If this my purpose in life, I might as well enjoy while I live.
By meumeu25
@meumeu25 (917)
United Arab Emirates
January 10, 2013 8:26am CST
I'm feeling tired of thinking about my responsibilities. I have things I want to do for myself but I have to postpone them for my loved ones sake. I can't seem to get what I really want, I'll just give the chance to my brother instead. I always wanted to go back to college but I think it's not for me anymore. My brother will be going to the university this year and I have another responsibilty added to the list, that's to provide for his tuition fee and allowance, technically it's not all on me, my sis is helping too. So I'll just stop thinking what I want, and just try to enjoy my life in a different way, I've been working and working with so little fun. Now, I'll change my ways. This is my new years resolution. I'll do my responsibilities and have fun at the same time and take things not so seriously. I'll just save money for myself as much as I can and think of going back to college later or not. I'm already starting to feel better, doing things this way. Unlike before I feel like I have burdens on my shoulder.
6 responses
@vernaC (1491)
• Romania
10 Jan 13
I was in your shoes long time ago. I worked hard and give almost everything to my family to help them. Specially to my siblings who were still studying back then. But when they started giving problems and stopped attending schools, I also stopped helping them. I mean I got tired of paying up for their tuitions and giving allowance. What I did was I start going to places with my friends, travelling to other provinces and some tourist spots, going to beaches and do other stuffs. I started loving myslef more and it's good because I was able to help my family without ranting that nothing was left for me. I suggest you do the same..just love yourself even more but don't forget to help your family also.
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@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
10 Jan 13
Hi,
Yes, thank you 
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That's what I am trying to do now. I used to get very stress everytime I hear another expencies we have to provide but I am being easy on myself now. I am gonna give what I can give but I'll also be good to myself. No, I don't think I can rant at my parents, they've done their best to raise me and I can't pay for that. But my siblings? I can't promise if I can't if they'll just waste my hardworks, I mean it's not easy to give up what I want for them to get theirs and then they will just end up wasting their chances. That will be a slap on the face. My father is a desciplinarian, he told my brother this is his only chance, if he mess up or chose to get married like my other brother did, he will be on his own. Providing for his wife and children. Even though I doubt that my father will be able to do his threats, my youngest brother seem to get the message.
Have a nice week end
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That's what I am trying to do now. I used to get very stress everytime I hear another expencies we have to provide but I am being easy on myself now. I am gonna give what I can give but I'll also be good to myself. No, I don't think I can rant at my parents, they've done their best to raise me and I can't pay for that. But my siblings? I can't promise if I can't if they'll just waste my hardworks, I mean it's not easy to give up what I want for them to get theirs and then they will just end up wasting their chances. That will be a slap on the face. My father is a desciplinarian, he told my brother this is his only chance, if he mess up or chose to get married like my other brother did, he will be on his own. Providing for his wife and children. Even though I doubt that my father will be able to do his threats, my youngest brother seem to get the message.
Have a nice week end 
@junerainemay (346)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
I feel you. I'm a breadwinner myself. After I graduated in college and landed myself a job, my family suddenly just handed few responsibilities for me. Since I wokred away from home, my family gave me few months to start on my own. Find myself a place to live in and get comfortable in my new place. At the time, I declared it 'Independence Day' for me. I get a hold of my time. No curfews to follow and no one to answer to if I feel the need to travel somewhere else with friends. However my so called independence was cut short. Responsibilities were suddenly thrown my way. I started to pay bills (water, electricity, telephone...etc). Thank God, I'm an only child so I have no one to pay tuition fee for. But the downside about being an only child is that you have no one to share financial responsibilites with. My mother no longer works and has diabetes which complicates her kidney so she stays at home but we have to maintain medication and monthly laboratory exams and check-ups. I finally decided to go back home so I can take care of mom personally. I was able to find a job which pay pretty much above average but my expenses is really catching up with my earnings. I don't really get to enjoy much from my salary because I have to segregate it the moment I receive it. But life goes on as the say. Sometimes when I'm on the brink of crying I still think about the good things in life. At least I have a job and I'm able to eat three times a day. My mom doesn't hinder me from traveling so I still get to travel once in a while with my friends if I get some extra cash.
I believe that what matters is how you live life no matter how difficult your situation may seem. I'm sure there are others out there who are going through more difficult issues than us and are struggling to survive. I'm a Catholic so I just keep on talking to God to give me the strength that I need to go on and to always be there when I feel down. as they say life goes on! :D There's always light at the end of the tunnel. I'm sure we'll have that light someday at the right time and right place. Let's just be patient. :) Happy myLotting!
@junerainemay (346)
• Philippines
10 Jan 13
Cheers to us! Hahaha! Positive vibes attracts positive vibes so let's face every challenges with a smile. :) Every time I feel like crying, I just tell myself I'm to old to be a cry baby. It helps sometimes. Hahaha!
@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
10 Jan 13
Hi,
I'm exactly in your situation. At first I was also excited being by myself. No father and brothers to keep their eyes on me and watch my every move. Like you said it was like independence day. But then the responsibilities started pouring in and started to be stressing. I neither enjoy much of my salary but atleast I can still save a little. There are times that I also cried because I felt so tired and it's like the responsibilities were never ending. Then I stop crying and laugh at myself for being a cry baby 
. I also pray and talk to God. I agree with all you said and I know there are people out there who don't even have a food to eat right now. There are more to be thankful for than to complain for. Exactly, life goes on and never give up. :)
Happy mylotting to you too.
I'm exactly in your situation. At first I was also excited being by myself. No father and brothers to keep their eyes on me and watch my every move. Like you said it was like independence day. But then the responsibilities started pouring in and started to be stressing. I neither enjoy much of my salary but atleast I can still save a little. There are times that I also cried because I felt so tired and it's like the responsibilities were never ending. Then I stop crying and laugh at myself for being a cry baby . I also pray and talk to God. I agree with all you said and I know there are people out there who don't even have a food to eat right now. There are more to be thankful for than to complain for. Exactly, life goes on and never give up. :)
Happy mylotting to you too.
@tiffnkeat (1673)
• Singapore
10 Jan 13
Life is short. We need to enjoy while we live, and work... and yet live responsibly because we will need to account to God when we die. It is good you have decided to adopt a positive attitude towards your situation. With time, everything will look good (and if it is not hurtful to others) when you look back. Enjoy and seize the day.
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@ZoeJoy (1392)
• United States
10 Jan 13
Why is it that you have to provide for your brother's tuition and allowance? Isn't that your parents' financial responsibility?
Will your brother help you get through college, after he has finished college and has a job? That would only be fair. I hope that your brother will help you as well.
Sounds like you are taking on more burdens than what is fair.
It sounds like you really want to go to college. Is there anyway that you can take night courses or online courses?
Perhaps you are taking on too many responsibilities. I never heard of sisters supporting their brother through college before. I always thought that the college student him/her self supported themselves, or the parents helped pay for the college tuition.
Is there anyway that your brother can support you and your sister, in appreciation for the support you are providing for him? That would only be fair.
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@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
10 Jan 13
Hi ,
My parents are still paying our debts in the bank, it was for my father's business, so I and my sis decided to shoulder the tuition fee and allowance for now until my parents finishes paying up. It's gonna take 2 years or more. It is very common in my country to support each other in the family, even if it's not, I will still be doing the same. My brother is only 16 years old, he has to finish his studies and get a job for him to be able to help us. I will be happy if he takes his studies seriously, graduate and get a good job. He will probably help us but if not then atleast we are sure he will have a good future. But he might. We are not expecting him to pay us, we are just doing it for his own good. I'll just save some money for me for now, maybe I'll invest it to something profitable when it's enough. I am not in my country right now and I can't afford the tuition fee here, it's way too expensive compared in my country.
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My parents are still paying our debts in the bank, it was for my father's business, so I and my sis decided to shoulder the tuition fee and allowance for now until my parents finishes paying up. It's gonna take 2 years or more. It is very common in my country to support each other in the family, even if it's not, I will still be doing the same. My brother is only 16 years old, he has to finish his studies and get a job for him to be able to help us. I will be happy if he takes his studies seriously, graduate and get a good job. He will probably help us but if not then atleast we are sure he will have a good future. But he might. We are not expecting him to pay us, we are just doing it for his own good. I'll just save some money for me for now, maybe I'll invest it to something profitable when it's enough. I am not in my country right now and I can't afford the tuition fee here, it's way too expensive compared in my country.
@sunshinesophie (794)
• China
10 Jan 13
I can understand how you feel now.Becuase I am also the oldest children in my family and I should send some money to maintain my family each month since my father passed away years ago.I feel pity that you could not achieve your goal in order to support your brother's studies.But don't be frustrated because it is never too old to learn.Now even the one who is over 60 years old also can still attend school,let alone us.We are young anyway.I sincerely hope you can realize your college dream one day.All you strive for is for a better life.I am rooting for you!
Have a nice day.
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@meumeu25 (917)
• United Arab Emirates
10 Jan 13
Hi ,
Thank you very much :).
I'm sorry to hear about your father.
I am not the eldest but I am also helping my family to get a better life. It just happened that my sis and I have a better income compared to my brothers and parents. But if my parents finishes paying their debt we will be able to breath and pursue our own goal. For now, we are shouldering the other expencies, we don't want our parents to get stress and get sick if they won't be able to pay their monthly payment because it's quite a big amount. It's not easy though, especially when the expencies pile up, it's very stressful.
God bless you.
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Thank you very much :).
I'm sorry to hear about your father.
I am not the eldest but I am also helping my family to get a better life. It just happened that my sis and I have a better income compared to my brothers and parents. But if my parents finishes paying their debt we will be able to breath and pursue our own goal. For now, we are shouldering the other expencies, we don't want our parents to get stress and get sick if they won't be able to pay their monthly payment because it's quite a big amount. It's not easy though, especially when the expencies pile up, it's very stressful.
God bless you.
