How do you manage to smile at this world which has been, at many times, cruel?

Very nice and true to life hypothetical question. I always believe that a smile is contagious. When I was with my father, in the heart center, I was just outside the Intensive .Care Unit, I was with patient's daughter. We were there in case the doc wanted to ask something about. The patient or if there is a need to buy medicine outside the hospital. I happened to look at this woman. And I noticed she was always smiling at me. I thought she might wanted t o talk to me to comfort each other for her father was in the ICU, too. So, I noticed she kept on smiling at me, and I smiled back t her. Then we stArted small conversation and we started to comfort e each other, Again she was always smiling. Along the way, through conversation she always smile.... Until I realized that she was not really smiling at me, but she had tics. It was a kind of disorder that makes a person do involuntary spam, muscle movements or twitches. We became friends, thinking that she was smiling at me. In your discussion, how can I smile while the world is rude and mean? Why not? Would I press on the misfortunes, negative trials and challenges on my shoulders... No way, I will just smile at it. Remember if you smile, the world smiles with you and if you cry, you will cry alone. http://www.webmd.com/brain/tic-disorders-and_twitches

Sometimes in life, we stumble upon hardships and problems. This is very common because life is not just about good but also experiencing its bad side. What I normally do, when I am in such situation is to think positively and smile even though I am experiencing such bad situations, putting a positive slate on every negative encounters help you solve your hardships in a way that you are motivated to do eliminate such problems.

The world is not cruel...People are cruel. I just ignore cruelty, unless I can stop someone from hurting someone else. I believe that children are born neutral and must either be filled with good or evil...They learn behavior from those around them. Your conscience is 80% formed by the age of 3. The rest is hard work finishing it as more influence starts coming in from outside the family. If a child is brought up in a loving moral home, it has a very good chance of being so too. If not, you have a person who has the potential to be cruel. If you surround yourself with people who are good and moral, then you do not have to deal with cruelty very often. Nor a negative aura as you put it. There is too much beauty in this world to let negativity get to you.

Despite the negative things that happen around us everyday, those cruelty, unjust and unfair treatment we get from other people, I still find that life is worth living. I am very grateful for each day that God gave me. Whenever I think of those kind of people, I always tell myself that the world is round and nothing is constant. Sooner or later, in one way or another, one of us will have to leave and so, we won't have to deal with this person for the rest of our lives. I weigh things and think of the things that are more important to me than these kind of people. They aren't paying me for being annoyed so why I would waste my time for them I know it is pretty hard to do at first especially if you aren't used to this kind of people but it can be learned.

It is true that the world has been many a times cruel to us in its own ways. But then, isn't that what life is all about? When you are hurt for a few times, you will be all dejected and worried about it. But then, when it keeps happening a lot and when you learn that it keeps happening no matter what, then you learn to let go off things and you learn to forgive and forget whatever is happening. This is what life is all about. Then after sometime, you learn to smile at everything and anything. That is when you say that you have matured and you have learnt to live life.

By thinking of all the good things that happened to my life. The world may be cruel or I may experience cruelty from other people but I'm not the only one. I always think that I am still fortunate because...(I will then count my blessings). Cruel people will never be happy. My ex boss was very cruel to me always shouts, saying bad words and throwing things here and there. I resigned and I felt like a heavy load was lifted on my shoulder. I guess I just have to do something about it so that I can smile and laugh again. By the way, he's begging me to come back ((I'm his assistant for 9 years) but I will never go back to that stressful work again.

Because its not that way 24/7. There are plenty of happy moments and kind people mixed in, but some people choose to only notice the bad side of things. When people are cruel to me, I might feel bad for a little bit, but it doesn't have to stay that way. I can sit around and pout all day or choose to get over it and cheer up.

I really think that in situations like this where you can see that the world has been cruel to you, the only way that you are ever really able to smile is if you are an optimistic person and you are able to see the positive in every situation that you face in your life. For me, there are many times when I am not able to see the positive in a situation and in those times I do find it impossible to be able to smile. However, my way of thinking is starting to change and I am finding that I can find a good thing in almost every situation that I face in my life and I am able to find a reason to smile.

I sigh, shake my head and move on. There are some moments where I really felt genuine happiness and I try to revel in it. I just try to feel everything in the moment and try to move on.

I have just made the choice to be happy. I know the world can be cruel and unkind, but we have to look at the good in our lives everyday. Everything we do everyday is a choice. We can choose to be bitter, angry, hurt and upset. Yes, you will be upset when something bad happens to you and it's your right to be upset. What is not okay is to continue to be upset the whole day because someone in the morning traffic cut you off or cut in front of you in line at the check out lane. When other people do those things, it speaks to their character, and has nothing to do with you. How you choose to react to it, does have something to do with you and how you choose to live your life. We have to make a conscious choice to be happy. Lincoln himself said, "You are only as happy as you choose to be." And it's true; happiness is a choice. We choose to be happy and we will be happy. People around you will feel your happy spirit and they will be happy too. I am not saying life is all chocolate donuts and cupcakess, but we do have to work at being "happy." You know the phrase, "fake it til you make it?" Well, that's what it really all comes down to. Happy New Year to you too

I stopped smiling a long time ago. And I am struggling to make a difference in my own life, it's almost impossible to make a difference anywhere else. For now.

Its very hard sometimes... I ve had a rough few years here. But I always try and keep a smile on my face.

I think the world will end being cruel when the number of the smiling people have arisen to the highest level.

Well my solution is music and give way less care for things that aren't really that important.For the important things, cruel or not, the life is to be lived, so even when bad things happen, look over them.

Happy New Year to you too. Sometimes I am surprised that I smile. But honestly, it is my belief in god that makes me smile. Like whenever I feel really in dumps, and I assure you, I can really panic, he has a way to send along something to make me realize things are getting better. Sometimes problems do come in multiples. Cruelties just dont leave the mind. And right then, there is some good news, which even though small, can make me feel, wow. And take my mind away from the cruelty meted out to me. In due course, the cruelty starts losing its importance. So to me, faith in god is important, and having a few good friends is.

hi there bingskee, indeed it is quite hard to smile when you are carrying a big baggage from your back. however, it is more difficult if you will just dwell on the sad things, hence, life is too short to just dwell on it. so in this regard, though life is cruel at many times, one must learn how to smile and move on. after all, life is like a rosary as they say, since it is full of mystery.

Dear Ms Bingskee Happy 2013 to you and your loved ones. I have a simple rule which I have been following since I started getting healthy in 2008 - I dont think too much. That helps me weed out many things which cause hurt to me. The ones which seep through, I leave them to the Lord to take the right action and forget about it. I wont lie, such things do keep returning to me as I am no expert - but then, everytime they come back, I think... okay, it is good that things were this tough or cruel. They could have been tougher and more cruel to me... It is just that I see the other sides and not the normal sides which show the cruelty. I have to do this not because I cannot win the cruel people or inflict them more damage that they do to me, but it is because I believe that there has to be someone between us who has to shut down completely, just to avoid further hurt - as I think, if I too participate in the hurting game, there is no end to the game and unlike many other better games where one wins, here all lose. So better to shutdown and leave the game midway... At least I am at peace

Life isn't perfect. And no matter how much we try to give our family the best of everything, sometimes, it is just not possible. But despite all these, we try to still see the brighter things in life.

I am starting to realize that being happy is a choice, you either choose it or you don't. Plain and simple. What brings me the most joy is when I see my children happy. If their happy it makes me happy. =) My kids bring my the most happiness. Without my husband and children I would not choose to be as happy as I am...

That has been my question too, how do we or how do I manage to smile after all that is happening that is not perfect or even cruel. I guess faith in God helps,sometimes when we are broken and battered in life we tend to be more sober and more God seeking then we seem to get some comfort and manage to brush ourselves and start life all over again.