Too busy to pick up the kids?

Well that certainly speaks volumes of his fathering skills, that he'd rather be at a casino than be with his children. Disgusting! Sorry but he would be the first one to jump and down and threaten legal action if you denied him seeing his children and yet that's how he values them. And another think if you are working crazy hours and working hard why on earth would you want to spend your hard earnt money in a casino? So he's on a winning streak, ha! I wonder how many times he's forgot to mention the amount of money he's lost. Have to say this he sounds like a right bozo and some.

Wow that is just wrong. Any one could understand about having to work extra hours especailly with a new company coming in. But to spend 8 hrs at a casino instead of with his kids is just so wrong. I feel bad for the kids. Its a shame he put his gambling first.

I hope he was still on that winning streak when he left.

Interesting. Winning streak, eh? Isn't that nice?!

Dear Dawny...he is getting back at you...he wants to annoy you...dont take the bait...or he is simply too lazy...

It sounds like somebody had too much fun at the casino! Hm.... Winning streak or not, he should have made the children a priority since he already knows that he's working crazy hours. Anyway, maybe he's still adjusting to his post-divorce life. I hope he gets the priorities straight soon.

Tony is good with the kids? Ok! Tony's gain is dad's lost. No need to bad mouth him, his actions are doing that fine. The sad part is once he finally has time for them, the kids won't have time for him.

When my kids were younger, this sort of thing was always a sore spot with me. As a single mom, I found a job and a job that I initially hated...why? because I needed to support my kids and the hours ...as lousy as they were...worked into our "situation" without my having to hire a stranger to watch our children. I worked 2nd shift on the weekends and he took the girls on the weekends...that was our agreement. I also worked one night during the week in which our then, 16 yr old watched them. The issue was...hunting would come up or a party would come up or some other issue and he'd call me last minute and Id have to find a sitter and still get to work on time. When it is their visit time and something comes up whether it be legit or not...shouldn't it be on them to find the sitter or alternate plan? And to make it worse..I had to pay the sitter at these times even though he rarely paid child support!! Now you are getting me wired and my kids are all grown. I was over this...or thought I was. grrrr!!

Oh brother! Sounds like R is a not a good liar! He should of said he worked late instead of saying he had a winning streak at the casino! Its nice to be honest but in this case no! What a doushbag! Lets hope R doesn't do that again and gets hooked on gambling!

What exactly is the point at all in lying to the other parent. I would think that when it came to matters of the children, they should always come first, especially when it comes to spending time with them. He is not the custodial parent of your children and I'm sure that they crave spending time with their dad, so I can't help but wonder why he would be this irresponsible to make a promise to them and then not do what he told them that he was going to do.

Lame..

Hmmmm, what time was he at the casino? Were they hours you would have wanted the kids up? I mean it could have been eight hours after 11pm? I understand how jobs can get crazy and people can take advantage of you, especially when you have a better work ethic than what they have or ever considered having. You know all those managers and ex. that get their peons to do the work while they're our drinking on the job..so maybe he is putting in some crazy hours. Well, maybe he can come get the kids on the following day. I wouldn't let him get away so easily without taking the kids, especially if he's a good parent and the kids actually want to spend time with him.

Hi friend, Parents must take a lot of care about their kids and allocate time to them, as you mentioned he is spending 8 hours in the casino for entertainment, why don't he spend at least one hour for his kids? Hope he will come soon to pick up the kids.

That's sad..another man went drown to gambling, good for you, you were able to got out from this kind of person. A lot of neighbors in my hometown who were in the same but mostly worse conditions. Like how I describe in my previous topics about them, seems like so down in almost everything of their life, from the children to their own needs.

Do the kids know how busy he is and how he cannot come get them but can go to the casinos? Has he had a gambling problem in the past? It sure sounds as if he is taking a gamble by letting you know how he is spending his off time.

WEll its work gambling but he should have picked up the kids any how no matter how tired he was and lololol told on himself dumb thing to do

I'm sorry - but is he such an idiot that he had to tell you the truth? Doesn't he see how it sounds? Putting gambling before picking up his children? Thank G*d he is out of your life

Well, what ca I say? I guess he needed a break after working for some hours at the office for a week. Too bad he had to miss being with the kids last weekend. How did your kids react to that?

I would be freaking upset over that. Although maybe he felt like it was a well needed treat after working so much? So I guess that foiled your plans. Maybe he needs to get himself a girlfriend instead of gambling. Glad he won though.

Yep, he blew it - big time, as a father. Next time, I would find out when he is going to the casino, then I would pick up his mother, load the kids in the car and then, surprise him by meeting him at the casino. Don't let him know you are coming with his mother and his kids. And then when you meet him there, just say, in a BIG LOUD voice, 'isn't it wonderful that you all can have some quality family time together - even here at the casino.' And then say, 'isn't it wonderful that you are going to take the kids out to dinner, they are hungry. And I told them that dad was going to treat them. And I also know that you are a caring son, so I know that you are willing to treat your mom as well. How wonderful that all of you are going to have dinner together in a nice restaurant. Have a great time.' Then say goodbye to your kids, thank your ex mother-in-law for coming, say good-bye to your ex. And walk away. If that doesn't work, then I would drive the kids over to his mother's house. And he can pick up the kids at his mother's house.