How do you know if he's the one?

In every relationship the feeling of novelty makes everything fun and beautiful and perfect at first, but yes, one point in time, it will fade away. That's when you start putting in real effort and hardworking into the relationship. It's not going to be easy, there will be a lot of trials that will test your partnership. All I know is, if the person you are with is the one, he or she will be the one to push you into making you the best you can be. Their happiness and your happiness point at the same direction and you give yourselves the ability to grow and take what you can out of life. It will be hard finding this person, you'll end up dating a lot jerks and kissing a lot of frogs however this person will come. I'm not saying this because it's true but because it NEEDS to be true. We all deserve this kind of love as our reward for all the relationship messes weve been through in the past. And when you find this Erwin, they will make sense forever and they wont ever want to leave you. So take your I've, don't pressure yourself, don't think too much, just live. :)

I could only speak for myself, though. And I guess what I felt was just the gut feeling that the person that I really wanted to be with me was my husband. We were together for 3 years before we got married. Actually, I gave birth before graduations and so we were already married when we graduated. If people would think about what happened to our relationship, others might say that if it wasn't for the baby, we would never have married. But in all honesty, although life isn't a bed full of roses, I could not see myself growing old with another man. My husband is not perfect. We have had our ups and downs. But I think it is just a matter of giving some space sometimes, a lot of understanding, willing to commit, forgive and endlessly love each other. Now you may ask, how come there are failed marriages , but started out as fine or even great. My answer for that is maybe one or both refused to see each other in the eyes. Marriage is not just being together, but also , both should let the other be an individual and allow each other to grow, to inspire and achieve the goal that each one has.

Well it's because of the abusive relationships I have had that I intend to stay single for the rest of my life, previous to these I was always on the dating scene, before the internet I would actually place and respond to the lonely hearts column and I met a lot of potential and certainly unpotential dates. To be honest my first long term partner I only wanted as a friend, but they were very persistent and looking back I can see how foolish I was and how they behaved, they soon changed once I moved in with them. I was only with my partner for a couple of months so it all happened very quickly, my second partner, sadly was straight on the rebound from the previous one, I was sending out the wrong signals and instead of thinking with my head I had my heart on my sleeve. It's only when you actually move in with them that you find out the real person, sometimes to your detriment.

I think each person should give themselves a good amount of time to get to know the person they want to spend their life with. I think that most people start to know the answer to that question when they have come to see that they are compatible with the person they want to be with. That they both love and care for one another deeply, and that they can make decisions together. That they are able to agree to disagree on certain things and yet their relationship is still able to stay peaceful.

A relationship needs good communication. It also needs commitment. Are you both talking about the future together? Do you both visualize the future with the two of you together? Do you both want to be together - in sickness and in health, for richer and for poorer? Is there something that will keep the two of you glued together beyond the feelings? Are you both willing to stick with each other, even if one of you gets ill or is badly injured? I know of a nice looking couple. He is tall and handsome and she is very stylish and beautiful. They have been married for almost 25 years. She now has cancer and will be having surgery. But, that does NOT change their love for one another. In fact, the husband is even more loving and caring towards his wife. There is a much deeper affection for each other that goes beyond their appearance. And she is not going to allow her cancer or the change in her body, deter her from the love they have for each other. So, when you realize that you are going to be committed to each other, no matter what, then, you will know that you have entered into a life-time commitment and relationship.

It is a good topic to discuss but also hard to answer.I should say it varies from person to person.Someone can meet a right partner without difficulty and get married.Then they lead a happy life forever.But it is tough for someone to find a suitable relationship and get a true love.For me,I really don't know how to tell if he matches me or not when I look at him at the first sight,but time reveals a man's heart.We can get along well with each other only when we understand one another,accommodate with one another,trust one another.If we fail to meet with these basic requirements,I think we cannot be together. Have a nice day.