Alone and happy

@allknowing (136407)
India
January 3, 2013 9:30am CST
Have you ever longed to be alone with none around you. Just you and your thoughts. Doing every thing at your pace. Be it sleeping, eating, reading, watching tv, being on the pc, calling up friends, all at your own pace with none to bother you? Try it. And make it a day to remember.
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• China
3 Jan 13
I like being alone.I enjoy staying at home alone,do whatever I want.And I really do not into parties,I hate noisy.So I do not hang out with friends quite often.
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@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
When I say alone - simply alone with none to breathe down your neck atleast for one day There are so many things that one dreams of doing but cannot just because others are around. If you are in that situation good for you to be that way once in a way. @prashu - That is you prashu and no one should call you odd.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
3 Jan 13
Hi i agree ,and i like to spend more time with myself all alone.I too dont like parties as well. I dont like to hand out with friends often many say /see it as a defect . Now i sometimes get the doubt is it? No i am normal like others but i have my comfortable zone like others is what is think/say to myself always.
@prashu228 (37524)
• India
4 Jan 13
@deiusz (193)
• Indonesia
4 Jan 13
ah i've got that experience when in college when i rented a room because not every time we can go out with friends. there are positive n negative thing when nobody around us. we can do anything what we like to do, watching, reading, eating, n others but badly when we sick or need help, there's nobody around us to help us or when we got trouble for something. there is condition which is not good there's no body around us when we need help.
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@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
What I have suggested here is a 'day in' just as we want a 'day out' It is specially for those who do not have space or time to spend time alone. For them a day to be called their own is bliss!
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@Archie0 (5652)
4 Jan 13
Most of my time i spend is alone. As i live here in another city far from my family with my sister. She has work in day to attend. Right these days i am jobless. So i be at home, working on my lot and other sites, i am all alone. I love to be alone now. I have been this since years and now i cannot do or adjust much in a crowd. I fear that i have lost socializing
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
I was recommending a 'day in' for those who otherwise have no space which they can call their own. In your case it is just the opposite. You should get out and start socialising.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
I have also wished the same. But since I am a mother and my kids need me most of the time, it is really impossible for me to have that time alone. But when I used to be working at the pharmacy, I would be going to the mall after work and just spend an hour or two just strolling. Sometimes, I don't realize that I have come home already. My thoughts are away coz of some things bothering me. So now, my "ME" time would be the time when all kids have gone to school and my husband is off to work. Well, at least I get to have atleast 4 hours of peace and quiet. (Just as long as my SIL doesn't wake up early and ask me to go malling at 10am!)
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
I will not call that a 'day in' A day completely for you and your thoughts completely for you. You should try and work it out. And when you experience it you will feel that is the most memorable day of your life time. Imagine taking your own time for that luxurious bath, loitering around with not a care in the world, eating your favourite food, watching your favourite movie without any one grabbing that remote from you --- I could go on and on. Just try it and good luck to you jenny.....
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
Keep hoping for it. In fact both of you should get it. Work towards it and when you finally get it you will know what I am talking about.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Well, I know what you mean, allknowing. But it's just not possible most especially if my husband would be out of the house most of the time and there is no on left to tend to the kids. It will create a huge fight if I insist on getting that "ME" time.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
4 Jan 13
I have felt that way. It rarely happens for me but I do enjoy it when I can. Sometimes it may be only a twenty minute break. But when I know something like that is happening I try to do what I would like to as fast as I can. When I have no longer periods of time I'm able to relax more.
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
Every one in the family should work towards it and all should have the opportunity to spend time alone. It even improves relationships.
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@allknowing (136407)
• India
5 Jan 13
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• United States
4 Jan 13
I agree with you. It does improve relationships. We all need that time to ourselves every now and then.I know I really enjoy the time on weekends that I have made for myself so that I can go out for a little bit and just have that time for me. It's once a week but it is really needed. Because after all raising a child is a 24/7 job.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Yes i have experienced such and very true it feels so good. You felt no hassles nor pressure from anything . As if for one day you are able to hold life ! It's a great feeling ! You don't think of anyone or anything , it is you and the world !
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@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
Every one should be doing, children included. It is a way to purge our mind of unnecessary thoughts atleast for a day.
• United States
3 Jan 13
I am always alone and have been for many years. It's got its ups and downs. I have to have either the stereo on or the tv to keep me company. I do like the fact that I can do as I please every single day. That part is nice but after so many years, it does get old and sort of lonely. I don't think I'd want to get married again but I can't say that for sure since I haven't met anyone that interests me or has my same interests either. My daughters do keep tabs on me though and I talk with them about every other day, so that breaks things up...love my girls.
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
I was just talking about a day in just as people long for a day out. Yours is not a unique situation as there are many who live alone specially with the nucleus family concept. Getting married again has its plus and minus points - more minus I would think specially when one has learnt to live alone and to be able to adjust to someone who would demand your space and time needs to be considered before taking the plunge.
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
I've been like that for a while before. For the first few days, you'll feel serenity and peace, or whatever yoga limbo jumbo term it is. Having time for yourself is important, and it feels great having this privacy, but it doesn't mean one can take advantage of it. I learned this when I was a bum for months already. I felt like I wanted to do something productive and not waste my time with video games, movies, internet and others. I'm sure you don't intend to do this for a long time, I'm just sharing my thoughts. My PlayStation had not been used for a long time now, and I feel like going back to that lifestyle anytime soon. I've been working for a long time now and I feel like taking a big break from it.
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
What I have said is just a day! Just like people have a day out this is a day in. Just you and no one else, doing what you want to do and there couild be millions of things that you do better left alone. And in your case you really have taken advantage of this situation and have extended many, many one days!
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
7 Apr 13
actually i already experienced that when i worked far in my house,i ate,slept,and many things doing alone,because all my board mates also busy with their work too like me,its a little bit sad because no one to be with you and you will alone to be happy.
@allknowing (136407)
• India
7 Apr 13
That could be sad if it is on an ongoing basis. But I am talking about having a day to yourself.But as they say what cant be cured has to be endured and so you must have made the best of the situation you are in or were in.
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I admire you for taking time, good time, to be alone and be yourself with no other person or something bothering you and your thoughts. I believe that at a lot of points in our life, we need to be alone and commune with ourselves, and to our Creator. It helps us to settle for what is important in life. Being alone doesn't mean, of course, being lonely. It is one way of de-stressing ourselves from a busy kind-of-world we have. I hope to have more time alone for meditation and working on my inner self.
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
Today's generation which chooses noise over everything else needs this kind of space and they should be provided with this space.
@Suebee (2013)
• Canada
3 Jan 13
Since I am an "empty nester" and my husband works days and I work evenings I am very fortunate in that I have quite a bit of alone time. As much as I love to spend time with my husband I am also very comfortable with my alone time and quite enjoy it. I play on the net, read, tidy up my condo, meditate, do craft projects. I truly enjoy my own company.
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
All said and done Suebee there is so much one can achieve if one is left alone to pursue one's aspirations. With none to disturb the thought process one can do volumes to one's efforts.
@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I think I really want to do that however I cannot at the moment. I have a three year old son to attend to. Maybe someday when he is grown up already. :-)
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
It is a great feeling to be away from it all and doing what one wants to do with gay abandon. Since you feel it will make you happy I am sure you will soon find it.
• Greece
3 Jan 13
I do it most of the time. To just relax and reflect on my life or forget the stress and problems around me. i know most people prefer to go out and enjoy their holidays and day offs outside but I prefer some alone time, sleeping or watching a good movie.
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
Just you and no one else makes a difference. And this scenario is not possible on a daily basis but once in a way if the house is left all for you to do what you want to that kind of experience is unique.
@Emre1206 (41)
• Turkey
4 Jan 13
Yes I think it is a great feeling to be alone all day that is what i miss all the time.Because i often feel myself lonely among the crowds :) Sure it depends on the situation but I like to decide what i want to do all day, I can't help it.
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
I don't think it is a bonus but a necessity. Every one needs to get away from it all and get that space just to unwind, doing just the things that would help one relax.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
3 Jan 13
No allknowing! I would not like it.As such I can stay in a room and do some writing or reading at my will with no interruptions. In our house we all go about our work with no interruption whatsoever, whenever we do something.Of course doing housework or cooking food for all would consume a lot of my time [now my maid is playing truant and am facing a bit of hardship but I hope to get it rectified soon]but generally none of us go the other person's way.So I have never longed for this solitude; it is right now available to me because the other two people at home are watching some film and I am typing away at mylot in another room.Even if it is the same room, I can still sit and read a novel for hours and no one will ask me anything.
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
Try doing it once. Just you. I know the kind of solitude you have at the moment but that is not what I am talking about. Just you in the whole house - free as a lark doing things that you would not want others to hear or see. Have you ever tried singing at the time you wanted to? Have you tried to sleep on the couch rather than your own bed? Have you tried cooking something that others do not like? The list is endless kala. Try it once and make it a day to remember!
• Valdosta, Georgia
3 Jan 13
With three young kids and a husband I don't think it would ever happen for me! Lol. But if it did and it was only for one day I would enjoy it to the fullest since I never get that. More than a day I would be going crazy though.
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
Do it for one day and make it a day to remember. Just you and your thoughts LMB. Doing what you want to do which otherwise you cannot do. There are so many things that remain unattended just because others are around. Even cooking something just for you can make you fee special. I could go on and on..........
• Philippines
3 Jan 13
When I was little, I always want some alone time since we are many and I don't have my own room. I always wish that I have time alone to study and get rid of all the noise so I was really determined to get my own place. Now that I have one, I am happy that I can work silently and have time alone.
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
So you are having it already. Then may be now you are tired of it and would like to have some noise around you?
• China
3 Jan 13
If I am down,staying alone may be not a good choice,which would make me more immerse in the sadness.But if I want to escape from somewhere,I would enjoy being alone.It is little likely to get harassed by someone.All the time and schedules are on my own.I would like to have a try someday. Have a nice day.
@allknowing (136407)
• India
4 Jan 13
You should do it to feel it. It is nice to be yourself once in a way!
4 Jan 13
Itself was a lonely could means also that the loneliness can be happiness. if someone undo itself was definitely a lo of trouble. if someone says the word themselves with scream means crazy. when someone smile, laughs to remember something that makes him seem