybe you can try to make a new fb profile, the other one would be for close friends and classmates while the other one are for those relatives and other people who are not really close to you. I have done this because I already have 1 thousand plus fb friends and it's really irritating to see a lot of post on my HOME page. After I have added them to my other account, I would block them to my other account so that they could not read any of my post which are full of drama sometimes :) but it's up to you, it is your decision :) good day!
@giggles721 (275)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Hi chantalle25,
I don't like the idea of having another account simply because I feel like I have 2 separate personalities if I do that. Another thing is that because my ex-boyfriend had done that before, having 2 accounts and it was the cause of a lot of fights. It's also kind of a hassle to upload things on 2 separate accounts but thanks anyway for the suggestion.
@rohanmona (159)
• India
30 Dec 12
Well i have just my real brother on my friend list. Others don't know of my facebook name or email id. I ignore friend request if any comes. Well There is an option of block which allows to block any person. It would appear to that relative that you have de activated or you no longer use fb. Anyway it would help you. Be calm dude!
@giggles721 (275)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Thanks rohanmoma,
I'll be scanning my friends list and delete those relatives I'm not personally close to.
@franseman (516)
• Philippines
29 Dec 12
I stopped adding relatives of relatives and friends of relatives. People I don't even know! My FB is for the people I know. To inform them how I'm doing since I left my home country. I don't need to have a huge friendslist.
@giggles721 (275)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Hi franseman,
I agree to that, I don't intend to have a lot of friends on my list too but it's those relatives who feel that we are or should be connected in FB that bothers me. I might just ignore the others friend requests but for those, about 20, relatives I've confirmed I might end up hiding them on my news feed.
