So let down!
By smiling_ja
@smiling_ja (261)
Philippines
January 7, 2013 5:46am CST
How would you feel if one of your siblings let you down? As the eldest among them, whether I like it or not, the obligation to our father who has health issues at moment is my sole duty. So one time I asked my sibling to buy the prescribed medicines, I gave her the money with a strict instruction to send the meds via airfreight to my father because it was needed only to find our today that the medicines haven't arrived yet. I was so stressed thinking about it actually and it's very disappointing. I am kinda hurt and I feel so alone during this time. I know my feeling is only natural given the situation. How about you guys, has it ever happened to you to be let down, lied, betrayed by your own family?
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9 responses
@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Yes, I am not angry but there will be that certain gap I'm pretty sure of that, that only time will heal.
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@dee777 (1417)
• South Africa
7 Jan 13
It is painful. Sorry to hear about your father's health. My mom is in an old age home and is eighty years old. Three days a week I either pop in, or bring her to my house where she has a meal with me and my family. All my Sundays I share with her. Tomorrow it is her birthday and I will take her for lunch, then later the afternoon to her friend for a slice of chocolate cake. During the December/January holidays she has been with my sister for 3 days only.... My brother never came to fetch her - not even for one day... I understand what you feel right now.
@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
I'm happy for you your Mom reached that age. Happy birthday to her. My father is quite young to be challenged with health problems, but I guess he deserves it. He abused his health mostly in drinking spree with an empty tummy, working in the farm rain or shine. It was like he lost zest in living so now all those are catching up with him and he realized he wants to live more. Quite sad actually.
@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Yes, I agree with you, although all wounds heal in due time. I guess I've to wait for that time so I won't feel any grudge with my sister.
@Jenith (1381)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
Life has always ups and downs. Don't be discouraged, that's life! Every family encounter that kind of disappointment and some are worst than that. Life has so much to offer! Forget the bad and concentrate on the positive side of life. Cheers!
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@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Thanks for the encouragement. Yes, I believe that life is beautiful, it has ups and downs and I'm pretty sure I'll get through this soon.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
9 Jan 13
Sometimes, feeling down with your siblings is quite disturbing because it stirs up tension between the family also, making problems is not ideal at times of crisis.
Usually when I am in such situation, I try to make it a point to know how to solve it and to talk to them in a way that we can patch up and resolve things, rather than waiting for quite a long time to solve it, by putting constant communication and fixing unwanted miscommunication, it will help make the family stronger.
@heaytheblogger (2876)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Probably they are just ashamed that they committed a mistake. 
@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
You're right but you know these days? Instead of them having to talk to me and admit they wronged me and say sorry, they are the ones to who keep distant. They do not talk to me so I can only guess, they're guilty.
@kokomo (1867)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
For this time,not yet and I will not praying it to happened. I am the eldest among us siblings and I am doing a very important role in the family. I can say that I am lucky enough because I have those wonderful and loving 3 younger brothers. They are very sweet also. I am currently helping them with their financial assistance with regards to their studies. We are living together soon for my brother will look for his job and the other will start his college course here in the city. So excited about it.
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@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
To be an eldest among the brood is quite difficult especially if you take the responsibility seriously. But actually life would be more meaningful, more enjoyable if in dire needs, there is unity among the brood. Life would be simple by then. I'm glad you're doing great together with your family.
@nicanorr (1789)
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
If the money for dad's medicine was received by your sister was instead misused by her, she's unworthy being called a sister. She deserves all the wrath that you can think of. And if by reason of fate the money for your Father's medicine was received by other person, you've to trace the route from sender to receiver to verify the truth. If it turns out your sister was innocent, you've to ask forgiveness from her.
@Professor2010 (20162)
• India
1 Feb 13
Thanks for this nice discussion.
My dear life is full of challenges ups downs happiness and sadness, it is quite natural for you to get worried for your father, it is duty of the kids to take proper care, the blessings you get, will make your life blessed lol
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
7 Jan 13
I'm sure that most of us have felt let down by our sibling/s. I know I felt that way in the pass. I know in your situation it would be very difficult. As your father's medicine is very important. I hope that is medicine will arrive on time or that you will be able to get it quickly. Also try to make a little time for yourself doing something you love because being a caregiver takes it's toll.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
12 Jan 13
I'm glad to hear that you were able to get his medicine. Also that you are such a caring and kind hearted daughter. That is a great thing. I'm sure that he appreciates all that you do for him. It is great when children step up to the plate and are able to start taking care of their aging parent/s. I hope that your family will be able to help out more.
@smiling_ja (261)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
I've taken it into my hands to do what should be done and by this time they'll get the medicines. It's only natural for me to feel cross because it isn't as if it was for another person not related to us. You are right, too much of everything will eventually take it's toll though I don't personally take care of Pop, I'd to work in 3 companies to provide his needs.
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