Love relationships of Older Women with Younger Men?
By Lana
@inopiratum_a_medio12 (877)
January 4, 2013 8:47pm CST
Age gap of being in love is sometimes I guess one of the complications we can get especially when it's 5 to 10 years gap or even more. It's not fair that men can have a short of PEACEFUL and quite a smooth sailing relationship when they have a younger women in a relationship and maybe most accepted by the society whereof when women has a relationship with younger men they have all the negative impressions and all bad implications plus the thinking of your family is the man sticks with you when you have something such as money or it's temporary it will not last that long since normally men most of the time look for another, cheats when the woman is too old maybe and not enough for him. Down to some conclusions that the relationship won't last and we'll separate emotionally and physically as a perfect example is my parents. But is there any positive real story that they end up together I mean older women with younger men?Is there a realistic happy ending? or just accept the fact that it's impossible no matter how in love they are because it won't last as expected?
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@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
5 Jan 13
I agree with aerous. If you are compatible with one another there is no reason for you not to be together.
@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
5 Jan 13
Ummmm.... I've dated a woman 28 years older than I was... Just to put things perspectives, her youngest daughter was 2 years older than I was... We never really had any problems for having an age gap... I mean, just like any other couples, we had our little arguments but that was about it... Reason why we aren't together any more has nothing to do with the age difference...
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@inopiratum_a_medio12 (877)
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5 Jan 13
yes that what I'm talking about I fear that as of now we enjoy what we have but I was asking about the long term relationship is it possible that it will last that you can grow old together?
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@sk66rc (4250)
• United States
6 Jan 13
3 years we've been together, we never ran into one holding the other back... We have done a lot of things together... I just turned 30 when we met & she was 58... When i turned 32, she turned 60... She had a very active life style & I never had any issues, pr should I say she never had any issues, hanging out... Besides, on average, women lives longer than men do...
@joliefille (3690)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
I have a friend who got married to his online friend 7 years now, my friend was older she was 24 years old and he was 18 when they got married. I don't think it's impossible seeing that they are happy together and have 2 kids. I know in this world we live in now younger people tend to be fickle, immature and easily swayed. I am glad my friend's relationship lasted for 10 years now and still going strong. The guy was mature despite his young age.
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@sweetloveforeve (13118)
• Portugal
5 Jan 13
i think that for a relationship like this to work, the boy and the girl cant care for the gap they have. they have to love each other like if they have the same age. if they care for the differences they have, it will destroy the relation. i think that if both love each other, it wont matter. cause in the end of the day, what matters in this life is to be happy.
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@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
5 Jan 13
Sometimes I find out that the love between the older women and younger men are more stable because the older women usually are more mature and they will try to stabilize and care their relationship more and just because the men are younger than women then they will follow their women usually.
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@pomwango (1353)
• Kenya
5 Jan 13
i think most of this relationships are not love based but more about financial security for companionship for the woman.its hard for a relationship like this to last because its judges alot by society.we dont accept them so the negative response we give them also makes them end up seeing what they do is wrong.i have not heard of such relationships lastings long.
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@inopiratum_a_medio12 (877)
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5 Jan 13
for practical reasons relationships are mostly handled by women since men are most likely thinks in general and they can separate their emotions to their decisions unlike women most of us are making some decision with mixed emotions. Anyways, that's true at the beginning it's more on overflowing love but as the relationship gets deeper and time passes it's more on companionship,and friendship. I guess, that's the beauty of it and maybe we can say we found the one
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@farjun (135)
• Israel
5 Jan 13
well i cant tell you what relashionship will or will not last.. but i can tell you that every one is diffrent. and if the man and women feel love for one another then there isnt a problom for them to be together. but there are certin limits for the age diffrence as well
@hexebella (1136)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
In my country this receives a lot of criticisms from the society and eyebrows are raised.....but in most western worlds I think they don't care as long as the couple love each other and having a healthy relationship. I think we should not judge the older women having a younger men partner because in the first place we are not the one in their situation and we do not know how they feel for each other. Most important is that the relationship is successful than those the other way around and having a miserable relationship.
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@jenny1015 (13359)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
I do believe that true love can exist between people who are unconventional age gaps. It is how they make their relationship work, their love to last and the will to hold on.
@Hydraloth (185)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
As long as a couple love and trusts each other, the age doesn't really matter at all. Many people prefer older partner than they have for older people has more experiences and are more matured to handle things and hurdles when it comes in their way. Well, what ever the reason is, Love and trust is all that matters in a relation.
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@meumeu25 (913)
• United Arab Emirates
5 Jan 13
Hi,
My sis was with a younger man before but it didn't work out. And the problem? Has something to do with a lot of attitudes. I personally didn't like the guy. When he is with my sis, he seems very sweet and loving but when they are apart they kept on fighting over the phone. If my sis won't answer the phone immediately, he will accuse her of cheating, to think that my sis don't leave the house without me, it really annoyed me so much. He nags more than my sis. One time I also had a fight with him, because he got mad at my sis and my sis got mad at me for telling him when called that she was sleeping when she was actually having a shower. He accused her of having a man with her.
I think for a relationship to last both sides must know how to treat each other right. Trust is very important in a relationship as well, because without that it will be hard for you to make it work.
@inopiratum_a_medio12 (877)
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6 Jan 13
that's true I also experienced those kind of accusations but the good thing about my guy we can easily connect, I guess that's part of their thinking when you don't usually contact them than the usual when there's an errand to run
@mayrylflores (173)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
My boyfriend is 7 years older than me but we have this harmonious relationship ever since. As long as we love each other there will be no problem. Age doesn't matter as the saying goes. We share common interest and we keep in touch everyday. Its a matter of commitment and acceptance.
@inopiratum_a_medio12 (877)
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5 Jan 13
my personal view,I guess for older man there's no so much worries rather the other way around since both for sure will work things out, usually women are loyal and all the positive attitude that I can think of when they are in-love with the man, unlike with man I mean not all of them but temptation goes around and friends influence also.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
5 Jan 13
Relationship have its trouble and they all face different kinda of problem . I think love is the only thing that can really keep people together . I rather someone my age group because I want us both to experience as much things together for the first time .
@suzzy3 (8341)
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5 Jan 13
My school friend married an older man and he has now retired and she is very well off.The only thing is he is 70 and she is 55,he is starting to get illness,arthritus,forgetful and all those things that happen with the older person.Saying all that they are very happy.Another woman I know lived with a much younger man but he left her because she already had three kids and an hystectomy so kids were out of the question.So off he went.I had a boyfriend 15 years younger than me but he drove me mad.I was out working and he was at home playing the games station all day.I did not blame him for losing his job but made no effort to find a new job,he did not even push the hoover around or wash the dishes,I had two kids as well I always called him my third child.So he had to go.Another woman I know had a boyfriend that just cleared off when he found another younger woman.In my experience it does not work in the long term.My husband is five years older than me and that works well.All the people I have mentioned were nice and set out expecting the relationships to last forever but we change as we get older ,we cannot help it,our needs change.I think it is better to stick within five years of each other.Like you say most of the couple met with opposition from friends and family anyway.
@litvillegas (1274)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
My sister's husband is 10 years older than her but they are happy married couple. I heard a lot of people say that "age doesn't matter." Well, I guess that is true. The success of marriage will not depend on age. I believe that Love, respect and communication helps a lot to have a successful marriage. Arguments and misunderstanding are normal but if they work hard to settle and fix I'm sure they will succeed.
Thanks for sharing
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
5 Jan 13
Cougar as defined is Older people dating with Younger people, is quite common in today’s society. It has been all over the place, be it in showbiz or in other forms of media, and personal life.
I don’t find it offensive not unless they are really dating way younger people, because I do believe that age is just a number and it doesn’t define how relationship work.
In fact, having a relationship with someone who is more matured that you, is helpful because that person understands you well because She had undergo such passing in her life.
@randomarts09 (1405)
• Indonesia
6 Jan 13
I don't think the relationship will last or not last because of the age difference. As long as they love each other and respect each other, I guess there is no reason why it won't work. Anyway there are men who like older women because of several reasons too. Maybe he likes confident woman, or mature one, or the one had many experiences? There are quite a reason for any men who like older women.