love is truly blind in marriage
By pomwango
@pomwango (1353)
Kenya
January 3, 2013 12:36am CST
i find it interesting that when you fall in love and get married then you face reality.before you could fantasize about the kind of person you were to get married to but once you meet the special person the fantasies go and you like them as they are.you will still love him after he has started having a bald head or has begun grey hair,you will still find him looking handsome with his big stomach .with the ladies she may gain weight and loose the figure you fell in love with but it doesn't make you love her any less,do you love the changes in your spouse as they keep aging or would you rather they remained like the person you married?
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@iluvusabado (2560)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
with all due respect, i don't believe love is blind. you can say that love refuses to see things especially the physical level. you are more focused on the personality of the person.
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@ccmacarayan (188)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Married people goes through different levels of LOVE as the years go by. At first, they are lovers and are drawn more in terms of their passionate desire and intimacy. As they age, their love transcends another level where the physical is no longer the main attraction and partners are bonded on an emotional plateau.
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I think it's learning to accept and respect 
Part of loving a person is to accept the changes in him and respect his choices.
Have a nice day!
Part of loving a person is to accept the changes in him and respect his choices.
Have a nice day!@pomwango (1353)
• Kenya
4 Jan 13
thats true,we learn and accept each other but we should make a point not to do things that will make our partners feel bad like intentionally getting a look that may embarrass or annoy our spouse.the changes we accept of eachother should be natural for me to go and dye my hair a colour my partner may find awful isn't part of accepting eachother.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
3 Jan 13
Yeah at the beginning of relationships things are so great. We have so many strong emotions toward the person we are with. We think the world of them and vice versa. After all that is why most people get married. But like you said after all of that hopefully we will continue to love one another and support each other.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
4 Jan 13
Yes it is very important that the love in the relationship stays there. This means so much in a relationship. Couples can endure very hard times if they keep their love strong and strive to keep building respect for one another. Those who have been together for a long time and have are happy work at these things.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
3 Jan 13
Sorry but I do not agree with you. I won't find my husband handsome if he gains a lot of weight or his stomach is big. Also not if he badly shaved or dressed or stinks. I am not that blind and I am sure he won't be that blind either if it comes to me. Like most men, since many men do abandon their wives as soon as she is pregnant or the first kids are there for a younger, way better looking one. If it comes to being blind I think mostly women are (or they prefer to stay blind). I don't care about aging (I know what my father in law looks like so my husband will look like that too one day) but that is not the same as taking badly care of yourself. BTW I don't care about a bold head or grey hair.
@pomwango (1353)
• Kenya
4 Jan 13
thanks for sharing,i dont mean the excess bad things like someone stinking and such and refusing to take care of himself but the changes that come with aging and also contentment.i agree we should always strive to take care to look nice for our spouses but we can agree not to be extreme.my friend had to keep being on a diet and starving herself because her man was small bodied and she didnt want him to feel like she was getting too fat but it got to a point she became ill because her body was lacking so much.had her man accepted her to gain just abit this need not have happened.
@kunu111185 (211)
• India
4 Jan 13
You are absolutely correct and I feel exactly the same way you do.I did love marriage 3 years ago and now both of us had undergone many structural changes like I am completely bald now and she also put 15 kg more weight but still we love each other the same way we were doing earlier.I don't think true love has anything to do with structural appearance rather it is the identification and mutual understanding of souls.
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
3 Jan 13
Hahaha... I truly agreed with you.
Love in blind. I always wanted to
marry a tall, dark and handsome 'prince' charming
but I ended up with an elderly, short with tummy
husband. At times I asked myself why I married him
in the first place??
Many couples who
really love each other like one of my close friend,
even the hubby is bold with tummy ...she said he is
still the one the best looking in her eyes!
Thus the saying goes : 'Beauty lies in the eyes of the Beholder"
Many couples who
really love each other like one of my close friend,
even the hubby is bold with tummy ...she said he is
still the one the best looking in her eyes!
Thus the saying goes : 'Beauty lies in the eyes of the Beholder"
@quieley (316)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I have a high standard before I met my husband. But now I have no regrets marrying him. I don't think love is blind..What I know is, I see something in him that others fail to see :)
