pride or what?
By jazel_juan
@jazel_juan (15746)
Philippines
January 8, 2013 3:05am CST
i just heard from an officemate that an officemate is having problems..
he isn't around for days now because he is taking care of their kid.. 1 year old lil guy. Anyways, he is on top of the management actually..so i guess it is ok for him to take a few days leave..as of now. But then it is the start of the year and he isn't even here to show his face at all..
anyways, we know that this guy is married, his wife is a teacher from one of the good schools here but his salary is way higher than that of the wife..but he is the one staying at home as they do not have a nanny..while the wife works and asks as if nothing is wrong. he lost like several pounds now! so haggard and stressed..and the wife ignores him and continues with her work ( fb and all lol)
all i can say are prayers for him to be stronger and be able to tell his wife to help him! we heard that he is even the one staying awake at night taking care of the kid as the kid is sick now and he has been asking me for my pediatricians number to bring his kid..
i wonder what is the wife doing? can't she see the guy is having a hard time? or some women are this blind? or just full of pride? or does she not even love the kid? weird, i couldn't answer any as well i do not live with them but it is just making me wonder.
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9 responses
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
We really cannot tell exactly what is wrong with their situation , jazel, unless someone close to them would tell.
The way i see it , it seems that the man is an "andres de saya". Or could it be that he is paying for a mistake he has done for his wife, that's why the wife is letting him suffer that way?
We can really just wonder indeed jazel.
But i hope whatever the real problem is, it will be both handled well by the two of them.
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
yes i hope they will handle it ASAP because it is affecting the office too.. lol he isn't around to sign the papers!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
A man with authority at the office is now under the authority of his wife!
@devonavis (1854)
• Greece
8 Jan 13
I guess that would create a family problem in the future if the two won't talk like an adult. haha. It is good that the husband is allowing that to happen since many men have higher pride than women. But if both like the situation, then it is their choice. Can their be a possibility that the man is sick?
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@DiamondLV (59)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 13
I think the man sick. if not why he want to become babysitter at home because all man i know, they don't like babysitter baby all the day. Or maybe they have issue family problem, we don't know. Or maybe he have online job so he stay at home. I think don't really matter, who is work? wife or husband? because now you can work at home too right. so if they happy, then its ok.
@mtrguanlao (5522)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
Hi friend! Honestly, I admire your officemate,hehe!
It's very rare nowadays those men that are more responsible when it comes to their kids than their wives.
I think they have issues..all I can sense is the wife doesn't love the man when they got married, or the man loves the wife more, more than his wife does. Well, we can't say anything more unless you have a talk with your officemate. I think you will have another discussion for this and I hope I will be here by then,lol!
Have a great year dear!
It's very rare nowadays those men that are more responsible when it comes to their kids than their wives.
I think they have issues..all I can sense is the wife doesn't love the man when they got married, or the man loves the wife more, more than his wife does. Well, we can't say anything more unless you have a talk with your officemate. I think you will have another discussion for this and I hope I will be here by then,lol!
Have a great year dear!1 person likes this
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Maybe perhaps they are switching roles for awhile. I actually don't feel that bad for him. Women have to do this type of stuff all the time. While husband's go on and do there own thing. I'm sure in time he will go back to work and she will be doing all the work again and no one will think anything of it. Unless a wife is doing something outrageously wrong against her family I don't feel bad for men who have to stay at home for a bit with the children. A wife needs a break every now and then too.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
8 Jan 13
I just don't understand why it can't be accepted when a woman is working and the husband is at home with the babies. The wife would have a hard time as well, at home, but that is always so overlooked, because it's socially accepted (wifes all over the world have as much of a burden on their shoulders as him, just it's not that shocking). Maybe it's not a good decision to let the one work with the smaller salary, but it's not like the wife should stay at home. She doesn't have anything to do with your workplace and how your company is going to do. Also, I'm pretty sure they talked this over. It's their decision, so be it.
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@skyandgrassplot (1497)
• China
9 Jan 13
Wow,I just can not understand,you said this guy is on top of the management and his salary is much higher than his wife,then why doesn't he to hire a nanny?
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@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
8 Jan 13
And why should the wife sacrifice her job for the child? Would you still be criticizing her for going to work while the husband misses work to care for the child if she were the one earning more money?
Perhaps, she enjoys her job far more than he does, but he is scared to simply give up his career to stay home and be a homemaker, because cultural pressures dictate that he should be off at work. So, instead, he is running himself ragged between the pressures of home and career.
You do not know what is going on there. You do not know what conversations they are having about how to negotiate things.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
9 Jan 13
Hiya jazel,
Very considerate Man this one looking after his child for so many hours and it is bound to affect his Job yes.
Looking after a child that is ill is very demanding and tiring and if you are not used to it and not sure how to handle it that can stress the poor man out as well.
Hope they sort it out between them soon and that the little lad gets better right now.
Really I would not know whether its a matter of pride or what it is she needs to take care of her son the most and let the Father take part but not letting him take all the weight of such a responsibility.xxx
@mayrylflores (173)
• Philippines
8 Jan 13
I think there must be something wrong with the way they communicate. He must confront his wife in a nice way. In a family, everyone must be sensitive with each other. Communication is very crucial. How can we understand each other without asking them?
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