I Am In Shock Over My Poor Treatment At The Doctor's

He sounds like a right Jekyl and Hyde character, I was really hoping to hear of a positive outcome from your visit today, sounds like it was a bad dream, the only thing different was that you were living the bad dream. I know healthcare can variate soooo much. When I lived in Essex the care I got was appalling both from the doctors and from the psychiatrists, in fact if I had of been stronger I could have taken legal action, but I wasn't in any fit state and they knew it. When I moved to Kent, I got the exact opposite, like polar extremes, they couldn't do more for me and my doctor is wonderful. And even found the right antidepressant for me and gave me the support I needed, far superior to Essex, and that's just ONE county away! Yet so different in their approach. I am so sorry this happened to you today my friend, you deserve so much better.

sounds like HMO hell... Do you have the option to select another doctor within the system? And is there a complaint process?

I don't know what's going on with dr's today. I have a few things wrong with me and after a lot of tests none of them can even tell me what's wrong with me. I'm beginning to hate dr's. Maybe you could get a referral from one of your friends for a new dr. Other than that I guess you have to grin and bear it. I'm so sorry your going through this. I will pray for you.

A doctor who doesn't listen to the patient is useless. Is there no way you could see the doctor you had in Blackpool?

Is it possible to switch to another doctor who is a bit farther away but gets good reviews/recommendations? I know how hard it can be to find a good doctor. Of course, I'm in the U.S.; I would think that there would be more good doctors in the U.K. At least, that would be my hope, since I've considered relocating there--and it is still somewhat on the table, but it may be a bit farther down the road than I'd been thinking. I don't know what we are doing really... At any rate, I'm one to shop around for a doctor. I'll go to one once or twice; if I don't like him or her, I'll continue on down the road until I find one with whom I can work.

Honestly, I think you should head over to http://bad-service.livejournal.com/ and post the whole saga there. It's a worldwide community and there are plenty of folks from the UK who can give you suggestions on where to go to report this, because it absolutely needs to be reported. You have more than enough on your plate with the vaginismus and all of the other things that are going wrong. You don't need to deal with uppity health care providers who think that their degree automatically trumps your right to make informed choices about the care you receive for your health problems. You posted about why you weren't taking the mini pill, didn't you? I'm sorry... my memory is crap these days and I honestly don't remember. But anyway, if he thinks that the mini pill is such a wonderful thing, then maybe he should be taking it. Seriously, it's your body and the decisions about what goes into it are yours to make. Hell, the decisions about what comes out of it should be yours to make, too... up to and including unnecessary, troublesome organs if and when it comes down to it. So if Doctor Know-It-All wants to give you a rash of crap about not popping your pills like a good little sheep, you just look him in the eye and tell him that you did try, but you had a bad reaction to it and discontinued use because of that. And if they tell you that you can't have a bad reaction after taking one or two pills, they're completely full of it. My pharmacy ran out of my normal pill and substituted a different generic one month. I took one pill and went off the deep end within two hours of taking it. Bugf*ck nuts, physically attacking my husband, the whole nine yards. It was awful. And the worst part is that the active ingredients in it are supposed to be identical to the one I normally take. And oh my god, I completely understand how utterly frustrating it is to have something wrong with you but none of the stupid tests show anything wrong. I started a discussion about my own crap experience with an orthopedic specialist about nine months ago ( http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2654251.aspx ) and since then I've had a couple series of x-rays, a CT of my pelvis, an MRI of my left hip, and a nerve conduction study and EMG. The x-rays and the CT show that the left side of my pelvis is displaced, but they will not say that the displacement is what's causing the pain because everything else has come back normal. Thankfully the pain center I finally got referred to isn't treating me like it's all in my head, but I could have throttled that jerk of an orthopedic specialist. *hugs* I hope that you get approved to go to a different practice. Doctors should be there to help you, not give you crap about things that are completely out of your control. Hopefully the new practice will have doctors who are a lot more understanding of your medical conditions, and are willing to work with you to get the resolution you want.

I guess doctors everywhere are the same. I had excessive bleeding and suffered for around 5 years. Tried every kind of medicine and different kinds of doctors starting with English medicine, going on to Ayurveda and then homeopathy. Nothing worked and finally everyone I went to suggest hysterectomy. I wasn't even 30 at the time and my husband (who is a pharmacologist) dissuaded me from getting one. An acquaintance suggested a doctor that she went to and the doctor asked me to taken the tablets that postpone bleeding. Unlike the 2-3 days that we usually take it for, I had to take it for a whole month and you won't believe this!!! My bleeding got back into control....much better than earlier and I had my periods on time...unlike earlier when it was irregular.

Heads up Janey, in the US there are lawsuits being filed about the Mirena Coil. Research that and consider yourself armed. You are old enough and have enough troubles they should be considering a hysterectomy. I was a bit younger when I had one, and the doctor told me, over my protests that he WOULDremove my ovaries as well to prevent ovarian cancer. We disagreed and he finally said if they were healthy I could keep them. Turns out that when they got inside I had severe endometriosis, and the ovaries had to go as well.They could not detect it before the surgery. My surgery was due to fibroids. I took estrogen replacement for about two years and quit it. Never been sorry. You need to be where you can get good care. I did not see this doctor before I was referred and only saw him a couple of times after, but my care was good and I appreciate that fact.

first mistake here is the word "he". i've noticed by and large a lot of male doctors could give a lesser about women's complaints.you wonder why they even go into that branch of medical. i had 5 male doctors ignore a problem i was having,and finally a 6th-a female doctor-fixed it.

Are you saying that you didn't know they intended to fit the soil during that surgery? If so, that's very serious. Have you considered alternative medicine? A really good herbalist might be able to assist with the bleeding, without the contraceptives or exploratory surgery. I've never attended one personally, but I'm sure a good one would be able to give you at least an idea of whether they could help in an initial chat. If you could reduce the bleeding I'm sure you'd feel better, both physically and in yourself, and it would not prevent you from continuing your pressure on the conventional medical system for a hysterectomy if that's what you want to do.

Is there someone you can report that to. You defintely deserve better as a patient and I'd look into that if I were you.