It's the school, not the mornings...

If you enjoy something, have enthusiasm then you will make the effort to get up even if you hate mornings, I can empathize with her, I hate mornings, but if it's something I like then it's no sacrifice, it's when you dread having to go somewhere that getting up is too much of an effort and you'd rather turn over and go back to sleep again. Do you know what aspect of school she doesn't like?

I always hated going to school, so I know how she feels. Although, it sounds like her school situation isn't as bad as mine was. If I ever have children--and I do hope to one of these days--I will home school them. I believe that they will have far more opportunities that way. That is true whether we are in the States or elsewhere.

yup it is. bad when they have problems at school when school is really to be a place to learn and to me that was exciting!

Tells ya something about that school if she'd rather go to the orthodontist...

This concerns me. When I was in high School I hated it, in the whole four years I had three teachers who were worth spending time with. The rest of my classes were like being baby sat, what a bore. But College was so much better, I love it. Now I don'tnow if this could be Dearra's problem, there are so many things that are hyper when you are a teen. And your family life has got to have been full of emotional ups and downs for all the kids, especially Dearra. Teen age girls have a special relationship with their Fathers. I'm sure you have thought of all these things, but please pay close attention to her needs, teen age girls can get into to so much trouble, serious trouble that can effect their whole lives. Blessings and prayers for you all.

Same here! Specially this week when the kids spent their holidays staying up late and waking up late. It's so hard to wake them up in the mornings. They'd be so grouchy. But I do remember days last week when they'd wake up really early on Saturdays so they could get to their xBox!

I can relate. I would have stomach pains from September til about Halloween every school day. By October I had the routine.

Of course, I remember struggling to get up for school, but in the summer when the family was planning to leave early for a trip, I was up and ready to go!

I never liked school either. I did like the university though so it wasn´t that I did not like learning. Somtimes the teachers do not motivate the students, sometimes there are bullies at school.

Dawny, cary and naomi...do they like going to the school? Are they in better spirits on school days? Does Dearra have too much to study than she can cope with... was she always like this or is it her present stage...or is she bothered by some other student...or unhappy with the teacher...or unable to follow any lessons and is afraid to tell you for whatever reasons? Your discussions remind me of what I used to face...and I have just listed some of the reasons that I felt held me back in those days.

I also have a ten year old son who can be grouchy during mornings. And it really spoils my day whenever I wake him up and then he would give me an attitude. So to free myself from morning stress, I let my husband "do the honor" of waking him up. But of course, that is entirely different if it was on a weekend. He'd be up early and would be by the cages of his pigeons to feed them.

Well, get up and go to school or to work, or to another any commitment, I believe it is not comfortable for anyone. However, I do not think your daughter was excited about going to the dentist. The discourse of his anxiety about going to school, I ask: At school all right for her, or is there a problem? Strange that a person wakes up well to go to the dentist, and then other days make it hard to wake up to go to school. Having said that even when I had to get up early to go to school, I did not ever have gladly done!

When you and I went to school, we didn't have the stress, bullying and peer pressure that kids have these days. It doesn't surprise me that's it's about the school. Not even I liked school much at her age but didn't have anxiety. I have anxiety now though and it's been with me for about five years. Some days it affects me more than others so I understand how she may feel. V started having anxiety in high school but didn't recognize it at first. When she gets it really bad, a really bad knot forms in the base on the back of her neck. Scary sometimes because I've wondered if it was a tumor but it subsides when she is calm and cheery.

Most kids do that. My kids always get up in the morning lazily for school. Once they are at school meeting their friends, however, they laugh and play vigorously. Don't know about you but I used to be like that too as a kid :))

I know how it is. MY younger son is the same and he doesn't enjoy waking up for school....but he's up first thing on a holiday. I think for him, it's the present school he is at. He doesn't like to go there even if it's not a school day and it's only the teachers working. I have to tag him along since I work at the same place.

I was like that from K-4 through 3rd grade. Then I switched schools and all that anxiousness and sick to my stomach feelings went away. At least until I went to college. But by that time I had a better handle on it. I hope she can start to like school someday. I mean I never liked it. People always assume if you get A's you like school. Not so at all. Ugh.

my daughter was like that last year when she did the victory lap in highschool (she graduated in 2011 but went back for another year just to take some courses she needed for college (where she is now). she tends to get stressed about school very easily so she was happier on the days she could sleep in. last semester (Sept til Dec) she was taking Massage Therapy and is taking a general course and next fall she will enroll in early childhood ed so it will be much less stressful for her. she did go to counselling while she lived at home and was diagnosed with anxiety last semester at college (it is about 2 and a half hours away from us) so she learning how to handle her stress. what grade is your daughter in? i hope she learns how to handle the stresses of school because as we all know, life can be very stressful and the sooner she learns how to handle it, the better. ?

I've never been a morning person ever though I have been! Alot of it has been not of my chose,either! Grwoing up on a farm I had to get up early to help with chorse before school. Some jobs I had required me to get up early. Believe me I am not a morning person and never will be! I am extremely grouchy in the mornings and it takes like two hours to wake up! Thanks goodness I have a job that lets me come in late in the mornings!

I think that this is the way that it is with a lot of students. A lot of children really don't like school at all and it could be because they suffer from general anxiety, it could be that they are victims of bullying or it could just be that they really don't like school. However, when it comes to days when there is no school, these same children that don't seem to be a morning person at all are the first ones that get up in the morning and often the last ones to go to bed at night.

I understand everything about the school problems and the early mornings but "an 8 am orthodontist appointment" . If she was able to endure this than she is a courageous girl!