We can not please everyone ..

@Angelpink (4034)
Philippines
January 10, 2013 1:48am CST
Friends tell me what have i done why reputation goes down again ? It was yesterday i posted i wanted and wished it to go up but sad it goes down even today. Hu hu i asked myself what have i done ? As far as i can remember i responded kindly to the comments and i joined discussion with outmost care that i can not hurt anyone or offend or even violate some rules, but still i was given a negative rating , that is very okay ! It just tells us that we can not please everyone , and we are having freedom of expression , one opinion or idea may not be favorable to the other. Whatever you're giving me friends am respecting it , this is Mylotting all about also , respecting ones view and individuality.
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@deazil (4730)
• United States
10 Jan 13
Angelpink, don't worry so much. You'll be okay. I've given you + ratings before and I'm sure others have as well. And you'll get more in the future. mylot is a reflection of life. Sometimes good, sometimes not so good. If you do your best, that's all you can do. Dry your tears and bounce back with the rest of us. Enjoy your time here. Don't let the negatives upset you. There's a hug to make you feel better.
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Some Mylotters are not only good in writing and discussing topics or issues but also so good in lifting a weak spirit and a good influenced in having a positive outlook in life. I realized Mylot is all about lending and grasping a hand also. So happy for your positive rating , good karma returns to you ! Cheers friend !
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@deazil (4730)
• United States
10 Jan 13
Just tryin' ta help!
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@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
10 Jan 13
Very nice miss deazil..you are such an . Yes, you really cheer up people here... Very nice.
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@AkamaruKei (5219)
• Malaysia
10 Jan 13
Relax angelpink. I know it is look great when we get 10 star. I still on the way to get 10 star. I see my percentage 94 now. Do not thinking to much about your star. Just do your activity here you will not realize you will get 10 star.
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Yes , yes i guess that is the best thing to do than feeling bad why i am rated as such .It's true , better i will continue writing , not paying so much attention to this and that , soon i will wake up one day i am having that blue color.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
True , united we will stand and divided will fall ! Yes together will climb the stairs of the highest color and i am full of hopes one day we will reach there . Hand in hand, all will be easy ,light and enjoyable :)
• Malaysia
11 Jan 13
Dont worry i will support you. Together we try to get maximum star. :)
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Hi there Angelpink, With regard to your concern, I guess, try not to bother much on that. As long as it does not affect your earnings. Perhaps focus more on how to increase up your online earnings rather than focusing on your reputation ratings. Though it can help you up but does not goes parallel with the amount of earning you might received at the end of the day. Thus, it is better to do your focus on much productive things.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Aira , am just bit bothered for in my mind i have discussed things which didn't violate rules nor said anything that can harm ones emotion. I am even so careful in responding and commenting but as i said we don't have control over others. Whatever is their opinion or perceptions regarding our works , we don't have a control over it but instead accept and understand it. Anyways this is not the end , this might be a call that i need to improve more in Mylot activities. Great Evening !
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Lamb , good to know that thing ! Omg ! So it does affect earnings ! It is not really the color of the star that changes but just the score but it is clear it lowers down to 1 point but it is okay , this thing won't stop me from doing my best to increase my score and color. Glad a professor in Mylot makes things clear for me and to all of us.
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• Philippines
10 Jan 13
We can never please all. I myself has stopped worrying about pleasing everyone. What matters with me is that I have to be me at all times. As long as I know I am doing right things the right way, I will always be peaceful. So, stop worrying now Angelpink. It is just that people do not use similar measuring sticks.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Yes , we can please maybe some but not all. This is just bit my dark side , so conscious about reputation and accolade. I always wish to be in my best and to look best and to give the best but i am opening my doors for those not favorable to me , that is there decision which is very respected, no hurt feelings at all. Glad to hear from you and learning from your stand and firmness. Have a cool evening !
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10 Jan 13
Of course not.You know, people usually rate something down not because it's wrong or immoral, or incorrect, but because they don't like it.It is impossible to please everyone.Look at Youtube videos,some great videos have dozens of dislikes under them or worse - nasty comments.So, don't worry, be yourself, enjoy your time.:)
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Maybe , maybe Ladysilver , some rated us according to their mood and not basing in the content of your discussion or comments. Sometimes also , they rated you for that because of some reasons which only them would understand and loved. It is okay silver , what you said is the reality and have to live with it . We'll continue being active here , being responsible Mylotter and being a support for one another.
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@fzxxcy (20)
• China
10 Jan 13
Hi Angel Well understand,since I had met the same condition before. It's very common that we have dinfferent opinion or idea in different things.Since the expression is freedom,it's our right to express the personal thoughts. If someone don't like our expression,they can point out,but that don't mean who is right or wrong,because we are different. Just be yourself,we needn't to please someone that unrelated and don't like us.We should take care of the people we loved,that's more important.
@fzxxcy (20)
• China
10 Jan 13
Really? You mean you have seen this avatar before?
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@fzxxcy (20)
• China
10 Jan 13
Hi Angel, Also I have another opinion,sometime the most unaccept idea is the key point to solve the problem. You can't control others' minds,but you can decide your own,be happy and let it go...
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@fzxxcy (20)
• China
10 Jan 13
actually same condition,but in the different website. I am the freshman here.Glad to meet you!
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@namiya (1718)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Cheer up angel. Your are right it is impossible to satisfy everyone hence, just enjoy what you're doing here and you will regain your old reputation in time.
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@namiya (1718)
• Philippines
12 Jan 13
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
I am optimistic for that! True, Namiya .. best thing to do now is to enjoy interacting and sharing to our fellow Mylotters here. Let's all be productive here instead of being destructive to our fellows.
• India
10 Jan 13
Yes dear We cant please each and every person here, don't worry about this; i never bother on this issue too, relax my friend.
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• India
10 Jan 13
I think there is no way to know if some one gave me + ve or -ve, I always give +ve, if I respond or comment.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Yes though we can't please everyone , this won't stop us from showing our kindness to them. Like Prof so kind to fellow Mylotters. I remember that Golden rule , " Do things which you wanted to be done to yourself. They give me negative . i'll give them positive. Cheers !
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
True prof , it's all in their hands !
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
We could never really please everyone no matter how much kindness you show them. What is important is that you know in your heart that you have not intentionally hurt any one. Cheer up!
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Exactly ! My intentions are pure and honest , no hypocrisy ! Yes thanks for reminding me that and i believed also that it is but human nature to have a different preferences.
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@prashu228 (37524)
• India
10 Jan 13
Hi angelpink Hey friend don't worry about your reputation if some one is doing it intentionally marking everything you respond as negative then Admins over here will take care of that as it is mentioned in Faq (myLot has taken precautions to significantly minimize the impact of rogue users harming your myLot reputation by repeatedly rating you negatively. In fact, this kind of behavior will only harm the user who does the inappropriate negative rating. To be clear, it is impossible for one rogue user to significantly damage the myLot reputation of another user). So be happy and keep working as you are doing till now .all the best i hope your issue will be solved soon.
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
Prashu , that is what i am thinking before . The admin. will reevaluate the negative ratings of the user but Lamb gave some inputs regarding this , so our doubts and misconceptions are corrected.
• Bangladesh
10 Jan 13
As we have the freedom to express our opinions, so like we have the right to be behaved nicely by others. If there needs any disagreement with others opinion then we must do it being nicely and with due etiqutte. Stay well
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
Yes its okay to oppose and express your views as long as it is done with kindness , but we don't have a hold over the others behavior and personality. Whatever they show or share , it must be respected .Let us not forget individual differences.
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
10 Jan 13
Hmmm where can i find that reputation i dont know if i am increasing or decreasing.... Anyway, i always give you +. Everytime we cross our paths.. And. Yes, yiu can not please everybody. Relax and for sure tomorrow it will increase again i am sure of that. . You are a very positive user so i am sure you will get what you deserve. Hey where is that rating thingy.
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@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
10 Jan 13
Ohh thanks. Mr. Grinch... And if i reached 100/100 what will happen?
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@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
11 Jan 13
then.. blue star... "10" means.. more earning and all my comments, responses and discussions are going to be considered the "best". what is with the blue 10 star.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
Mavic go for that blue star ! One day i believed you can have that too ! Just keep on being active here , and observe strictly rules and regulations. Glad for that inspiring words you left for me .
• China
10 Jan 13
I totally agree with you, everyone has a temper, we can not make everyone around us happy and pleased. Maybe we can try to do that, but if we can't, we don't need to feel guilty about it.
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
You got a point there Echo ! We all have our own bases and standard , one might not qualify or fit in to our standard, that is but alright , we need to consider and accept things .
10 Jan 13
Don't be upset, it's still the same whether they like you or not the important thing is you express yourself freely just enjoy and have fun, don't always think of the others, sometimes they don't help just keep on commenting etc., take care! happy lotting! enjoy!
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
That is very true , we are not here in Mylot to impress people but to express what is within and to earn a little also. Yes , let us continue our fight here , just enjoying every bit of the day ,meeting good brilliant people and learning worthy things and issues.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
I agree with you, friend. We can't please everyone in here or even in our surrounding or neighbor, whatever we can do to do good to others. There is still a negative comments on us or those people that we can help will still not contented on what good to do for them. Well, that is life and we need to continue the good things that we started. Life is full of many wonderful and terrible and this might be our basis to understand the opinion of others.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
Life's one reality , we can never get all the yeses of the spectators , always there is a few no's . The best thing then is to evaluate why there is a no , do something then but never stagnate yourself in resolving this no but you got to move on.., still a long way to go. Let us celebrate life , and one way is to be happily active heard , ignore negative because soon they will become positive. God bless friend.
@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
11 Jan 13
I never minded that and you are right: you cannot please everyone. I have a 10, but if it goes down I will accept it. People around here (and elsewhere) know that I´m true to myself. I never even check about negative ratings. I just post, reply, discuss, have fun. That´s what mylot is for me.
@marguicha (223795)
• Chile
12 Jan 13
Thanks, Angelpink. You too. Mylot, for me, is about having great days all week
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
12 Jan 13
I come to realized whether we are having a score of 10 or 7 , it is never a guarantee that it would already be a permanent score , it will really goes up or down depending on how an individual took your discussion , we can't make them love or favors our discussion always and that is very much understood. Have a great Saturday friend !
@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
11 Jan 13
We cannot please everybody. I remember what the great American President, Mr Abraham Lincoln once said, " We can always fool all the people some of the time. We can always fool some of the people all the time. But we cannot always fool all the people all the time." Likewise, we cannot please even some of the people all the time. However, we can please some of the people some of the time.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
That is so because each and everyone is a unique individual ! We work in our own pace and phase . We have different limitations and assets . We vary in emotions and in intelligence. Human being are rational being that is why so impossible to please everyone.!
@allknowing (137781)
• India
10 Jan 13
As you know it has all to do with users rating you. It is not just plus or minus it is also not rating at all. Many do not rate and this has an effect on your reputation. The more you participate the more chances are that your reputation will go down IF THEY DO NOT RATE YOU. Since you say you have done everything correctly then there is no chance that any one has rated you negative but there is every chance that they have not rated you. Take it in your lot and myLot happily!
@allknowing (137781)
• India
10 Jan 13
'Not rating', not having any value needs further clarification.I will get back on this later. Also inappropriate ratings will adversely affect the one who rates thus "· The DRS algorithm is very complex and will detect many forms of inappropriate ratings. If a user is trying to game the system, this abuse will only hurt the user. The integrity of the DRS is the top priority of the DRS team at myLot. In addition to the many automatic safeguards that are already in place, we are closely monitoring DRS activity to identify and prevent inappropriate ratings."
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
The professors of Mylot have spoken ! Glad for these people who made things clearer to me and to all Mylot user. So it is clearer now , those people who are not rating us have no impact to our decreasing reputation. So it would be the positive and negative rating which gives impact to our reputation. It pays to listen to our experts.
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Allknowing , glad for the effort you shared in our discussion here , you got your interpretation and so as the others. This is what makes Mylot beautiful , there is a give and take system . You give a little and you take a little ! Yes , let us enjoying Mylotting !
@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
10 Jan 13
Hi Angel! Why? It has no effect on your earning I think. Just be yourself. There's no point trying to please everybody. Have a nice day!
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Nurse , that is also what is in my mind , wished they didn't , but we are not them , we can't please them and this is how they feel about our discussion. This is Mylot is Mylot all about free to express for whatever you have in mind so long as it don't break rules.
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@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Hi Aries ! Yes it got no effect on earnings but it got effect in our self esteem and that self esteem can't be paid by any earnings . It is a different thing. it is the one that motivates us to move our hands. It vanishes the pain and tiredness we experienced while writing and discussing. Yes , no point in winning others approval and praise. Cheers !
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@ARIES1973 (11426)
• Legaspi, Philippines
10 Jan 13
Thank you lamb for the information. I think I need to revisit FAQ again.
• China
11 Jan 13
Respect ones' view and individuality... I couldn't agree more..
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
11 Jan 13
That is what we should be doing here , there and everywhere ! In and out of Mylot one should know how to respect one's view and opinion.