what do you so when your angry?
By reddog25770
@reddog25770 (212)
United States
January 7, 2013 6:34pm CST
My husband and I ofter bicker. We very seldom have an all out I'm not speaking to you fight. When we do I spend hours cleaning my house. I can't even sleep the place as to be spotless. I go as far as shampooing the carpets and washng the curtains if I'm really angry. I'm wonder what is it that you do when your angry?
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@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
8 Jan 13
my husband and I also bicker at one another but when we do we either argue back and forth for a little while and then I go to my room and he how to the living room. I get on my computer or my kindle fire or watch tv. after a while we will talk and work it out after we both have calmed down some.
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@crazzydolphin (3636)
• United States
8 Jan 13
yes no matter what we always find a way to work through our problems. my husband and I have been through a lot together but we always find a way back to each other. I have turned to cleaning to and he even does that sometimes but usually I just try to stay away until everything is calm and we can talk without all the arguing.
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@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
8 Jan 13
We always make up in the end. We've bee together too long now. We wouldn't know what to do without each other. But when we argue. I have all this excess energy.
@antverdovsky (138)
• United States
8 Jan 13
If I'm angry I sometimes use one of those stress ball things. Some people say they're stupid but they actually work.
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@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
8 Jan 13
I wish something like that worked for me when i'm mad i have to move.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
8 Jan 13
I think I become childish when I get angry. Its pretty embarrassing. I can't eat anything when I'm upset, might cry a little bit, give the silent treatment. It doesn't last long though. Usually after talking to the person that ticked me off, things will get better.
@junerainemay (346)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Don't be embarassed I do the same thing. haha! I tend to skip meals when I'm upset. I cry a little and just sit in a corner and stay quiet. Mostly, I sleep it off hoping my anger would subside when I sleep. Sleeping doesn't help me though but I always feel great after an hour or two of sleep. After that, the anger creeps in. I don't hold grudges though. Life is so much better if we leave negative thoughts behind... :D
@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
8 Jan 13
I don't think that is anything to be embrassed about. Most people do childish things when trying to deal with their anger. I spent an hour one night scrubbing my kitchen floor that was mopped two days proir. hehehe. Anger is a tough emotion to deal with.
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
8 Jan 13
I will just sleep on it...tomorrow is a better day!
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@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Yeah I agree with you. I'm able to get a lot of house work done when my husband and I are arguing. I wish I normally was able to get cleaning done that fast. It's only that quick because it feels as if I have an adrenaline rush of energy. I hope that you and your husband are doing alright and that things have calmed down for the both of you.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
10 Jan 13
Yeah it must be an emotional relaxer because I get a lot of cleaning done then. I guess cleaning works for us because it has to be done anyway so we might as well get it done then. You are right no couple agrees on everything. At times we have to agree to disagree. That is great that you have been married 16 years. So both are doing fine and now how to get through those times.
@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Hi Dominique25,
We're fine. We argue make up and move on. We've been married going on 16 yrs and lived together for a few years before that. So its only natural to argue occasionaly I think. You can't agree on every thing all the time. Thank you for your concern though. I was just wondering if cleaning was an emotional relaxer for other or not. My hubby thinks its odd. He is more likely to walk it off.
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@edvc77 (2140)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
When I'm angry I usually go out in mall or write. This is my theraphy. After I do that, I'm relax already. It is hard to deal with anger. Some get really mad. We really have to control our temper. It is good that you have a way out when you are angry. Take it easy.
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@junerainemay (346)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
I normally stay silent until the anger subside or I will sleep it off to feel better when I wake up. It helps to just saty away from heated arguments to avoid fights. I hate fights and i try my best to stay away from it. Heated arguments always have a negative effect to me.
@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
8 Jan 13
junerainemay,
I agree with you anger is such a negative emottion. We don't general argue too much thankfully. Just wondered how others release their pent up anger.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
8 Jan 13
I guess I am weird then because when I am angry with my lover i behave totally different than when I am angry with someone else.
If we are at the same place and I am angry with my lover, we would start argue and when we reach close to each other we would just kiss to soothe the moment. Then we just might not talk for a little while.
With anyone else, I try my best to ignore that person completely,and I mean completely.
@Renhard (3471)
• Jamaica
8 Jan 13
Actually we are still upset when we are kissing. It just signifies that no matter how badly we behave, we will never leave each others side. And sometimes she hate when I do it cause sometimes she wants the argument, and every time we kiss in that type of scenario, the arguments cuts to a much lower point.
@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Its nice that you can make up so easily. You must make a wonderful couple.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
When I am angry, I do not talk at all. I just usually stay inside the room. But sometimes I would ask my son to come with me to the mall. Then I'd buy something for him. That way he's conscience would kill him!
@rog0322 (2829)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
8 Jan 13
Hi,
I try not be angry, it is counterproductive, does not resolve anything. If I do get angry sometimes, I have to do nothing for a few seconds or I may do something I may regret later. That's it, pausing for a while, not thinking nor feeling at all, just being there and not there for a moment. You see, anger unleashes a lot of energy from the negative feelings and giving in to it is not good, for me at least. Doing things and making decisions at the height of my anger produces bad results, as I have experienced, so I make it a point to let it pass and hope that I shall weather the storm and come out intact.
@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Hi,
Pausing and taking time out is a wonderful suggestion. You are right anger is a very negative emotion and produces a lot of bad decissions. Learned that the hard way too.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
8 Jan 13
Im not a fighter.. when I get mad or angry i leave the room and take a walk. I used to have problems with my ex, and I learned it was better to take a walk...
@mayrylflores (173)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
I do lots of walking when Im angry..hehehe. Well probably its because we tend to avoid any arguments when we explode with those emotions. Its just a way we transfer our anger in a manner witch is more acceptable.
@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
8 Jan 13
mayryflores,
Walking would probably be my second choice to do. Any kind of movement to help release the pent up emotions.
@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
8 Jan 13
theoana,
Glad I'm not the only maniac in my cleaning frenzy. I'm just glad that we don't fight too often. I would be exhausted from all the cleaning. But boy would my house look great.
@MaylaJay (349)
•
8 Jan 13
When I'm mad all I can do is go into my room and pound on my keyboard. I basically type out all the reasons I'm mad or type a story about very angry subjects. I often have to stop because my hands start shaking, but after awhile I can relax and I start to feel better.
@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
8 Jan 13
I wish I could have such a creative outlet. Always amazed at writers, musicains and artist. It must be wonderful to be able to focus your emotions into something amazing.
@jalucia (1431)
• United States
8 Jan 13
I wonder if your husband gets you angry on purpose, just so he won't have to clean. LOL. I wish I could be so constructive with my negative emotions, but I'm working on it. When I get angry, I don't talk. Once I cool off, which could be a while, then we can talk about it.
@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
8 Jan 13
I'm a stay at home mom so I do all the cleaning anyways. He works long hours and has a very difficult job. So I don't ask him to help around the house much anyways. Except for the yard work. That's all on him.
@sriroshan (2585)
• India
10 Jan 13
You know what I do when I get with my hubby. I just take my scooter go to market, get some stuff (chicken or prawns) which he and my children likes and prepare a nice dish and serve them on their lunch or dinner. I knew being getting engaged doing cooking work I calm down and forget my anger and when my husband eat his favorite dish of course he too come to normalcy, and as if nothing has happen he praise for serving such a nice dish of chicken or prawns.
@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Yes, I tend to clean when I am upset as well. My husband and I have been married for a long time. So, we have found ways that work for both of us that helps us to cool down. My husband goes for walks. Sometimes, I will go for a walk as well. Sometimes, we just need to walk to get calmed down.
May I make a suggestion - when you 'bicker' - hold hands. Trust me, when you are holding hands, it is very hard to get all that upset at your spouse. So, whenever you get really upset and ready to bicker, stop, take a breath and DISCUSS the situation while holding hands.
Anyways, that works for my hubby and me - when we are holding hands, it just seems harder to get 'mad' at each other. Then, we calm down, cool down and discuss what had upset us and we listen to each other.
@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Thanks for the advice. I'll try it next time. Always working to make our relationship stronger. We have been married almost 16 yrs so I think the occassionally bricking is ok. We get along great for the most part.
@echo060201 (540)
• China
8 Jan 13
If i feel very angry,I will go out to a quiet place and calm down. I will also talk to my friends who will listen to my complain and accompany me.
@Mekevin255 (5)
• United States
8 Jan 13
When I am angry, I usually just argue back if not then, I just ignore that person for a while.
@reddog25770 (212)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Oh no theres no speaking involved. When he really riles me I can't even speak to him.