...between women and gays
By jeanneyvonne
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
Philippines
January 7, 2013 1:33am CST
I was browsing the channels last night and I saw this program about women and gays. In this program, they highlight the relationship between gays and the women and how they seem to have better relationship compared to straight men and for women, girl friends. I just wondered what is about gay men that makes them agreeable to women – is it because they less judgmental and they can find a compromise between a man and a girlfriend? I think that many women prefer gay men as friends rather than men. What do you think of this?
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7 responses
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
I don't have close friends who are gay. i get along okay with them but most of them are too exuberant for a boring person like me. So you could say gay people are not interested in people like me.
I notice, too, that gay people get along with females better than the males. Because gay people have better understanding of a woman's feelings and minds. They have similar interests and so on.
Some men unconsciously refuse to understand women and just leave it at 'women are so puzzling. Why bother understanding them?' for gay people understanding women is easy.
Women want companionship. They want a friend, someone they can talk to about a lot of things, a gay person can easily give that. Men have other interest and some of them are too 'macho' as they like to think to level themselves with females. Such a shame, when the world's females are just as important as the males.
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
9 Jan 13
Aja
How come you arrive at this conclusion - "Some men unconsciously refuse to understand women and just leave it at 'women are so puzzling. Why bother understanding them?' for gay people understanding women is easy."
@Aja103654 (5646)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
haha, there are other factors but those are the ones I came up with.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
I have lots of gay friends, but it doesn't mean i don't like women friends.
There are things you can talk about openly with your women friends, in which you are more or less not comfortable to tell your gay friends, because they are after all males.
What i like in my gay friends is i get to laugh a lot when i am with them.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
Well, I guess you like your girl friends and gay friends. I guess sometimes the gay friends are the more rambunctious and dramatic bunch. I don't know but I tihnk when I see a gay person I really can't classify him as male but well, a gay. Even if the said gay is decked in a dashing tuxedo or business suit. When I am introduced to a gay,no matter what he wears, he's still identifiable as gay tome.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
personally,you're the one who is close-minded. I only stated that that when I am introduced to a person, I assume what they are by what they wearing as other normal people do. unless the said person is introduced as gay or straight male, I won't be the the wiser. that is the reason why some times some gays fool me by their dress. I never said anything derogatory about gay men, just that I judge on what their appearance to tell me what they are unless I ma corrected.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Jan 13
As for me and my friend Jack, he has a wicked sense of humor, and I can say things without having to worry that it might be perceived as a come on, and vice versa.
@chi2nasrin (1101)
• Malaysia
8 Jan 13
I have many gay friends... and it is really fun to be with them. One, when you go out with them, you don't have to worry about other straight guys who wants to take advantage of you.
One thing I notice about gay people is that they tend to be able to understand more of your feeling, be it men's or woman's feeling and you can talk about anything with them.
Yes, they are really less judgmental, that one I agree.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Spot on. Although sometimes they quite scare me because I'm normally a quiet and boring person. I kinda admire that they are very energetic and dramatic at times which is sometimes good for my health.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
8 Jan 13
It seems that way, most women prefer to have gay men as their friend or best male friend. Maybe those gay men has woman hormone inside of them, and they seems to be a good listener, and they always take side on them. A straight man might easily go off track, and they have totally different set of mind, and they are less agreeable. What do you think of it?
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
I have to agree with your assessment. A man would hear but might not listen and sometimes, it what makes women infuriate about them. I guess in some instances, they just want men to listen and understand but men might have soemtihng they want to do than listen.
@pomwango (1353)
• Kenya
7 Jan 13
its easier being a friend who wont hit on you or make unwanted advances thats why women find it easier to be friends with the gay people plus they share interests, a man will be bored talking about fashion and girly stuff but the gay will enjoy this and for a woman whoever you can pour out with ,a bond will form.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
That two main benefits of having gay friends - apart from their good judgement in fashion and clothes. Some fellow females usually have their gay friend tag along especially if they buying clothes or something for the home. The could not ask their boyfriend's opinion as much as they would like to.
@jeanneyvonne (5501)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
In same manner, I don't know how to respond to your response.