sacrifice or quit?
By Daisy_22
@Daisy_22 (1229)
Philippines
January 3, 2013 5:57pm CST
What would you do if you're not happy anymore with your work?You feel useless and dull for the purpose is being defeated already?Are you going to sacrifice and stay forsake of your family responsibilty especially when it talks about money?I need to grow but staying my job now only deteriorates my knowledge and gwroth.I'm confused about my situation.Hope to hear brilliant suggestions that might help me.Thanks.
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20 responses
@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Jan 13
If I was unhappy with the type of work I would get in touch with the Department of Labor and talk to one of their reps. See what the jobs are that are available and that need people in now. I would see about one them. See if I am knowledgeable to get into that line of work. If I am I would then check for job openings in that type of work and on my days off apply. Our look into schooling for one of the jobs listed. If it is just this particular job then I would take it upon myself to use my days off to find other work. Ofcourse if I did find a job I would give my two weeks notice so I wouldn't leave my present job short staffed.
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@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
5 Jan 13
I sure think so. ANd then if you need to put them on a resume later on you can with a clear concious.
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@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
4 Jan 13
Hi friend, i am not interested in quitting job, so i will stay with them and try my best to conquer . For me family and kids are important
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Absolutely.Money is necessary for it provides our important needs in order to survive but happiness is excluded to that. We are the only one who can make our self happy. We are the captain of our own self. For me money is useless if you're not happy. You can buy all the material things in life but not your happiness.
@IntrovertShy (2780)
• Marikina, Philippines
4 Jan 13
In my experience, my happiness was gone, but I know I'll get it someday. It is just I priortize my family first before myself. I don't know why I am doing this, but it is just me. It depends on person I guess. If what makes you happy, you can tell it to your family. Maybe they would understand you.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
4 Jan 13
Stay until you find a new job. The whole purpose of earning money is to provide for your family. You can always grow as a person outside of your job. My dad did a lot of volunteer work, even though he worked at a job he really didn't like. He stayed with his job because it provided for our family. His fulfillment as a person was with his family and doing volunteer work.
On your hours off, you can grow as a person by spending time with your family, studying, volunteer work, etc.
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
My family is always been so supportive to whatever decision I will make. They can't also blame me if I feel like this since after I graduated from university I worked directly and I guess It's time for me to have some vacation. I've already trying my best to give and provides their needs for quite a long time.
@greenthumb018 (595)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I worked for a horrible boss for 9 years who's always yelling and throwing things but pays really high and always have freebies, coupons etc for me. I was the one paying for my sister's college tuition so I stayed even if I'm not happy and always stressed. What I did was I really saved the money, bonuses, any incentives that he gave me. I did not travel for leisure and planned on having a business of my own. Before I resigned, I got hospitalized due to stress and he wants me to go back to work right away. I was crying for I was not feeling well and after a week, I resigned. I may not be earning as much as before but I'm healthy, happy and holds my own schedule. No one calls me on Sundays to work so my situation now is priceless.
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
You're situation is really far behind with mine. I'm not happy because I'm not learning much from I expected but I 'm not physically harass just what you've mention.If I were you that time, I will not wait to end up being hospitalized before resigning that job.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
7 Jan 13
Hi Daisy: I think it's a terrible situation when you don't feel satisfied going to the job, maybe because it's not what you love to do or because the atmosphere in your working area is not comfortable for you. I think the best choice would be to find something else. But people have families and we live economical difficulties. It's risky to just quit when you don't know what to do next. An option could be to start trying to search for another job or a plan b before quitting and while you have to sacrifice do some things that are up to you to improve your attitude and make you feel more comfortable while you work.
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@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
I think better look for a new job, simple as that. It's more likely that you would end up miserable if you're not growing as a person with the kind of work you do. There is a big difference in enjoying the things that you do and being forced to do.
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Having the responsibility of providing family needs sometimes the reason why I last for about a year with this job.I tried to convince myself that this is best for me because it is relaxing and the compensation is quit good.However I just realized that I personally making myself stagnant.It seems that I'm in prison with my own decisions and I do regret it.
@acrossnation (773)
• Malaysia
4 Jan 13
Hi Daisy, believe it or not it is very common to lose interest in your job. Some research done shows that many employees becomes distracted after 15 mins of working and almost anything can make employee to become distracted for example noise, or unorganized office If your working place is convenient and there are more advantages for you to stay i suggest you should stay. However there are ways for you to stay focused in your job so you become the most senior staff at your workplace.Imagine if you are to be in a new environment with younger staff ordering you what to do, it will get you to where you are at the beginning. Stay with MyLot constantly will help your knowledge grow as it has done for others too. Stay focus at your job, have a good rest before going to work, eat good breaksfast,pinpoint your reason to lose focus then try to fix it, be accountable etc etc and learn about your company organization, aim for the next post available in your company hopefully in no time those who/what have been bothering you might be taking orders from you and only knows how to fix it. All the best.
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Staying in mylot is not a bad idea however I know myself that I'm not that good writer to gain as much as my compensation while working in a certain company.But it is a good idea to stay in this site to let me grow as an indiviual by interacting people from diffferent part of the qorld.Actually I'm thankful for my friend who introduces me this site.
@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
It is always the financial side that keeps many people in their jobs even if they are no longer happy with it. I did that for a lot of years because I didn't want the family to suffer. However, it is not right to stay stagnant in a career where there is no hope of growing. There are plenty of jobs available so why don't you try looking for one? Just keep everything to yourself until you are quite sure you will be hired. There is always something better to look forward to as long as you are determined to move on.
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
Well that is my ultimate plan within his year.I' m looking forward to grow as a person even if the compensation will not be equivalent before.You are also corrrect that sometimes we are only force to apply for a job we don't like or even job which is not inline with our profession becaus of a tempting high compensation.
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
4 Jan 13
Weigh the consequences and make an assessment before making a decision.
Personally, I would not be staying in a job if I am not happy with it. But of course you have to find another one before you leave. Well, you could also evaluate if there is still a chance of making your situation better on the job you have right now.
Have a nice day!
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
4 Jan 13
Sometimes we have to stay with a job we may like like. At least till we find another one. If you think you can find another one fast, ok. If not.. then stick with this one awhile longer... Take care there....
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
You're absolutely true.It is not easy to look for a job.IN fact there a lot of professsionals unemployed nowadays.I guess what you've said is best for me to do,I need to search first a job as a replacement before I will formally resign in my current company.
@Daisy_22 (1229)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
That is really a clever decision for me to make.Absolutely true,looking for a job is not that easy for competition is really thet high especially that there are a lot of fresh graduates. Opportunities nowadays is very rare that we ought to grab if there will be on our way.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
4 Jan 13
If it pays well and I'm able to support my family on it, then I would do my best to stay, no matter how boring the job may be. But that's just me. With that said, if you are that bored with your job and it's taking a toll on you, why not seek out other employment opportunities? It can't hurt to look, after all. And you never know, you may just find the job you've been looking for. Just be sure to keep your current job until you land something else! Because being in between work is never a good thing.
Good luck! And happy mylotting!
@namiya (1718)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
It depends on the situation. That is, assess the possible consequences of losing the job and if it is within one's present resources to counteract any inconvenience that may result from this. I had a similar feeling years ago but my being a single parent had constrained me to stick with my job for my children's sake as having a new one would mean a lesser income, and an opportunity that offered a better compensation required being away from them which for me is more difficult to deal with.
@toniganzon (72281)
• Philippines
6 Jan 13
Do you have any alternative plans if you ever quit? I had been in that kind of situation where I wasn't happy with my job anymore. I was no longer motivated, so I went on leave for a long time until my boss called me and made me feel like i was the most important employee in his company when he said he needed me to be there. That boost my morale and went back to working hard again.
You're just probably burned down and want a different work place. If you have a plan B after quitting that job and you think you could find happiness elsewhere, go for it.
@Jake809 (97)
• Denmark
4 Jan 13
well in today's market it is hard to change your work so easily as it was before. but at the other hand you shouldn't work in some place you don't like working for to long because it will start to effect your personal life. The best you could do is to look for another job while you are working now and when you found something you like and know for sure you are going to get it, then you can do the exchange. I think it is a big risk to change now without any back up job.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
4 Jan 13
If I am in such situation I would stick up with the workload that I am doing but at the same time, have a mark plan to look for a job that would be a replacement for the job I am working.
In a way, if I quit on my previous job, I won’t get worried about some responsibilities I am encountering because I know that there is another opportunity waiting for me.