well seems like some people are taking my post the wrong way, sorry, ..

uea im glad i told him.. now and that way he knows up front and that way if he decided he cant deal with it then there would be no need to meet.. because i know if i met him first and he said he could nt handle it i would be hurt more.. so far he said it does not change things or the eway he feels but.. i know waht your saying and i now plan to take it very slow and see what happens.. take care thanks for responding with great advice..

That's what i thought. Better not to be hurt. Your welcome.

Sleepless in Kentucky. Against what you are doing, I believe you need to cast off everything when it is time for you to get to bed. Especially so, since you have a medical issue which could only get better when you manage your lifestyle in the most prescribed manner. One important lesson about loving another person is to first love yourself and do it convincingly that you are literally enjoying yourself. No one can ever love you better than yourself and believe me when I say this. In life, you just have to accept what is given and presented to you. Don't go about looking for an outcome when you haven't even started anything. There's a journey all of us have to take before we can ever reach our final destination. You have a kind heart and most of all, a good and dignified person don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Unique as you are, so will be others which is why we all deserve nothing but the best, and like fishing I am sure you would not land the biggest catch at the first cast, so there's really no point rushing things. Be kind to yourself and be patient with all those around you. It is obvious that he has some issues at his end at this time and his mother's surgery plus condition is not something fixed time can fix. You will need to give yourself some space and time here. Carry on with your life as normal, if you need to sleep then sleep, work then go to work and if you see a hunk, get to know him. Since women are allowed to initiate then enjoy that privilege. Be active and be involved, you are not a loser and never will be until you have given up on yourself. It may be a long road but whether it is enjoyable or not is really up to you since you are at the driving wheel.

P.S. I mean "steering" wheel sorry for the typo and thanks for reading.

thank you for your comforting words, and much needed they could not have come at a better time.. i sit here tonight and cannot sleep.. its very late and i was feeling really , i dont even know what to describe the words.. you are so right in every word. i just wish you had wrote it sooner and i had gotten to read it sooner its funny how words can either mend or bend the soul.. i am telling you this and have not told anyone else and if they read it on here fine i dont care but if they dont i may not be able to tell anyone else or even want to.. you know i told my guy and he said he was fine with everything that was last night he begged me to send more pics .. and i did .. he got the pics and text back that they pics were great he was at the hospital his mom was sick.. said he would text me later.. that was after he got off work.. anyhow i waited and waited for his text and it never came so around 1130 .. i text him and he replied back that his mom was having ememgency gall bladder surgey i said keep me posted.. so later not sure sure why i got a funny feeling .. so i textd him and said hey are we still good ? he text back and said that he was very much attracted to me for sure but that we lived to far from each other.. leaving me so hurt and confused we are about 2 hours at the most from each other.. maybe not even that far. he had mentioned it before that he did not like it but he said at that time it was not a deal breaker.. so why now.. i thought first it was the pics i sent but he did say he was very attracted to me.. so i dont know.. im waiting until later today its 5am here to see if he has anything else to say.. if i had to do over i would have followed your post to a tee.. and we would probably still be talking.. i know this sounds crazy but he made me feel things i have never ever felt about anyone even my x husband i did not feel like this.. and from day one i have felt like we were meant to be.. im not just saying that i have had alot of guys try and date me online and cute guys and i was just not interested as soon as i saw his pic i said he is the one.. crazy i know.. so i know that if he dont get back to me i have to move on and go back to living life again.. i am hurt but i still dont regret talking to him even if we never speak again im grateful for what we had.. however now in the future after reading your post if i ever find another guy that im interested in i will know what to do .. and i will always remember your words so in closing thanks again i will be ok.. :)