How would you react?

No I would react differently. My sister law was 18 this part year and had her son my second nephew her first son before her 19th birthday. When we found out she was pregnant of course my husband was upset that is his little sister and we both don't like the father and she is only with him because she doesn't want to raise my nephew a lone. I understand that because it is hard to raise a child on your own with no help but the whole family helps out. My husband mother had my husband at a young age, the same as my mom did with me and my brothers. Mistakes happens and yes fights will happen but that is when family sticks by weather we like it or not and we keep our mouths shut. My house is always open to her if she needs or wants help. I offer what I can and it's even hard for us to make ends meet. My husband grandmother was like your mom. She was upset when she found out about Jacob that is my nephews name. She didn't talk about him never mentioned that my sister in law was pregnant till me and my husband said something. She wasn't even allowed to tell her little brother's till after I told them that I was pregnant with my second baby. I don't judge her for this being young. I am young mother too and I hear and get told lots of things for being 24 with 2 kids.

If she come back and apologise for her attitute and bad manner .. it should be okay.. A return human with remorse and grief is a changed human. Your mother may have accept her. The anger was maybe just opening scene.. your mother may only angered for dissapointment .Sometimes mother's pity come from anger.

It wouldn't be possible for me to react in the way that your mother reacted toward your cousin if one of my nieces was in a similar type of situation. You see, I love all three of my nieces as if they were my own children and I really haven't had a hand in raising the three of them. I know that I will love my children regardless of any kinds of situations that they find themselves in, thus I really don't believe that there is anything that my nieces could do which would make me have harsh words toward them for the decisions and mistakes that they might make in the future.

I don't blame your mother for thinking that way because yes, she is right in all respects. She does not want your lost cousin to be an example to you as well. Your cousin has to straighten up her act so people will have respect for her. She is losing grip of herself because of that man and it's not worth sacrificing one's future for that guy.

I'd feel the same way as your mother. Coz I would always be seeing her as my other kid that I helped raise. And it could be really frustrating to see her in such predicament.

Hi friend, your mother is right, surely your cousins activity is not good. First of all she must find a proper person, but she missed it and got conceived due to a wrong person, now her life is miserable. Surely she need more maturity

Your mother's reaction is perfectly understandable. She raised that girl as though she were her daughter, and this is what the girl has chosen to go and do. Your mother needs to ship her out the door and tell her to go deal with her problems like an adult. The baby will be here in two months, so she'd better figure things out pretty quickly.

Honestly, your cousin did waste her life and opportunities. She knows from the start she come from a broken family (actually it's not a broken family- but a not so good family situation) If she only values your mom's advices maybe she could have changed her future instead of making the same mistake her mom did in the past.

so sad about your cousin she would have been wise enough to think about her life. If she is 17 and pregnant then how old is her boyfriend? This is what happens when we take such decisions at a very young age.Of course we have to suffer for our work. Sadly but i have to agree what your mother say is true.

it is disappointing to your mum when she considers she had a part in raising her up and she didn't turn up right.it feels nice to bring up someone who ends up doing good things but her falling pregnant and then not even having a steady serious man is a big pain to your mum

I feel the same way as what your mother thinks.She is 18 years old now.She is no longer the kid and she should be more mature to consider about her life.She is too young to have a baby I think,especiall her boyfriend also acts like a kid.I cannot imagine how they go in the future with a baby.Good luck to her.

unfortunately, yes but half half half from your mother's reaction, she's right she wasted all the opportunity but probably not entirely... half since it's already there- regrets and holding on those thoughts won't help your cousin to correct her life she made and how miserable choices she made. If were your mom, yes at first I'll tell her what wrong decisions she made from her actions but after that during her stay in the house I won't any say any of those topics anymore because as a mother, I let her realize what she herself into through my good actions in return and help. It's not too late for her, now she has a very meaningful life to share with ;)