Are you All There?
By MDELGADO
@MDELGADO (21)
United States
January 8, 2013 3:01pm CST
Have you ever had a conversation with someone, and they said you said something you definitely did not say? I am not talking about what you said last year, like during the current conversation?
At times i know some people forget what was said in a conversation but to say something completely way off what was said makes me insane!!!!!
Example 1: Your words: I think you need to workout, eat right, run, etc,
Their words: You said i was fat!!!
Okay, i like to be accused of saying exactly what i said. I am the type that if i wanted to call you fat, i would, there would be no reason for me to beat around the bush. But if i said you need to workout, eat right, run, etc, i only saying just that.
Example 2: The person talks to you and you know they are not completely in tune. There eyes are wild as if your saying something dramatic, even when the conversation is about a deer drinking water near a body of water.
Your words: whats the matter?
Their words: Nothing , (stupid look on their face)
Example 3. Your having an argument, and when you express how you feel and how things are not right.
Your words: I am really tired of the BS.........
Their words: You talk to me like i'm stupid!!!!
WTF??? Where did this come from. I like to choose my words carefully when talking to this person for that reason, and it always seem to go the wrong way. I am starting to think this person is negative and mentally ill. The mentally ill i am not kidding about, because i feel this person cannot control their emotions, accusations, or angry.
I am a person of few words, so for someone to accuse me of something they need to do it right, and accuse me of the things I DID say.
Have this ever happened to you?
I never in my life had this communication barrier with anyone, it seemed everyone understood MY WORDS.
I am consideration walking away from this person for good because of it, i feel there is not communication, its constant me trying to reiterate what i said CLEARLY, and make them feel better.
I am in a point in my life that i cant deal with pettiness anymore.
Help
5 responses
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
8 Jan 13
Sounds familiar.
My is like that. Not just with words, but he'll take a normal situation and find some way to read any negative thing he can into it. He is mentally ill. We're talking about a person who went ballistic and smashed a window because someone forgot his order of fries from McDonalds. .
The only people who can help these people are themselves. Or a therapist. It is their severe lack of self esteem that makes them this way. Its not what you are saying, Its how they feel about themselves.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
8 Jan 13
My is = My ex is.
Darn, Mylot! You stop eating my words!
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
8 Jan 13
Sometimes I fall into this problem :D. It's sometimes really hard to decide what others are implying, because some just want to be gentle with their opinions, but at the back at their mind, they think what they imply they didn't wanna say, and sometimes it's just all ambigous. I'm really like, when someone tells me I need to start running etc., I'm gonna think or know they are talking about my weight, as I don't have ANY health problems due to my weight. And what I hate is when someone doesn't tell their minds and think I'm stupid, yet when I confront them, they are protecting themselves with "you twist my worrrrrrds!", when I know a lot of them actually implied that certain thing... but sometimes it's just hard to tell. I try not to take things so seriously, but sometimes you just can't decide what some people want to say, because there are lots of sneaky and overly euphemistic people out there who don't speak their minds... I'm not saying you are like those people, but it's so hard to tell now if someone is telling the truth or not.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
9 Jan 13
I can relate to most of what you say , I would offer someone a mint because I am taking one and they would say "Are you saying I have bad breath?" ... There are so many times people will turn what you say are do in a different way .
@MDELGADO (21)
• United States
8 Jan 13
39 years and nothings changed?
Its so bad for me that many times i think of leaving him. I honestly feel like im talking to a wacko and i feel alone in this relationship. Like he is gone!!!!!
I hate feeling like that but i have no understanding with him.
All we do is argue, and he misinterprets EVERYTHING i say.
Once we argued and i tried to be more tactful about how i handled the argument.
He accused me of trying to act like a therapist.
I was so hurt by that, i feel like just walking away,
@RookieLV (18)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 13
some people might misunderstood in what we are saying,its because they are too damn sensitive about themself.I often met the kind of situations,in fact it sometimes happen with me and my wifes,different tones for some people result various respon,me must know the people deep better before having a conversation.but i guess this situation will happen with everyone of us,the difference is the quantity,it depends also in our surrounding behaviour,culture,tradition.
