A Traitor Friend
By fearlessgara
@fearlessgara (1113)
Philippines
January 9, 2013 9:52pm CST
I Don't know and I really can't find the reason for this person to fight me on my back. Not a single moment that I treated him bad.But I always treated him good.And I never leave him in times of trouble.I also do my best to please him.To him happy makes me happy for I know I pleases God.I just found out that he is traitor because of of those who traitor me but have much good life than I am.were laughing together.. While when we talk he always say somethings against that person. but when I caught them. they seem so close too.Should I stay away with this person too?or stop helping him? I don't want to mess our friendship by confronting him because for sure it will lead to argument or a fight. If he is also mad to that person whom I hate too because of all the bad things that have done to me.Why he treated it so well?
7 responses
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
10 Jan 13
May be he is just being diplomatic to that person however, refrain from telling secrets or your innermost fears that may be u sed against you. You can also be civil to this person for fighting it him may cause you trobule specially if kNows already about you, better be safe than sorry. So just be civil, if he needs help and. You have a way to help him why not, helping is not a bad trait but never ever tell him more about yourself and how you feel. That may put you in a complicated position.
@fearlessgara (1113)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
tHANK you. yes, I must be civil than to argue with him.TO help him.if he ask ok. since God said to love your enemies but to keep our good relationship as a friend. I don't think so. I am not hypocrite person.I don't feel like talking to him anymore because I am really disappointing for what he did .
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
10 Jan 13
That's way to go... Being civil is not necessary means, you need to be friends. Like what i have said no more sharing of secrets. To keep you from trouble and such attitude is really disappointing i know your point?
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
First, you don't need to please any body. Just be yourself, be real, be sincere. You don't always have to be nice in order to help someone. Sometimes you have to be honest in order to strengthen friendship and verify whether this friendship is authentic or not.
It's not bad to doubt people.
This is in one of my discussions I started. It's alright to doubt someone, because that means you care and you want to know that person.
You are scared of losing this friendship?
If it was a friendship worth keeping it wouldn't go down that easily by one confrontation. Friends need to confront each other in order to make friendships strong and true.
It seems you don't trust your friend at all. You have no confidence in your friendship. Again, if you have doubts that is fine, you can confront this person, be simple, firm and don't accuse.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
12 Jan 13
I admire how faithful you are to God.
Just be practical and don't force yourself to be good to this person. Do what is right, this is enough, i think. It's best to avoid trouble then because it might affect your child. Can't take risks.
You don't have to force yourself to trust him. I think you have a good reason to have lost your trust to that person. Again don't trust him if you don't want to, it won't mean as much to God if you force it anyway. Allow that person to regain your trust in his own way, don't do it for him.
@fearlessgara (1113)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
I am trying to be good not to pleas them but to pleas God. because it;s makes me happy doing good things to others whom in need Even I myself is helpless. That is my nature. Honestly this person have done something against me in the past, He betray me before bUT after Him being jailed.so Now I didn't judge him and give him a second chance because to think that he already repent and realized his mistake when he was in jailed.I am not scared of him but I have one daughter that whom I care and I know if I do comfront him it will lead to big trouble, which only make things worst. I don't feel like helping him anymore nor dare to talk to him because I don't feel like being friend again to him after he betrays me second time.but I remember what God had said that if you only love those who loved you what rewards you will received in heaven? Love your enemies.The teaching of God makes me think twice.I don't want to be like before that I always revenge to a person whom betrayed me because I always received bad karma .and I don't feel the presence of God everytime i did that That's why I returned my faith to God,.and staying away from him only is my option honestly after he repeated it again. I'VE LOST My trust on him totally.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
a pleasant day to you fearlessgara,
there are really times that we can't explain why such things happens. same thing with people whom we met. there are times, we just met them for a reason, though sometimes, we met some of them just for acquaintance. so in this regard, perhaps, we should be careful enough in divulging our secrets. it is like, not to tell them our top most secrets if we really do not know them that much.
@fearlessgara (1113)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Hi thanks for your opinion airasheila, and yes sometimes we cannot explain everything you make me remind me about the scripture that sometimes it's only God whom knows the reason and we must trust Him. also you reminds me about sayings I often read in FB that Some people came to your life as "blessings" and some as a "Lesson".I also feel that if he didn't gain something on me He wouldn't make friend of me.Although that is only on mind but i keep not thinking of that As I trust on him. Now all my trust on him are totally diminish.
@fearlessgara (1113)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
what do am i aware when we are talking he said many bad things about that person whom I HATE and so I think if he is in front of her and laughing, then he might said to against me to her.AS same thing as he is doing towards me.
@deazil (4730)
• United States
10 Jan 13
You should be very careful with this person. Especially if they can do you harm. God said to love your enemies, but doesn't God also want you to love yourself? And not to put yourself in danger? And you must protect your daughter first. I believe this is God's way. I believe you can please God by keeping yourself and your daughter safe from harm. You are not obliged to help someone if they may harm you in any way. And you can pray for this person. I think that kind of traitor needs prayers more than anything else. In this way you can help them. Take care.
