The Art of Letting go...how to handle?
By smurfysmurf
@smurfysmurf (651)
Philippines
January 2, 2013 1:47am CST
Hi Mylotters,
I am counting my days now since I am resigning from my work. It wasn't a tough decision since I needed to move on and head on to my next big step.
But as the days are coming to my last day, everything just sink in to me. I will definitely miss everything. I will miss the work that I am so accustomed with for the past 3 and a half years. I will surely miss the place or our department itself. And surely, I will definitely miss my colleagues who became a big part my learnings, challenges and sufferings.
It's 4 days more and my colleagues are always talking about my leave. I couldn't believe that this part is hard.
I don't want to make things hard...so the least I could do is to make the most out of everything....every experience and the quality time with my colleagues...
How did you handle yours?
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9 responses
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
11 Jan 13
HI sis!!!
Yes, it's hard to let it go like we will miss everything but I believe you will be fine after a while. It is normal to feel that way. I felt the same too and as time goes on I am getting to handle it well and yeah, I miss the time, the friends and everything and will treasure the memories.(^^)
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
14 Jan 13
Hi Sis!
It's been a week now since my last day at work and because I am busy with other things, I think I was pre-occupied with that. I feel like I was just in my indefinite leave and will just go back after.
I miss them so much and I miss working in there. I miss the work that I've grown accustomed to.
Right now, I am concentrating on what is really my priority...and that's also the reason why I can't be really active in here but I am trying my best to at least be here once in a while.
Have a great day!
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
i have had to leave about 3 jobs in the past, the hardest was my first job because i stayed for 6 years in that job - i practically "grew" up with a lot of people there and we all have had a lot of years to share. i never really think of the days but my team/friends shared a night with me, a send off party and they gave me a parting gift, they got me a wonderful watch, which i am still wearing to this day! :D
I handled pretty much as it is, i just miss them and still try to be in contact with them... I think you will be able to get over it quite quickly because if you have a new work to transfer to, then you'll be busy and excited to meet new friends and people.
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Hi Chiyosan,
Wow, 6 years? I've been having a hard time with just 3years...I mean, it's not yet the end like I won't be communicating them. But, I couldn't just let out the idea that I won't be seeing them everyday as what I am used to every single day...and it just hurt that they keep on telling me that I have to leave too soon.
And yeah, I am heading on to my next step and I am excited now to meet new people. I am hoping I will get over it quickly as what you've said.
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
24 Feb 13
Yeah!! that was 6 years and we almost grew up in the same place if you ask me and yes it was really hard letting go. But i am sure you will still be in contact with them (as i have been with my friends in the work/company i have left).
I hope you are doing great with the new work, have you started in it already now? =)
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
2 Jan 13
Well, I have been with my job now just about 6 1/2 yrs. There is good things and bad things associated with being there, and personally would Love to find something else closer, but due to the economy I stick where I am at. But I have been with other jobs a while, and even if I do not always miss the job, I miss some of the people I have dealt with along the way.
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
Hi Krause,
I've also been to other jobs but it was just a short stay like a few months and I didn't have a chance to be closer to my colleagues that's why leaving them wasn't hard. Unlike now, we already had a great bond...and we did work our way to have that bond.
For sure, we will surely miss those people who became a big part of us.
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
Hi Manda,
Yeah, I will definitely let them know. They are a big part of my life..and though I am leaving, it doesn't mean the communication stop there. Though it may not be like the usual, still, we can keep up with the friendship.
I will surely miss them and I hope they will also feel the same way.
Happy New Year!!
Happy New Year!!
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
2 Jan 13
I am having the opposite problem and so is my husband-we wish we could find a job! Lol.
I wish you the best of luck with your new adventure in life though. =-)
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
Hi there,
Don't give up.
You will definitely find that job which is really the right one for you.
As for me, I am scared about this path I am heading...and it's going on in my nerves since it's really a grand turning point.
Have a great day!
Have a great day!
@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
2 Jan 13
It is always difficult to let go, but brace yourself that 'That is life'. If you want to grow and need to expand your horizons and meet new people, then you are doing the right thing. there will be fear and uncertainty, but that is normal, so try to relax and get ready for a new adventure!
@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
Hi Dee,
I am not into meeting new faces. I am quite a shy type...but I do want to explore and expand myself to a better opportunity. I wanted to move on but I just couldn't believe that I will have a hard time about it. I mean, I thought it's just ordinary...
Anyways, I am really excited yet scared with this new path that I was planning..
Have a great day!
@Paper_Doll (2373)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
I remember that it was too hard for me to leave my last job because my colleagues are like a family to me. I've been with them for 3 years and that was the longest period I've stayed in a company. But as much as I wanted to stay with them, I had to consider other factors so I transferred to another office. It took me a while to adjust, in fact I visit them almost everyday during the first month. I think that we should not think that we lost them just because we transferred to a different office. Once in a while, we still go out. We still communicate with each other through phone, facebook and ym.
@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
With a variety of ways to communicate, we can really keep up our friendship. But I believe that it will totally be different from what we are used to...like seeing each other and talk to each or joke about each other with regards to our job.
I just hope things will not change that much and we can just continue the communication...
Hope all is well.
@sunshinesophie (794)
• China
2 Jan 13
It is impossible for us to stay in a place forever.Life still moves on everyday.I know how you feel now coz I had the same experience with you.I hate to part with my colleagues and the place I am familiar with.But I have no choices if we want to strive for a better life.No pain,no gain,right?
Try to let it be and give youself some time to relax,when you start with a new job,hope you can adjust it soon.Wish all the best.
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@smurfysmurf (651)
• Philippines
2 Jan 13
Hi Sunshine,
Yeah, we need to risk...and risk includes a lot of things. It will not be the same job as it is and I will terribly miss my work place.
I couldn't believe that this time would really come.
I am trying to relax myself now since I've been sick these past few days and I would definitely get that total relaxation as my last day is coming soon.
Wish you all the best as well.
@yeezermac (145)
• Singapore, Singapore
20 Oct 15
This part is indeed very hard, especially if emotive bonds have been made. It would be so much easier top treat it like a bandaid and just leave. No goodbyes, no tears. Just go.
