Cheating has No Place in the Marriage Bed!!!

It's impressive how we think today and still in this era where we claim to be stronger in any field, we fail to be strong when it comes to love. We want to see that change in our partner not because we know he/she may change after marriage but because we forcibly want to believe that my partner will never cheat on me once we get married. Hello! Ring a bell dear.. it aint Alice in Wonderland anymore. You need to be headstrong in talking about all this before you think of a future. You cannot just trust with what YOU want to believe. You never know what's going on in someone else's mind. Get your head right. Infidelity is heights of Immorality. You can live seeing your partner taking someone else to bed today, tomorrow or may be even a day after but you will never be able to trust him again. What's the use of such a relationship or marriage where there aint any trust left? Stand up for the self respect of your love. Do not let your heart super seat your mind. Good luck to you! :)

I have a friend who has had such an issue with her then boyfriend (now husband). The thing was that he cheated on my friend a couple of times and she even caught him on photos, photos of this boyfriend of hers so incautiously in his laptop and my friend got to see him in action - in a threesome, all naked with 2 women. So gross me and our common friends was so against him and his immorality for doing this to her. But he promised to change and all. Now when they were married, of course she just stayed on and had him cheat on her yet again. it was really sad that she has to endure all the drama and all the pain this man caused him. they had a brief separation, about 2 years when he finally realizes he wants his family complete and went to find her and their daughter.. now they are back together and hopefully he's learned his lesson.. that his family is more important than his need to fill his manly ego. I have had a boyfriend who cheated on me too, he vowed to change, to make it up to me, that he did not meant to cheat on me and so on... he thought it won't be discovered but he was discovered and Im no fool to give him this chance, he is only a boyfriend and if at this time he is capable of doing such, I am so sure he will be doing it again, thinking he got away with it the first time, more so if we happen to be married.

I do agree in much of what you say, but I'm not really into the statement of "once a cheater, always a cheater." Sometimes people leave the marriage bed for other reasons and it could be totally out of character for them to leave the marriage bed. I am not saying it's okay, but sometimes we are not getting the full story. Now, I do believe many people (generalizing for men and women) will be unfaithful no matter what they do or didn't do, because that is just the type of person they are. But saying once a cheater always a cheater is to much of a generalization. I do agree that if you walk down the aisle you want to make sure that someone is going to be faithful to you, but that's you trusting them. There is no way to tell if someone is going to be 100% faithful to you in your marriage. You just have to trust them with your whole heart and if you can't trust them, your instincts tell you to run, you better run.

Hi there. What you said is true...to some extent..that's what i believe. If you think vice versa, i mean if a person is cheated by someone else, it does not mean that this person will also be cheated after he/she marries.. Also, since we are humans, we should give one chance for a change of heart.

Whew! Couldn't say anything for I agree with you... It is so hard to change someone's outlook in life. But I am not that harsh with this cheating stuff... Maybe once can be forgiven but twice is too much to understand... ;)

Trust is the fundamental pillar of a relationship..Those who cheat they make the basic foundation weak and relation can not last long with a weak pillar.Cheater have a natural tendency to cheat and try to get away with that.So according to me we should not start a relationship with cheaters who can let us down anytime.

Well, I don't believe in "Once cheater always a cheater" kind of stuff. There are people whom I know have changed after their marriage and are totally faithful towards their partner. It is a question of winning someone's heart. It is very much possible though, let us admit it, it is very difficult and at times not practical.

I think that every person deserves a second chance. Not all people could be actually capable of intentionally hurting their partners. Some, just happens even if we do not want it to happen. I believe that a person that proposes his love to his partner can still be 100% faithful, if just given another chance.

I agree with you. It is very important for a person to think carefully about getting married to an individual who is known to cheat. That is just asking for trouble,drama, and pain. It can all be avoided by as you said thinking with your head. It so sad that many people enter these type of situations thinking they can change the other person.

You know, I don't agree with you. That is not always the case. In most cases yes, but not always... I was 19 and stupid, and immature yeah. I messed up and cheated ONE time on my husband who was my boyfriend at that time. I messed up, and I told him about it. Guess what? I GREW up, matured and never cheated on him again and NEVER would! Some people CAN change if they really want to. Its a matter of WANTING to change. I am not a cheater now, I love my husband with all of my heart and we have 3 beautiful children together and have been married for 8 years now. =) Not everyone is the same person, we are all different and so we should be treated. We should not judge everyone but one person's mistakes...

I have to disagree. It also depends on the person or the couple. People grow up and to say because some people are repeated offenders does not mean that every person will cheat again. Some people make mistakes and to generalize everyone is overall bad. Also if the couple is in an open relationship or open marriage, then there is no cheating to be done unless a rule is broken. And on a side note, everyone has different views on marriage as marriage is just a word used to describe two making a commitment to one another regardless of any type of affiliation with any belief or no belief.

Of course, that thing should never have a place in marriage, but sad to say it happens and not only once it happens several times within a relationship. I also actually don't understand why there are... specially girls, why would they agreed to get involved into a relationship knowing the guys is married. Don't they know what they are doing? I just don't understand both sides!