A Cowardly Defense

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When I started training on my new job (which I had failed due to my lack of "heap memory"), I had a colleague who seems to be very confident about herself. She's fat, and she likes to be called a b!tch. Now who would calk herself a b!tch, right? That was pretty off for me but I let it go. Every time I went to training, I'd always hear her and her friends yap about how b!tchy she is, and often times, she'd act like she's proud of it. I mean that kind of behavior would really catch your attention, so no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't seem to ignore her, and what her story really is. Until eventually I realized what it was -- she's already calling herself stuff so that no one would tease her on it. That's the only reason I could think of, unless she's a former mental patient. If you think about it, beating any bully to the punch would definitely render the bully confused of you. Why would the bully do his/her job when you're already doing it to yourself? So this realization brought me to another thought -- could she have had bullying problems before? On our 3rd week of training, we had a simple "ice-breaker" just to liven things up from all the dull lessons. It was a simple type if open forum where you tell something true about yourself for others to know you better. Then and there, she admitted her issues before. It all made sense. She was being bullied before, and she thought of an idea to live through it, and that's degrading herself worse than anyone could ever do it for her. Do you know someone like this? Have you encountered anyone who always call herself names? That person might have been bullied before, too.