To pay or not
By Porcospino
@Porcospino (31366)
Denmark
January 7, 2013 7:28am CST
This is based on something that I read on one of the local sites from my country. A girl asked the other users for advice about a problem that she had. She was supposed to celebrate New Year's Eve with her friend, her friend's boyfriend and her own boyfriend. The couples were going to share the expenses. Her friend was supposed to buy the main dish and she was supposed to buy some snacks.
Unfortunately the girl and her boyfriend became ill and they weren't able to go to the party. After the party her friend asked her to pay for half of the food that she had bought(her friend had bought enough food for 4 people and they only needed food for 2 people)
The girl who asked for advice thought that it was unfair of her friend to ask for the money for the food since she and her boyfriend didn't go the party and didn't eat the food. Most of the people who responded agreed with her friend and thought that she had to pay for the food that her friend had bought.
What do you think?
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10 responses
@Sureoi (176)
• Philippines
7 Jan 13
For me, it's too rude to ask for payment for the food while knowing her friend is sick and didn't get any benefits from it too. She should understand what her friend is going and she should give her sympathy not to ask her for payment.
Have a nice day and happy mylotting! :)
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
7 Jan 13
I also think that she should understand her friend's situation. The girl didn't get ill on purpose, it just happened, and of course it is unfortunate that the friend is stuck with more food than she needs, but personally I wouldn't have asked my friend to pay for food that she didn't eat. I would probably have arranged a spontanious dinner for some other friends or just given the food away if I had too much food, that is better than wasting it.
@inopiratum_a_medio12 (877)
•
7 Jan 13
In my point of view, they don't have to contribute anymore since they didn't attend the party. Unethical behavior to ask for their contributions. Those who attended the party should only give contributions.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Jan 13
That is also how I see it. I would find it a little strange if my friend asked me to pay for the food if I didn't go to the party and didn't eat any of the food. The woman's friend thought that the woman and her had to share the expenses since she had already bought food for 4 people instead of 2 people and she was stuck with the extra food since the woman and her boyfriend didn't come to the party. If I had been her friend's situation I would have found a way to use the extra food and invited some other friends over who could eat that food instead of asking my friend who pay for the food that she didn't even taste.
@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
7 Jan 13
I think the one who attended the party should have brought something instead of being empty handed. it's also not nice to ask money for a party .
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
7 Jan 13
In this the case the girl didn't even attend the party because she was ill so she didn't show up empty handed she simply told her friend that she wouldn't be able to come. Then her friend asked her to pay for the food that she had bought. Her friend had bought too much food because she expected two visitors, and when the girl and her boyfriend didn't come to the party her friend asked her to pay for her part of food. I agree with the last thing you wrote, I don't think that it is nice to ask money for a party, but I guess that her friend thought that she had the right to ask for money since she already paid for the extra food. Personally I wouldn't have done that if the party took place in my home.
@dandan07 (1906)
• China
7 Jan 13
I think she should pay for the food.
They had planned the party, so her friends had to consider the amount of people to buy enough and suitable food for the party. Because she agreed the plan, her friends had to buy the food for them. Though she did not consume the food, her behavior caused her friend spend more money than it really needed. So I think she should be responsed for her own behavior.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
8 Jan 13
I think that more 95% of the people who responded to the girl's discussion agree with you and they mention the same reasons as you - the friend had already bought the food and paid for it and she spent extra money because she had bought food for 4 people instead of 2 people. Personally I wouldn't ask for money for the food if I was her friend. Of course I would think that it was a pity that I bought too much food, but on the other hand it is not her fault that she got ill, and I would try to find a way to deal with the extra food like inviting some other friends over or donating the food to people who need it.
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 13
Porco, uually when i am attending any party organized by my friend, i would prefer she allow us to bring some food along. In fact, my friend seldom organized party that request us to pay money in return. We felt happy to be able to attend any party which allow us to bring along our own food. At least, we are able to share our food with the others. Besides that, it is much cheaper that way. And if any of our friend didn't turn up, we don't have to ask them to pay any money in return.
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
8 Jan 13
And you said they are friends?
Personally, I would think if I were the other party and if the amount is not too much, why destroy the friendship with the amount? If it were a lot of money, then I would have kept some to bring to the (sick) friend and show her the amount of waste, and that I may not be able to absorb the total cost. If she thinks it is my business, that will be the last time I will ever plan an outing with the group.
What do you personally think (without bias towards your friend that is)?
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
I don't think that she should pay for the food that was prepared for all four of them. She and her boyfriend got sick and they didn't have a choice but to stay home instead. But if their friend is really in need of money, might as well give them the money they are asking. But if I were the one who spent for the food, I wouldn't ask for any payment. I don't think it would cost that much, right?
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@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
8 Jan 13
Hi friend, i think it is unfair, as she don't want to the party and not in need to pay money for the other couples expenses. The another pair take the 4 persons food and they are in need to pay for the food which they ate.
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@sunshinesophie (794)
• China
7 Jan 13
I am surprised to hear about that.If they are really friends,whenn her firend knew that both of them were sick,she should show concern for them rather than asking for money.And the point is that they don't attend the party,why they should pay for it.Yes,it is unfair for them.
Have a nice day.
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