Getting Stuck With A Girl You Don't Love

Philippines
January 8, 2013 11:51pm CST
Hey guys, right now I'm having a serious relationship problem. There's a girl whom I really love, even up to now. Unfortunately, I wasn't able to get her yes. Not because she doesn't like me but I was just too dumb not to wait for her to allow me to be with her. Eventually, I found a new girl, who happens to be my girlfriend now. She's so sweet, charming and she sees to it that I'm being loved by her day and night. But as time goes by, I realized that I'm still deeply in love with the former girl that I want to be with. Especially when I heard that she was so deeply hurt when I courted another girl. She even confessed to me why the hell I didn't wait. I can feel from her that she still wants me and was just waiting for me to do something. Ironically, there's nothing I can do for I can't dump my girlfriend now for we have a big responsibility to take. With this, the other girl would be just a dream that I will keep on dreaming. What makes it hurt even more, she always let out notes or poems that are obviously reminding me of how dumb was I and if I just waited. Well, I guess if time really give us a chance to be with each other, we will be. I wanted to share more details but it is just too personal for me to encode it here. Thank you soo much for reading my discussion guys!
3 responses
valorieesquilona
@valorieesquilona (442)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
oh, you are really dumb, sorry to say. why do guys cannot wait like always?if you really love the girl of your dreams that you are talking about, then why didn't you wait for her?now, you have created your own problem. you have a girlfriend but you do not love her?oh, c'mmon dude, be honest with her and be true to yourself! tell her you don't love her, she deserves to know the truth. you are really hurting her, i promise. sorry for being rude and frank but i am just speaking from a girl's perspective. have a nice day.
akosibinot
@akosibinot (79)
• Philippines
15 Jan 13
I know but if you are really in my position on those days? you would definitely sympathize with my decisions. See, I was pursuing her that time and i received no response until i heard it from my friends that it was because she has a personal reason not to choose me though she likes me. Now that I stopped pursuing her, she keeps on bugging that i was a fool not to wait for her. What I'm regretting is the fact that i could be with a girl i love but i can't blame myself also for not going into the situation if that girl keeps on shunning me. anyway, thank you soo much! :D
Iriene88
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 13
You are definitely in a big dilemma. To me personally both girls are nice. Your current girlfriend is extremely nice, loving , charming and caring! You are so lucky to have her. Perhaps you take her for granted. There is a saying :- "The pasture on the other side always look greener". In actual fact both sides are green too and basically the same. Your current girlfriend will be hurt if you left her, but do you really love her? To live forever with her. Another question is ... Is it worth it to pursue your former girlfriend and will everything will be rosy if you get her back? Life is really unpredictable, if I am you I also cannot decides!
abhi_destar
@abhi_destar (764)
• India
9 Jan 13
Well, this just shows that you are too impatient in life. Good things in life happen to those who are prepared to wait for them. These are irreversible decisions which you make in life, and not to be taken lightly. You have already broken one heart, now do everyone a favour and don't break the heart of the new girl also by ditching her and trying to make up with the old one. At the end, you will lose both of them. People who have all the luck in the world don't understand the value of the things that are coming their way. Many people in the world, including myself, have no love in our lives, and have been waiting a long time for it to come. And you squandered the true love which could have come your way.