Why do people take your kindness for weakness?

Some people are just too conceited and selfish. Especially nowadays, as the whole world turned into a survival of the fittest game because of the financial situation and everyone striving to survive... too bad emotions are decaying and people can't see the good in others which should be reciprocated...

I don't think that some people see the kindness in others. That emotion shows them to e oft hearted and it is often mistaken as a sign of weakness. Kindness is not seen as a strength and that is a tragic flaw.

Yeah it sucks, when being nice and kind to someone, they don't do the same. I hate that. That is what sucks, not all people will do the same. Not everyone is nice or kind. I'd feel hurt when people rubs it off and shrugs that if my nice or kindess they probably think I'm annoying and not interesting. I hate that. I also think probably the other party or person who doesn't be nice or kind to you back is rude and obnoxious or probably has high pride in themselve. There's people that have that kind of boastful pride....and think the they better than anyone.. that's why there's people that suck and messed up.. yeah, it's a shame.

if you find a answer to this please feel free to let me know I am a very kind hearted person unless you really get on my bad side and even then I might not be mean it just depends on how far you go with me but people are always taking advantage of my kindness and using me and I know deep down I should just back off from those people but something will not . let me do that and I guess it's the kindness in me lol. people really are messed up and it's hard to pick through them to find the good people. it really is a shame that they are so few and far between . and it seems to only get worse with time.

Hi shante. Well such is life. Even I have experienced such situations. I always try to be kind to people and make compromise whenever required. And when it comes my time it really pi$$es me off when people act selfish. And it is like they don't remember a bit about how much we have done for them in the past. I sometimes feel so bad that I lose faith in friendship. I feel like there is no use in expecting similar behavior from someone when you do them a favor. Anyways have a nice day ... ~=SuperShames=~

Yup you are true dear. Now a days people are living for themselves. It's not a that world where you can trust anyone or help someone. You have to be little rude either people will take benefits from you and let you to live without helping you. So beware of this Bad world.

it happens to me.. 2 people borrow the money when they need it as the good friend, i lent it.. but now i need so much the money 1 one of them block my number and everytime i call her, my number is rejected and the call is said busy..how come the people like that one of them didn`t even pick up the phone and only said that he will call me back (it happens 2 days ago)..but he never does it..

I also got experience a lot of times like that everywhere. I also wondering why people have to treat us that way while we treat them in a kind manner. Could it be they have a bad life whereby they woke up each morning they see everything black and want to lash out their anger? I see those people can't really appreciate other peoples' kindness. It is kind of pity! Actually this habit of kindness can be cultivated and not hard to do it. It is a matter of practice. In fact, I've been doing it for many years until today. Anyway, we will still continue our kindness because it is a good habit. I'm glad there's people like you giving out kindness. Keep up the good deeds!

Yes you are right. When you do some kindness to people they would think you are stupid. I wonder then how can this be. It is written, " do what is good." In time God will reward you for it. Some people don't have the knowledge of the words of God. So for them doing kindness is weakness and stupidity. They don't know the essence of it. It's a pity for them. Take it easy.

In this scenario, I don't think it is a bad thing cause I see that you are the better person among all of them. It takes a lot of guts to be the better person and you actually did it so good for you. Do you know the saying "love till it hurts, love until it hurts more. Love until it hurts no more." we'll being good to others will not always result for them to be good to you also. But it mustn't stop you from doing the right thing. Good luck to you, have a nice day.

Usually people that aren't really worth it take your kindness for your weakness. People that have values won't do this. It really depends on the person. If the person does this, then he clearly lacks some important things in his way of thinking. The people that matter most to us will appreciate our kindness and would find it as a strenght.

Some people are users. Some take what they want from you, then move on when they are done. In extreme cases, they come back assuming you will forgive them. There is always an act. Some people are one-time offenders. They come, they go, it's done and over. In any case, being used in that way or having kindness pounced upon hurts that kind person. When someone senses that kindness for their own gain, they see it as your weakness because it means you're an open person--you have a vulnerability and possibly a blindness because you are kind. I played that song and dance for a long time with an ex. One day, I woke up. I noticed a pattern. He would come around claiming he missed me. We would go places, eat together, have a good time. It would last for about two months. Then, kapow...suddenly drama! Then six months would pass. Rinse and repeat. What was he doing? He was using me! He was using me for his own emotional gain. When he was bored, when he was lonely and feeling really bad--he would come up and find me and get sweet. When he was done and felt fine, it was goodbye ex! It got very old and I got very tired of getting hurt. I had to learn to balance my toughness with my sweet side. Nobody was gonna take me for granted or see my kindness as a weakness. So the last time, I toughened up. I got rid of him. Seven months later, he came back. This time, I WASN'T as sweet but was very funny and cordial. Talking to him only lasted a week. Why? I didn't give him the key to what he wanted. He knew better, he went away. It is indeed a shame, but not every person sees kindness as a weakness or opportunity. We have to sort through the users and the predators, toughen our skins, and rise above them.