Marry me and be woman number 1. Woman number 2 will remain the mistress

Yes, i will marry you...if this is cuturally acceptable to both parties. Does the man marred first to another wife? Still they say, that even the there is a second marriage, the second wife is catergorized as mistress. Hmmm. Hard to think about and hard to consider being mistress, all rights for the children are affected.

Oh. She knew all the time. If that is the case, she must face the consequence or accept what will happen to her because like you said, a man came from a different culture.

I think different culture and religion will have different practice about polygamy. For Muslim, they are allowed to have 4 wife at a time. But not all Muslim woman willing to accept this but still it's the right of the husband if he able and willing to marry more than one. So, I think it's really depends on the culture and religion. Poligamy is not easy in Muslim practice cause the husband must act fairly amongst all of her wife and he will be questioned later on if he pay more attention on certain wife. It's very difficult to be fair and to treat all wife the same way. For example, if first wife got $1000 ring as birthday present, the rest of the wife must have the same value of ring as their birthday present too.

I don't see a problem with this at all as long as he was honest and upfront with her from the start and if she was ok with the situation. It's all about consent and honesty

if he really said that his culture allows 2 women for one man then he is already caught in another lie if he is muslim, coz the number is 4, well this thing called love, even in straight monogamous cultures , men have had mistresses, and the chinese have had like the no.1 then the 2,3,4,and etc etc add nausea.. but in this day and age, it is more discreet still quite common, this thing called "love" blinds emotions and common sense, not condoning it but it is what happens , we can condemm to kingdom come but at the end of the day,it is up to the lady in question to choose guided by her emotions or her ???? What shoud she do ya?

She must be really strong to endure such situation. If I were in her shoes, I wouldn't let it happen. Of course, most of us would want to have our man to be completely for ourselves alone. This is the time when "Sharing is not good".

I think she can go for him as i appreciate that he has confessed and he will be honestly loving her for the rest of her life. Life has so many phases and consequences but in any relation i always prefer honesty and truth so i think he is a gentleman. In other words he was in a position where he could develop his relation without informing her the reality but he did not done so.

oh.. if i am in that situation, i would not be fine lol i don't like sharing at all.... and as for that woman, if she is fine then she must accept it i guess.

This would be something that would be very difficult for me to deal with as I grew up in a culture where it is standard for there to be one woman and one man. I couldn't imagine going through my life knowing that there was another woman that was a part of my husband's life. With that said, I do realize that there are a lot of relationships that are fairly unstable where one or the other is cheating, but I find that as being a lot different than the culture allowing two women to one man.

If she answer "yes", there is really stupid enough of her. Would she accept to share a man with another woman? That just not my culture though. I would rather tell her that, if this man continue to see this another woman, he is not worth of her love, and he is not worthwhile to marry though. That is my personal perspective on her situation, I hope your friend make a wise decision.

people of different religion have their own cultures traditions, we have to honor them, so is your friend ready to be the mistress?

Well, even though i'm a muslim, i'm sorry to say, i can't accept that because the relationship is based on lie right from the start. The again, how is she sure he is not telling the other woman the same thing? I wouldn't advice her to say yes and marry him because later in the future when there are other women, the man will say didn't she know this is how it was going to be the moment he told her he could have more than one woman. This also means the man is not giving her his all, he's telling her to make do with half of him while he is going to get all of her. Seriously, not advisable. Wouldn't even wish it on my enemy.

Hi dee777, Saying that it is accepted in their culture is just an excuse. The real issue I guess is that the male's infidelity would never change no matter what culture or religion he gets in to.

Muslim countries are what we called polygamous which allows husband to have not only one wife but more than hat as long as they can able to support their needs and family. In fact there was a news in which he had seven wives. It means he changed his wife everyday and they had there permanent schedule.

How sure she is that this guy only have one woman from somewhere? I hope this woman in your topic will think twice before accepting such an offer. No matter how she loves him- there'll be no assurance this man is honest in their relationship.

In some religion such things is there and it is legal also. Now coming to this lady, when she was knowing all this will be going to happen in her life as per the culture and if she is from that religion then I think she will not mind it. But if she was from other religion then she will surely mind it. But if she loves that man then I don't think so she will mind also.

Uhm, well, in my opinion, if you're going to have a relationship with someone from another culture, you should be careful about all their customs, and be prepared for the worst. Now, as she knew it, and his culture allowed it, it's not something that weird or shocking, unless the guy lied to her. She could choose to live or stay (coording to whether she can live with this situation or not), but she can't put the blame fully on the guy.

Did the man really tell her that he will continue the relationship with the other woman even if they are married already? That would be very very painful, makes me wonder how long will it last or how long she will last. I'd go insane thinking my husband is with another woman. I wish her goodluck if she's brave enough to accept it.