Last option when you commit mistakes
By mayrylflores
@mayrylflores (173)
Philippines
December 30, 2012 10:27pm CST
We are not perfect. We do have our own imperfections. Mistakes live with us in our day to day journey.
When we commit mistakes we say "sorry". That is common right?
But I have my own way of solving mistakes. When someone gets angry out of that mistakes, I never say sorry for the first time. I prefer to correct it by doing it again in the most acceptable manner. Correct your mistakes. If you always come late in school, office or a date then try to be early next time.
If you cant do it or its hard for you to try it then that's the best thing. Say "I'm sorry" but that would be the last option you can have.
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13 responses
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
31 Dec 12
Hi,
When I make a mistakes I do say sorry and correct it. Because the mistake already compromised someone, that is one thing to say sorry about. And correcting it is to make things right, to show that you are sincere with your sorry and didn't mean to do it, or have no intention of doing it again.
Welcome to mylot .
@zabuqamar (138)
• Australia
31 Dec 12
I think that makes sense, but you shouldnt apologize to the same person alot because he would think that you do not care and the "sorry" is something normal for you and you say it alot. But on the other hand if mistakes like being late for some body, you should say sorry and fix things with him/her.
@sreekutty (1051)
• India
31 Dec 12
Right, but there are some people who deliberately find fault. How to deal with such people especially if they are elders in the family? Tantrums of elders are much tougher to handle, sigh!
@sreelatha100172 (23)
• India
31 Dec 12
Great fact!!!.To tackle old people especially people of our parent's age group is quite tedious job.They make some mistakes and blame their grandchildren and are always ready for a cold war.They never admit that it's their mistake and ready to find other's faults.We can't find mistake neither among children nor parents.In such cases a generation in between has to struggle. "All part of life"
@GardenGerty (160663)
• United States
31 Dec 12
Prove you are sorry by doing things the right way. I often feel that is the best apology. It takes effort to change and we may only change one thing at a time.
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Jan 13
I do agree with what you are saying but I do thing people need to say something to let the other know that you plan to change your ways and not make this mistake again in the future. If not you may be in trouble because the other person doesn't know what you have planned.
@sreelatha100172 (23)
• India
31 Dec 12
Mistakes are not often made purposely.It happens due to various reasons like carelessness or unaware of the seriousness of the situations or due to some other's interference.The great thing after making a mistake is to admit that you have made a mistake and try not to make it again. Always be ready to correct your mistakes.First say a 'sorry' to whom you have made mistake in a gentle way, then ask how can you rectify it and ensure that it will never occur again.
@sreekutty (1051)
• India
31 Dec 12
Hi dear, I hope you have now understood the process here. Wishing you luck and Happy New Year
@karjatwala (1120)
• Pune, India
31 Dec 12
Yes true, sorry in the true sense would mean not repeating the same mistakes again.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
Sorry is useless if kept making the same mistake again.
Therefore, the best way to show remorse or regret is to do the right thing (correct if given the chance)
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
31 Dec 12
I say sorry first and then I correct the mistake, I make sure to do both so whoever it was that was upset with me would know I will not do it again and I really am sorry for whatever it was... Just doing one or the other is not enough to me, both is better. =)
@ShyBear88 (59347)
• Sterling, Virginia
31 Dec 12
For me it's not the last option. I always say I'm sorry when I'm wrong or made a mistake even when I don't feel I've done wrong I try to always say sorry because some times it's both of us that have done something.
@Arieles (2473)
• United States
31 Dec 12
You should only tell someone "I am sorry" if you truly mean it and it comes from a weary heart.
Making a false "sorry" statement is really worse than not saying "sorry" at all. An apology has to come from the heart and there should be true meaning behind the word "sorry." It should show in your face, in your voice and eyes.
An acquaintance was telling me about something that had happened to him. He was on the phone. I was genuinely sorry he had to "go through" that episode in his life, so I said "I am so sorry you had to go through that." What else could I say? I hope my voice told him how genuinely sorry I was.
But just saying your sorry because it's "the right thing to do" is the wrong thing to do. Someone who is sorry, should really show some remorse in their actions.
It really bothers me when people brush up against me in the store..and their reply is "oh sorry" and they rush off. Really? That person is not sorry at all. It was just a courtesy thing.
It's a good thing I have changed my attitude or people like this could make me mad. I changed my attitude, because I know deep in my heart and soul they will never change theirs.
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
31 Dec 12
I always say sorry first and then correct my mistake. Mistakes can give people disappointment, so to avoid further disappointment,I say sorry. But if in some situation where I can't correct my mistake, I'll just avoid the person or that certain situation that makes them upset.
@Pen_Pal777 (245)
• Philippines
31 Dec 12
when we commit mistakes unintentionally, it is easy to say "sorry" for that, and people tend to be forgiving if it appears we didn't do it purposely.
@Nursefrai06 (2498)
• Penrith, Australia
31 Dec 12
Actions do speak louder than words. I am a firm believer of that as well. Saying "I'm sorry" is like saying "I love you". the more you say it, and the more you take it for granted, the more it's weight gets reduced. These words are supposed to be sincere and they are not supposed to be abused. Besides no one wants a fake apology. When one says sorry, it is important that they really mean it and it comes from their heart. Besides if you just use words to get away with your actions, without trying to fix yourself, you prohibit yourself from growing and from making yourself a better person.